women should carry rape insurance?

rape insurance cartoon by nakedpastor david hayward

“Rape Insurance” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

I immediately apologize for the disturbingly graphic nature of this cartoon. It was disturbing for me to draw it and disturbing for me to post it. But some things have to be said because it was more disturbing to me what inspired it.

This is a true story. You can read about it in this article, “Anti-Abortion Leader Faces Criticism After Comparing Rape to Car Accidents”. A woman said this.

Rape is not an accident. It is a crime!

Our culture continues to lay the weight of responsibility and blame, and now the cost, upon the victim.

And, unfortunately, religion is complicit.

About David Hayward

David Hayward runs the blog nakedpastor as a graffiti artist on the walls of religion where he critiques religion… specifically Christianity and the church. He also runs the online community The Lasting Supper where people can help themselves discover, explore and live in spiritual freedom.

  • erikcampano

    You’re kidding. I cannot believe that this woman said that. It must have been taken out of context. Please tell me it was taken out of context.

  • Thirza Angenent

    oh my… *siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigggghhhhhhhhhhh* I suddenly remembered the time my dad asked me ‘what I had done’, because of the fact I was sexually abused by a person… it feels like they are thinking: if we blame the victim enough, maybe they will shut up about it, and there will be no problems for us anymore. sweeping it under the carpet gives more peace for them I guess. *sigh*

  • Thirza Angenent

    oh and thank you :) I can see why it disturbed you, but I think its necessary you made that drawing.

  • erikcampano

    Yup. I went through a similar thing. My fault, my fault, my fault. My story’s here.
    http://www.erikcampano.com/why-episcopal-leaders-made-deal-new-york-post-misreport-sexual-misconduct/

  • Aviatrix

    Unfortunately, I don’t think it was. The discussion was about the legislature prohibiting insurance companies from covering abortion procedures as part of standard medical coverage, even in cases of rape or incest. Her remark was that if a woman fears rape or incest she should buy separate abortion coverage – just like collision insurance for her car. Pregnancy resulting from rape or incest – just another accident to avoid. A few repairs and she’s good as new, don’t you know – so make sure you have enough coverage.

  • Thirza Angenent

    so sorry to hear that :( !

  • Shary Hauber

    Barbara Listing is a disgrace to women. Did she buy the insurance?

  • Pseudonym

    Someone needs to point out the usual objection with the scenario depicted in the cartoon. In the majority of instances of rape, the perpetrator is known to the victim. Random attacks in the woods are relatively uncommon.

    I think this is important to keep in mind, if only because Barbara Listing’s analogy makes even less sense.

  • Adam Julians

    Wow – I’m shocked, if that is a tre reflection of religion then that certainly would be horrific in the church or other reoligious establisments adding more woundedness to a wounding that has happened.

    Is this a true refelction of all out culture and religion? Surely not David! There are some stong advocates for people. Let’s not forget Jesus being an advocate! You mentieond anti-abortion. Well there is one group i know of in Glasgow here ni Scotland called the preganancy crisis centre that walks with women who are pregernant and says with them withether they decide to see the pregnancy full term. Often times women who have an abortion have an initial relief at not being pregnant any more, followed by feeling od grief – and this Christian run service is ther throughout whatver decision the woman makes.

    http://glasgowpregnancycrisiscentre.co.uk/

    It is an insult to groups such as this to say religion is complicit. And i would have thought it would be detrimental to either women in rape or pregnancy crisis to say such about relicion ans culture when there are places for help support and healing.

    Wiser, less sensationalist or inflammitory words David please.

  • http://forthisisthetime.com/ Esther Aspling

    Ugh. This makes me sick. As a woman who’s been through such an event, the last thing you need is to fill out paperwork attesting to it for insurance purposes. Not to mention most women, such as myself, never report as it is, this would only add to that.

    http://forthisisthetime.com

  • kenofken

    This doesn’t surprise me in the least. Women are just breeding animals to the “pro-life” movement, society’s collective property. This is not a one-off gaffe by one advocate. Remember “legitimate rape.”? This is a movement that very recently attempted to require medically-supervised rape in order to deter abortion. In Virginia and Oklahoma and one or two other states, they were trying to pass laws requiring transvaginal ultrasound. Not for medical purposes, but to make the prospect of an abortion so degrading that women would decline it. The anti-abortion movement and the corner of Christianity it represents, are no better than Salafist Islam.

  • http://nakedpastor.com/ nakedpastor

    I know kenofken. Thanks for your comment. People like to point to extremists that are more overt when the very same attitudes underly the west’s more nebulous practices.

  • http://nakedpastor.com/ nakedpastor

    Come on Adam you know better than that, that the church victimizes victims. You’ve said so yourself.

  • 8thday

    This is a very difficult and triggering subject for many people who have experienced rape/violence. It is customary practice to include a trigger warning on such graphic depictions so that those who are deeply impacted can avoid exposure to potential triggers. I hope you will consider it. Thanks.

  • Adam Julians

    i hear what you want to say David about what I have siad – I would be interested in what particularly you could quote from me so that I could comment on what you are referring to.

    I am pretty sure that the context in which I would have said that would be that I would ackowledge it happens but that there are also good things that the church and culture does too.

    It frightens me that there could be the possibility of any woman looking at your cartoon and reading what you have said about culture laying responsibility, blame and cost on the victim. And that because of that someone wounded by rape or pregnant wouldn’t go to for help that would be provided in the example I gave of the pregnancy crisis centre out of fear of being burdende with responsibility, blame and cost on top of the worry / wounding of either being pregnatn or having being raped.

    I was shocked and I felt sick. And if my comment has encouraged a woman in difficulty to get good help that she wouldn;t other wise have done then I think that’s worth us having a disagreement. Dont you?

  • Adam Julians

    PS I would affirm what 8th day said.

  • http://nakedpastor.com/ nakedpastor

    I really do appreciate that 8thday. On my social media sites, such as facebook, I got a few similar feedbacks, so I blurred the image there and offered a warning that it could be disturbing. Being that my cartoons are one frame and at the top of my posts, I’m not sure how I could have done it without you seeing it before the warning. But I want you to know I’m sensitive to your concern. I’ll certainly try to think of options if I have a future cartoon that may be disturbing.

  • Al Cruise

    Yes probably, he could have used a room in a church, and the perpetrator someone from the church in authority over the woman. That would have been more common.The point he is making is correct though.

  • klhayes

    So what would the insurance cover? A rape kit? STD Testing? Emergency contraception? Would it cover an abortion? Therapy so we can be “repaired” like a car? Certainly “pro-lifers” would not like that! Would some men feel more free to rape b/c the woman has “protection”? Apparently the health insurance I already pay for really is useless.

    What a horrible person! I am so embarrassed to call myself a Christian these days.

  • 8thday

    Perhaps you could include (trigger warning) in the post title?

  • Adam Julians

    Good point.

  • Adam Julians

    I read your story and what you wrote in:

    “The worst, most sexist of all was a “feminist” former Labour member of the British parliament named Jane Griffiths. She bought the narrative hook, line, and sinker, all the same time claiming the article was false, and labelled me the “accuser of Ginger Strickland””

    Is something I hear coming through very srongly. It has traumatised me with speaking about sexism similarly with a church exepreince i have had. I got out before it got as bad as you have described. Feminism does have it’s ugly side and to speak out against it means risking being portrayed as come kind of patriarcal opresseor, even smeone in need of beinf demonised. I have expereinced that. Bot the victimisation and the secondary victimisation.

    I would sum things up by shariing an article about domestic violence. http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/domestic-violence-as-a-man-its-very-difficult-to-say-ive-been-beaten-up-8572143.html

    In this article, the victim says.”As a man, it’s very difficult to say you’ve been beaten up. It seems like you’re the big brute and she’s the daffodil, but sometimes it’s not like that.”

  • erikcampano

    Wow. Thanks for the article, and for reading mine. The Independent has a lot right here. When I was rendered homeless, I called a shelter for female victims of sexualized violence and they told me that they didn’t have a bed for me. Not because I didn’t need one — they understood my story — but because they literally had to shift so many rooms around to accomodate a male, that hosting me was impractical.

    But I think we have reason to be optimistic here. The younger generation seems to have a stronger grasp on this problem. I can only say this anecdotally — but the undergraduates here at my university, when they talk about relationships, are quick to see the potential for misbehavior on both sides. I think it might have something to do with their engagement of LGBTQ issues and willingness to see gender as more of a spectrum, than a binary “women are like this and men are like this” thing.

  • erikcampano

    Thanks for saying so. Things are much better now :) .

  • Adam Julians

    Yeah – I like you would want to take the expereinces, learn from them turn them around and enable optimism. I agree with you. i think there is hope in younger generations. You might be right about the issues and seeing gender as a spectrum rathe than binary male female.

    If more people have the courage to share as you do then my hope would be that sexism, by socialconditioning is prejudiced in portraying men as predators and women as victims. But that each case is considered in it’s own merits.

