people who come out are my heroes

coming out heroes cartoon by nakedpastor david hayward

“Coming Out Heroes” (drawing by nakedpastor David Hayward)

(*** You can purchase a high-quality reproduction of this cartoon HERE.)

Honestly, people who come out are my heroes. The incredible courage it takes and the incredible risk they take is phenomenally admirable.

In my experience and observation the two most risky issues to come out on are sexual and spiritual. These two seem to be the most taboo. And I applaud those who come out sexually and spiritually.

But there are situations where coming out is too risky. Not just Russia or the Bible Belt, but in your neighborhood as well.

That’s why I believe in providing safe places like The Lasting Supper where you can come out with people who will provide validation and support.

 

About David Hayward

David Hayward runs the blog nakedpastor as a graffiti artist on the walls of religion where he critiques religion… specifically Christianity and the church. He also runs the online community The Lasting Supper where people can help themselves discover, explore and live in spiritual freedom.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    (inb4 homosexuality is a sin)

    It’s sadly risky to say one is gay, lesbian, bi, pan, or asexual (and to say one is transgender, genderqueer, agender, pangender, and so on), but it’s damaging to lie to oneself about one’s aspects that they can’t pray away or “cure.”
    It’s also, sadly, risky to come out in a traditionally conservative Christian area as an atheist or agnostic, or, in my case, being a student of Zen Buddhism.

    No one likes the idea of someone straying from the “norm,” and yet those who do “stray” are the ones who make the needed changes!

  • http://religiouscomics.net/ Jeff P

    Way back in high school (circa 1979 or 1980 or there abouts) I felt the need to “come out” to my classmates. My religious views were no secret to my family (who mainly shared them) or my close friends (who had long known them) but were at the time unknown to the rest of my classmates in high school. Being a bit of a prankster, I decided to “come out” with a cleverly worded custom tee-shirt. I had one made at the local tee-shirt shop that said “I swear to God I’m an atheist”. When I wore it to school, it caused a multitude of reactions.

    Some, of course, were bothered that anyone would be an atheist.
    Others were bothered by the “swearing to God” aspect of it.
    Others were bothered by the idea of an atheist swearing to God.

    Most people told me that not only would I be in trouble (with God) for not believing in Him but He would “get me double” for also swearing to Him.

    So take pity on my damned soul. I’m double damned and totally going to Hell (like totally). The kids said “like” and “totally” a lot back when I was in high-school. ;)

  • Gary

    “I swear to God I’m an atheist”

    This totally cracked me up. Thanks for the laugh.

  • klhayes

    The courage of those who come out is why I decided that I need to be an unabashed ally. If someone tells me I am a lesbian, I won’t be offended because I don’t believe their is anything wrong with beng homosexual.

  • klhayes

    I am sure all those teenagers who were offended were living perfectly Godly lives in high school ;)

  • Shary Hauber

    There is another group that is afraid to come out. Those abused by leaders in churches. The abuse can be sexual, emotional, physical, but most of all spiritual abuse.

  • Sierra Gormsen

    Coming out isn’t really something that is heroic or brave. I’m not brave. Well, not for that reason anyway. Coming out is just something that eventually has to be done. Luckily, it is getting easier as time passes, to do it. If anything, many of us are chickens. I waited till I was in my 30′s to come out. I was scared. I sadly walked away from a perfectly good marriage. That’s not bravery.

  • http://nakedpastor.com/ nakedpastor

    I totally respect your opinion Sierra. That’s from your perspective as one who came out and I totally get that. But from my perspective looking at you, that sounds like bravery to me. You HAD to do it. And you did, even when you knew what it might cost. That’s heroic in my book.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    You took the steps to realize who you are. That is bravery.

  • Brigitte

    You forgot to draw a picture of Mohammed coming out of paganism.

  • Sarah

    AMEN

  • Cecilia Davidson

    1) As one who tries to show respect for a religion’s wishes, I think that’s an unfair request
    2) Excuse me, but what exactly is wrong with having more than one god?

  • Brigitte

    Cecilia, what is it you are trying to say?

  • Tom Estes

    Equating a homosexual with Jesus. Pure abomination. Seriously David, be careful what you say about our Lord. You’re going to answer to Him one day.

  • http://nakedpastor.com/ nakedpastor

    Poor Tom. The people he thinks Jesus would be willing to be with is getting narrower and narrower. Soon it will just be him.

  • Tom Estes

    Hardly. But there is no way the God of the Bible (which Jesus is) wants to be equated with sins he condemned on many occasions.

