From my earliest memory I always wondered why prayers weren’t answered. I mean the important ones. The life and death ones. The ones that matter. I always held rationalizations suspect, such as:
Thank God for unanswered prayer!
God does answer prayer, just in his own way.
Only the prayers of the righteous are heard and answered.
You need to pray with more faith… as if it is already answered.
Are you begging, or are you submitting your request?
There is no god to answer that prayer.
Etc., etc., etc…. All simplistic rationalizations.
One of the toughest lessons to learn in our spiritual walk is that we really have no idea what is happening in prayer.