Which Truths Can be Shared, and Which can Only be Lived?

Which truths are we charged with sharing, and which truths must remain more quiet for the sake of the greater picture or, more importantly, one’s privacy?I was chatting with a friend today – someone I’ve “met” through my autism writing, who also writes extensively on autism, on life with her autistic son, on neurodiversity and other disability topics. I was telling her how difficult it is to lay one’s life bare and share intimate truths, day after day for 30 days.More so, what is difficul … [Read more...]

Conversations with Son H – Where He Lays Down Truths

Ali Family Autism Truths #12 - April 12, 2016Scene: At our kitchen table where eight-year-old H is doing his homework, and I am doing office work on my laptop:H: Hey Mamma?Me: Hey what?H: When did you know D bhai was autistic?Me: When he was very little. The doctor officially told us when he was three years old, but I knew a long time before that.H: Did you know when …Me: When what?H: Nevermind.Me: Tell me!H: Did you know D bhai was autistic when he was in … [Read more...]

Conversations with Daughter A: Laying Down Truths in School

Ali Family Autism Truths #7  April 7, 2016Scene: In the car, today, after I picked up daughter A (who is 12 years old) from school then drove over to get D from his school. The following conversation ensued. It’s not word for word accurate, but pretty much spot on.A: So there are these two girls in my gym class, and I don’t mean to be mean about them but …Me: What?A: They’re saying stuff about another boy in P.E. He has some sort of disability – I don’t think its autism – I don’t … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #22 – The Double Standards

April 22, 2015 - Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #22At dinnertime this evening, my seven-year-old son H laid a good one one me. His older brother D, who had been sitting with the six of us at the dinner table plowing through his dinner, got up and left the table with a few more bites to go. We called him back - D, come and take another bite! He came back and protested, pushing my husband's hand away as he tried to give him another spoonful.One more bite, D - I said to him. So he … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #17 – Brotherly Love

April 17, 2015 - Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #17His brief seven years on this earth is littered with the best exchanges with his big brother, D.Driving home from school the other day:D bhai, do you know that you have a mustache? He says to his 14-year-old brother.Ya! His brother answers back. I stifle my laughter as I drive the car.Or, a few months earlier:Mamma, will you come downstairs with me? (He wants to play on the X-Box and hates going into the basement … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #16 – Siblings Who Roll with It

April 16, 2015 - Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #16My daughter came home after school today and told me she had changed her mind after talking to her friends. Of course. After talking to her friends.There is some after-school spring festival happening tomorrow, and I asked her twice earlier in the week if she wanted to go, because a yes answer would require some planning from me -- you know, picking the boys up, who would watch them, would I take them all with me, lots of kids, … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #11 – Life Gets In the Way

April 11, 2015, Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #11There is a lot going on today, and sometimes the business of living gets in the way of documenting that living. So the truth for today is this: Sometimes we make decisions regarding D and his autism that are not ones we want to make. But he is not the only one in our family. There is 11-year-old A, seven-year-old H, their Baba and me. There are obligations and needs and wants for every family member. And, like all parents of multiple … [Read more...]


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