  • Oswald Carnes

    Is it just you that gets to speak for god, or does everybody get a turn?

  • Tom Estes

    God spoke for Himself, in His Word.

  • joejmz

    nakedpastor: “I don’t have an actual defense for this depravity, so I’m going to simply belittle this guy.”

    Cuz that’s the Christian thing to do.

  • http://nakedpastor.com/ nakedpastor

    Oh come on Joe. I’m sure Tom is a big boy and can handle a little joking now and then. Try and lighten up a bit, like your profile pic suggests you can.

  • Gmwalk

    This post is blasphemy! Abraham, Moses, David and Daniel would be bad enough. But blaspheming the one name that will save you (all) is what overturning the money changers was all about. It is about zeal – zeal for the name of my Lord and yours, if you would only repent and receive Him.

    God’s revelation exposes sin in the human heart. It cuts to the division of soul and spirit. It points us to our need for forgiveness and shows how to be saved from the wrath of God. The day comes when people will be deaf to God’s truths, and the day advances when mankind can display his wicked deeds and be proud. Instead of hiding your sin, you display it in God’s face. The rise in acceptance is sin, but its acceptance is a signal that the word of God has grown cold.

    Guard your eternity. Accept Jesus, and become indwelt by the Holy Spirit.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    You basically are saying two INCREDIBLY disrespectful things at once – one, the idea that a religious figure who is traditionally avoided being depicted should be, just to spit in the face of tradition, and two, that paganism is a bad thing.

  • Gary

    Bullshit. Name ONE TIME Jesus condemned homosexuality. If you have ever studied at all you know Jesus NEVER spoke about it even once. How dare you project YOUR bigotry onto Jesus!!!

  • Tom Estes

    Um, Gary, Jesus is God. God wrote the Bible. The Bible condemns homosexuality.

  • Gary

    Bullshit!!! (Unless you also believe Jesus promoted genocide, infanticide, and death for mouthy kids)

    Seriously Tom…your hate filled fucking pure dogma based rhetoric is insane.

  • Gary

    It is YOU who blasphemes God by projecting your bigotry and hate onto Him. It is your abusive and blind kind who has totally perverted and corrupted the message of Jesus. I have reached a point in life of having utter contempt for your message of hate and will gladly rebuke you and your kind whenever you puke forth your putrid shit.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    The fruit defines the tree.
    Your fruit tastes rotten. I’ll give you a year and some dung.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    Joe, you really have no defense of Tom, so quit using “The Christian Thing” as an insult.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    No, the people who wrote those books condemned homosexuality. Try again :)

  • Cecilia Davidson

    BLESS YOU.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    God is the best imaginary friend. Tea parties are so delicious.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    you sure speak for god a lot.

  • Tom Estes

    That was a great argument, Gary.

  • Tom Estes

    II Peter 1:21

  • Gary

    Thank you…I thought so too.

    Now you are going to attempt to defend your view that Jesus supports infanticide and the slaughter of rebellious children???

  • Tom Estes

    I don’t need to defend God. God does what He does. And if God does it, then it’s right.

  • Gary

    If that is true, and I am told to be holy like God is holy, then I guess I will slaughter my enemies and kill the first born child of those who offend me. After all…God is my example of holiness and I am told to be like him so it must be right.

    My god man…use the brain god gave you for a change and stop spouting such ignorant nonsense!!!!

  • Cecilia Davidson

    So written by a man

  • Cecilia Davidson

    You clearly defend your image of god

  • Cecilia Davidson

    Okay, I basically am going to say this and this is purely my observation based on facts -

    Tom, you have absolutely no fucking right whatsoever to demean a person and call it the Christian message. Frankly, I’ve had a very long, very bad week, and you’re only here to cause trouble. You claim to speak for god, but it’s obvious that you would rather speak for the Adversary instead of Christ or God.

    Go violate yourself with a brick, sir, if the pleasure you get involves inflicting pain on others.

  • Gmwalk

    4 Ah, sinful nation,
    a people laden with iniquity,
    offspring of evildoers,
    children who deal corruptly!
    They have forsaken the Lord,
    they have despised the Holy One of Israel,
    they are utterly estranged.
    5 Why will you still be struck down?
    Why will you continue to rebel?
    The whole head is sick,
    and the whole heart faint.
    6 From the sole of the foot even to the head,
    there is no soundness in it,
    but bruises and sores
    and raw wounds;
    they are not pressed out or bound up
    or softened with oil.
    7 Your country lies desolate;
    your cities are burned with fire;
    in your very presence
    foreigners devour your land;
    it is desolate, as overthrown by foreigners.

