His Happily Ever After

So how is he doing?I pause at the question, put forth to me by D’s case worker. She and I meet four times a year to chat about D’s wellbeing, our challenges, what he needs, what he is struggling with, and what kind of supports he (and all of us) could use.Yeah, he’s fine, I say. Then I pause. He’s fine is my stock response – my saying everything is ok, when in fact “ok” becomes such a loaded word with things left said and unsaid.Wait, let me backtrack. Actually there’s a lot going on … [Read more...]

A Muslim #PrayerforEveryone – Prayer Backed with Action to Achieve Global Goals

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There is this: "It is He who produces gardens with trellises and without, and dates and tilth with produce of all kinds, and olives and pomegranates similar and different. Eat of their fruit in their season, but render the dues that are proper on the day that the harvest is gathered. And waste not by excess: for Allah loves not the wasters. (Quran, 6:141)" I have a friend in California who is extremely worried about the ongoing drought, what affect it will have on the environment for years to … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #9 – The Best Muslim, the Innocence of Humanity

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April 9, 2015, Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #9I’ve noticed a trend during the past few years of families performing Umrah during their kids’ spring breaks. I think it’s great – a wonderful way for families to come together for a moving, spiritual pilgrimage and introduce their children to some of what is most special, most beauteous, most humbling and true about Islam.Year after year, right before spring break rolls around, I get at least five or six messages/emails, or read on s … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #5 – How Inclusive was Your Easter or Passover Service?

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April 5, 2015 – Autism Awareness Month, Ali Family Autism Truths #5 In private conversations with friends today, friends celebrating Easter or having celebrated Passover, we shared some of our frustrations in trying to participate in religious ceremonies and attend services at Houses of Worship with our autistic children. While many churches, synagogues (and even some mosques) and other Houses of Worship have made great strides in tailoring services for all in their congregation, or at the very … [Read more...]

The Heavy and the Light

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The car line at my son’s autism school can be an emotional roller coaster. I see kids who I’ve known years, and it touches me to see them grow into gangly limbs and teenage faces with downy hair and budding self-confidence. Some clutch favorite teddy bears or finger pieces of string – stims or habits that I’ve seen persist from childhood into the teenage years, long past when others deem them appropriate behaviors or interests.But this is autism. Appropriate is a subjective word, and what may … [Read more...]

Patheos Welcomes the “Love, InshAllah” blog

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A few years back a manuscript (for review purposes) came mailed to my house, not too long after I joined Patheos as the managing editor of the Muslim channel. It was Love, InshAllah - The Secret Love Lives of American Muslim Women. I was hooked. Some chapters spoke to me, some shocked me and made me really uncomfortable, while others made me reflect more on love in my own relationships.  More than anything, it made me think of the conversations about love and relationships that I want to have … [Read more...]

Life Goes On

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They prayed for my son at Friday prayers last week.Another milestone I never imagined would’ve happened as part of our parent-child journey. But life goes on.It seems altogether wrong and disloyal and nonsensical that life should be going on. We sat in the waiting room of the doctor’s office last week, making nervous small talk with my parents while we waited for the doctor to come out and give us Lil D’s test results. Husband and I had run through the scenarios in our head, from best cas … [Read more...]


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