    I am sorry to have hear of your difficulty with homelessness as a result of their being no bed for you in a shelter. Hopefully sharing such tings and having more of a voice about things will, in time bring abuot change such that sexism is treated a s seriously whatever gender is the perpetrator or victim of such crime.

  • Adam Julians

    Typo “sexism, by socialconditioning ….”

    Shoud read “not that .sexism, by socialconditioning”

  • erikcampano

    For sure. Thanks for your kind words about my homelessness. Actually being homeless was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I learned a lot of empathy. It’s one thing to work in a homeless shelter (like I used to), and another one to be forced into homelessness.

    It’s important in this discussion not to minimize the amount of violence that has been historically perpetrated against women (not saying you are), and to honor their awareness of it. My female friends are right when they say that date rape and sexual assault are widespread and underreported. We should all heed what they say. For most men (like me, before my experiences), it isn’t even on the radar that they could be sexually assaulted. So when it does happen to them, they don’t know what resources to turn to. Everybody needs much stronger information and dialogue about this topic.

  • erikcampano

    There are so many holes in that logic, I’m baffled that even a politician would have said it.

  • kenofken

    Of course it’s disturbing. It should be disturbing, and we’ll never get anywhere if we can’t bring ourselves to stare the damn thing in the face and call it what it is. This is the real face of the “pro-life” movement, and soft-pedalling that will, in the long run, hurt rape victims (and future potential victims) even more.

  • Adam Julians

    I like your attitude to your expereince with homelessness! :).

    Yes, i hear what you say about the amount of violence historically prepetrated against women. I used to serve as a street pastor with the mission to care listen and help with clubbers in the city centre on friday and saturday nighs.

    Vulnerable females were always the priority. Some alone and so drunk that they were easy prey to predators. One thing we were keen on in that service was to provide care for them. Like you say with your rxperince with homelessness, it has given me greater empathy with women.

  • Adam Julians

    With what you wrote in mind, here is what a friend of mine wrote about her Street Pastoring experience last night:

    Ya know, out Street Pastoring, you really do meet some pretty disturbed people. Whilst helping an unconscious girl (and her much more sober friend), a passer by got right up close to take a series of photos of me and the girl…. we then took some abuse of a couple of other randomers… meanwhile 2 boys sat in a car 5 metres away for over an hour, waiting for the police and ambulances to go away, hoping to lure the friend of the unconscious girl into their car: “You can come and warm up in our car” they told her. I’m so thankful to have the opportunity to be able to help girls like these – the streets of Glasgow can be pretty dark places sometimes.

  • Thirza Angenent

    same with me thank God :) I really like reading the stories (in a good way) because I think for men its so hard to give words to your feelings when you experience abuse. I know a lot of men who were sexually abused and they’re struggeling a lot with it. Like you said, very often there’s not even a place, OR, they are very misunderstood. so, very great to hear you’re doing so much better and you gave it al a positive twist :) I LIKE!

  • Thirza Angenent

    wow. didn’t know that. no words..

  • Pseudonym

    Yes, the point he’s making is correct.

  • Brandi Eissinger

    While I understand your request, I don’t think it’s necessary. I was raped when I was 16. Seeing images like this does impact me deeply. However, it’s real and it’s something we have to deal with on a daily basis. Coddling us just keeps us victims.

    Of course, young children who are dealing with rape should be shielded… but children also shouldn’t be online without supervision.

  • 8thday

    It may not be necessary for you, but it is a courtesy to folks who are extremely triggered by such images. Everyone is in a different place on their healing journey and a trigger warning allows the individual to make a decision about where, when, and if, they choose to view disturbing images. I don’t think it is coddling. It is giving a person the information they need to make an informed and very personal decision.

  • Brandi Eissinger

    I AM extremely triggered by such images. I saw that and immediately felt extreme anger that this was posted, and felt sick to my stomach, and felt a rush of flash backs. And then I realized the seriousness of this cartoon and why it was posted and after a bit, I was glad I saw it. Had there been a warning, I would not have looked.

  • Bria Sandifer

    I never thought about it like that. You are a wise and brave human being.

  • Bria Sandifer

    At first I was taken aback by the cartoon. And then it made me realize the full weight of the situation and the danger of what people like Barbara Listing are trying to do. Maybe it will take this kind of harshness to shock people into realization.

  • http://nakedpastor.com/ nakedpastor

    Thanks Bria. I appreciate your comment. It is shocking. Next time I will provide a trigger warning for such a cartoon and post as this.


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