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by VyckieWow ~ is this totally awesome, or what?!!  I am sitting at a desk in a super fancy hotel on Broadway ~ right across the street from Times Square and I can see the New Year's Millennium Ball from the window of my 19th floor suite.  Yes ~ a suite.  Sweet, huh?  LOLThe flight to New York went smoothly ~ beautiful weather, no delays ~ I feel charmed, really. ;)There was a driver waiting at the baggage area to take me to the hotel ~ nice guy, but I have to ask if it is a common occurence for these drivers of V.I.P.-type passengers to not have cash to pay for the parking lot attendant?  This guy's credit card was declined too.  He claimed to be really embarrassed as I dug in my pur … [Read more...]

Shutting Off My Brain ~ Part 2

by JourneyWhen we got back from our honeymoon, it was so exciting to set up our new apartment on our Bible College campus. The "married dorms" seemed so big and grown-up, and I put those thoughts about our honeymoon behind me...until Mark told me the news that “God” had told him I needed to give away my car.He said were going to be a one-car couple, and that one car was going to be his old van. This was brand new news to me. I was shocked. What? I tried to bargain with him, but he would hear none of it. Again, he was the male, therefore the one who was supposed to be the “leader,” so though I pleaded, I had no choice but to do what he wanted.The books and the teachings all sai … [Read more...]

12 Good Things I Learned From Being In (and Leaving) a Christian Cult: A Christian Perspective

by krwordgazerI am one of those who left a fundamentalist Christian coercive religious organization while remaining a Christian. I realized not long ago that there are many constructive things I believe and act on today, learned (often the hard way!) from my experiences there. But I think I'm a wiser person, and probably a better Christian, than I used to be, and though it doesn't take away the painful memories, it does help me to feel that the perspective I've gained is valuable, to me and to my loved ones.Here are my 12 bits of wisdom:1. I can't let someone else tell me what to believe. I must read and learn what the Bible says for myself, with a mind to context, the original … [Read more...]

Mr. Diety says, "Let's not go back to those dark ages"

No Longer Quivering is a tremendous resource in the fight against misogyny and Christian Fundamentalist misogyny in particular. When we see what happened in Taliban-run Afghanistan, we think that such a thing could never happen in a Christian country. But we forget that it has gone on in Christian countries throughout history. We forget that the Bible encourages such inequality, and that such sentiment is still alive and well in the Christian Fundamentalism that lives on here in America. