Lead with Love

The whole week's been a rather downward spiral, starting with the horrible attacks in Paris and Beirut. The continued violence in Syria, Iraq, Myanmar and so many places around the world. The evil known as Daesh, or ISIS. And the ensuing, predictable yet scary, Islamophobia that has followed. All on top of a huge backlash against Syrian refugees. But that's another post.But life keeps on moving, and the things we commit to -- our families, jobs, children, activities, volunteer work and … [Read more...]

All Haste to the Wedding

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The bags are packed, the plans have been made and the caregiver has been hired.We are breaking our own rules, for better or for worse.We are taking D to a Big Fat Indian-Muslim Family Wedding.If I could get out of it on his behalf, I would. As we draw closer and closer to departure (tomorrow for me and the younger kiddos, and Friday for his dad, grandparents and D to join us), I keep thinking – why are we doing this? Why are we subjecting D to this?Six summers ago, after a … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #16 – Siblings Who Roll with It

D and his sister, A.

April 16, 2015 - Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #16My daughter came home after school today and told me she had changed her mind after talking to her friends. Of course. After talking to her friends.There is some after-school spring festival happening tomorrow, and I asked her twice earlier in the week if she wanted to go, because a yes answer would require some planning from me -- you know, picking the boys up, who would watch them, would I take them all with me, lots of kids, … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #11 – Life Gets In the Way

April 11, 2015, Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #11There is a lot going on today, and sometimes the business of living gets in the way of documenting that living. So the truth for today is this: Sometimes we make decisions regarding D and his autism that are not ones we want to make. But he is not the only one in our family. There is 11-year-old A, seven-year-old H, their Baba and me. There are obligations and needs and wants for every family member. And, like all parents of multiple … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #8 – To be Known, Understood

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April 8, 2015 – Autism Awareness Month, Ali Family Autism Truths #8 As I write this, you lie next to me, the sleepiness finally hitting you with gentle waves, silencing the sounds you make and bringing stillness to your ever-moving limbs. You watch me type, seeing the words flow on this screen, and I wonder if you're reading what I'm writing. Maybe you can read. Maybe. There is so much I still don't know about you, about all you may be able to do. If you are reading this, I wonder -- are you ok … [Read more...]

Motherwhelmed and Wanting More

D happily  twirling beads around his Nanijan's (grandmother)'s finger

There are the articles, posts, op-eds and stories that the important ones. The BIG ones. The ones to affect change, get you thinking, expose a problem, right a wrong, grow awareness for a cause or situation, promote activism or convey a story that needs to be heard.Then there are the ones that are seemingly nothing – the sharing of a thought, an experience, a feeling. Take what you want from it. Maybe sharing it is just an exercise for the writer to get out what she is feeling in her brain a … [Read more...]

#IllRideWithYou – The World I Want to Raise My Children In


Perhaps – no, I’m certain – that these are the images and these are the stories we need to remember.Christians joining hands to protect Muslims bowing down in prayer in Tahrir Square in February of 2011 while protests and fighting raged around them. Or in 1941 Sarajevo, when Zejneba Hardaga, a veiled Muslim woman, covered the yellow star on her Jewish friend Rivka Kalb’s left arm as they walked through the streets.Or today when Australian Rachel Jacob tweeted that a Muslim woman sitting o … [Read more...]