Somethings in Life Cannot be Fixed – They Can Only be Carried

Ali Family Autism Truths #5 - April 5, 2016Somethings in life cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.I am not the originator of that profound and immense thought. I wish I was. Surely I have felt it in my soul numerous times.Like so many people, I have numerous articles and links saved in different places – on Facebook, on my computer, copy and pasted into a note in my phone, or cut out of magazines (yes, I still read actual magazines and newspapers and – gasp – books from time to … [Read more...]

A No Filters Life

Ali Family Autism Truths #4 - April 4, 2016Two separate comments from autism families – one right here where I live and one across the world in India – kind of said it all today.From a dear friend, who has two sons with autism, both of whom have been D’s classmates over the years (pardon the language): Autism makes people bitter or burns off the bullshit.From a friend in India, whom I’ve gotten to know online over the years, who posted this about his son in reference to the notion tha … [Read more...]

The Spring Break that Wasn’t a Break

Ali Family Autism Truths #3, April 3, 2016In a home full of kids (including my own and my visiting nieces), D and I may be the only ones who are happy Spring Break is over, and he (and everyone else) is headed back to school.Because when is a break really a break? A break from what? Autism? No.Like many on the spectrum, D has never been a fan of long breaks from school. A week is about his max tolerance, and even that can get dicey. Other friends of mine have autistic children who … [Read more...]

My Truth Lies with Him

April 2, 2016 - Ali Family Truths #2The irony is not lost on me.Two years ago today, on World Autism Awareness Day, D was dealt such a blow to his health that my heart was irrevocably broken. We sat, waiting for him to wake from his anesthesia, waiting for the doctor to come out and tell us what he had found.The news was not good.Later that day, as I sat on our deck and watched D, now fully recovered from the anesthesia, playing in our backyard and swinging in the hammock in the … [Read more...]

Autism Truths and the Humanity of Us All

April 1, 2016 - Ali Family Truths #1D came up from the basement earlier today, hungry for dinner. Or rather, hangry – losing it in a way I know so well. Mood was restored after dinner was consumed, but that was when I noticed his right forefinger.Bloodied.Whoa, whoa, whoa – wait a minute, I said. Let’s take care of that. And so he willingly allowed me to wash and clean the finger and bandage it. But I still haven’t figured out how it happened. I’m just glad I caught it.D wasn’t ab … [Read more...]

Where We Mourn

A writer and peace seeker recently said to me (paraphrasing), "There should be a 48 hour period of mourning after any tragedy. No commenting, no posting opinions to social media, no rush to judgment or condemnation, no rush to defend or castigate. Forty-eight hours where we mourn and attend to our collective sadness."Seems I'm stepping away from his astute advice by the very act of writing this. But, at times like this -- when Belgians are reeling in Brussels, Turks are reeling in Ankara and … [Read more...]

Why Brandon Stanton’s Letter to Trump Means the World to Muslims, to Humans

Let's pause.Let's pause in a time of frenzied information and sharing of videos, news, quotes, facts and opinions, in a time of seemingly endless what-the-hell moments in listening to the dumbfounding and hateful rhetoric and thoughts spewing from the mouth of Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump (and other candidates too - I see you Ted Cruz and your hiring of noted Islamophobe Frank Gaffney as a foreign policy advisor) -- and let's slow it down.Slow it waaaaaaay down for a … [Read more...]