    Isaiah 1:4-7

  • Cecilia Davidson

    Take your twisting of the bible somewhere else instead of Patheos.

  • Gmwalk

    People will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power.

  • Brigitte

    You make no sense Cecilia. It’s ok to ridicule Christians all over the place, then call them not the actual Christians, equate Jesus, Moses, etc. to someone coming out as gay, but those who “traditionally” don’t like depictions of their prophet should be “respected”. Sounds like the double standard I was trying to flesh out. And paganism in analogy would be as “bad” as “heterosexuality”. If you really want to “disrespect” a Muslim you will praise “paganism” to his face.

  • Gary

    So you pull an extremely out of context passage, from the OT no less, and proof text it on us and somehow think it makes your point. (Whatever the hell that is)

    That is not only extremely lazy, it is profoundly ignorant.

  • Gary

    I see your only 3 posts on Discus are the 3 attacks here in David’s blog. This makes you a clear TROLL with only one purpose…to attack and stir up shit.

    Fuck off asshole!

  • Gary

    Has absolutely NOTHING whatsoever to do with homosexuality as it is understood today.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    It is most obvious that you are a lover of self.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    What David does is not ridicule. You are the one who makes absolutely no sense are extremely disrespectful to Jesus.

  • http://nakedpastor.com/ nakedpastor

    It’s impossible for me to keep up with all the comments, though I try. It’s hard to know what’s worse: calling people names or judging them. But at least we can easily not name-call. I would appreciate that. Thanks!

  • Gary

    You have three total posts on Discuss and they have all been in David’s blog attacking. This is exactly what a troll does for laughs. Seriously…go find someplace else to shit in.

  • JosephBrown660

    Gary, God (the Father of Christ) spoke out against it many times, He even burned a couple of cities because of it. Then the Spirit inspired Paul to come out against it as well. Jesus and the Father are one.

  • JosephBrown660

    So incredibly wrong

  • Gary

    Seriously dude…do your homework. The destruction of S&G had nothing whatsoever to do with homosexuality according to scripture. Look it up. I am sick and tired of people like you so willing to lie about what the bible even says. And if Jesus and the Father are one (a point I do not dispute) then it is abundantly clear the OT authors got a great deal wrong about God. Paul did NOT come out against homosexuality as we know it today and this is clear when one looks at both history of the culture and even a basic semblance of textual analysis. And even if he had…Paul is not a god and he made mistakes.

  • Gary

    Yes in places what is in the bible IS incredibly wrong. I am surprised you are able to admit this.

    LOL

  • Gary

    Save for potentially the Levitical code (Irrelevant for Christianity) they did not address it anyway.

  • Gary

    “His Word” was and is NOT the bible. To call the bible such is literally blasphemy.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    How am I wrong?

  • joejmz

    Yeah, encouraging people to continue to revel in their sin is definitely something to be lighthearted and jokey about.

  • joejmz

    What there is no defense for is nakedpastor’s encouragement of sin. Scripture is clear that those who teach and lead will be held to a very high standard. If you care about him you should be worried for what his meeting with the guy who “came out of the tomb” will be like.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    You use Scripture to hide behind it so to throw your hate and ignorance with a shield.

  • Gary

    The sin I see being thrown around recklessly in this thread is your judging others. As for homosexuality…it is not a sin in and of itself and an honest study of the bible confirms this. Go educate yourself on the issues and you may be able to break free of the sinful lifestyle of judgment and condemnation you are so mired in.

  • Jake

    I just want to reach out to my brothers and sisters in Christ who struggle with homosexuality. You are not a homosexual any more than someone struggling with alcoholism is an alcoholic. People who struggle with pornography are not pornographers. People who engage in casual sex outside of marriage are not philanderers. Once we become born again, we put on the righteousness of Christ and are able to be sanctified through the power of the Holy Spirit. We are all promised freedom from sin, and from bondage. Please do not give in to the accusations of the enemy. Your identity is in Christ, not homosexuality. You are co-heirs with Christ, sons and daughters of the Most High God. God now calls you His friend. Jesus calls you His brother. God loves you very very much, and wants you to find your true identity. Keep pressing on brothers and sisters, and He will set you free from homosexuality. Do not give in to the schemes of the enemy. It is not who you are.
    God bless


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