Envious of Each Other’s Struggles and the Place I Need to Be

Daanish through the window

How will they know they are accepted by Allah? When the joy from their blessings and the trouble and despair from their afflictions are the same to them. -- paraphrased from a saying of Rabiah al Basri - a sahabi (companion) of the Prophet Muhammad (saw).The Facebook statuses I am reading today, this Jummah (Friday) are so very real and raw and honest. Several friends who are in Jerusalem and tried to get to Masjid al Aqsa for Friday prayers wrote about how men under the age of 45 were de … [Read more...]

God Bless You, Sweet Boy

Avonte

"If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you." -- from Winnie-the-Pooh, by A.A. MilneFor me, the quote would go like this: "If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred plus one more day, so you'll never have to live without me."This sentiment has been expressed in so many essays, in so many conversations, in so many unspoken, up-all-night worry sessions by parents of special needs children. We want our … [Read more...]

Counting Down the Days of Ramadan

Ramadan advent calendar

Lots of Ramadan preps going on amongst my Muslim peeps. Like many Muslim parents, I've been trying to figure out ways to make the month exciting and meaningful for my kids. Though Allah knows best, I'm pretty certain Lil D will never fast. Keeping his schedule going (his bedtime will be coinciding with iftaar time this year), and perhaps getting him to join us for a few iftaars this year (before he goes to bed) are my practical hopes.My daughter, Amal, is really coming into her own with lea … [Read more...]

Walking Away from Autism

Dilshad and Daanish

You can’t. Walk away from autism, that is, no more than you can walk away from any of your children. For that matter, if you have a child with any sort of disability or sickness (autism, downs syndrome, leukemia, cancer, what have you), the first thing that becomes painfully clear is that your child cannot walk away from what troubles him; therefore, you cannot walk away. Ever. No matter how much you want to at times. And we all do – even the most warrior of warrior mothers at some point loses he … [Read more...]


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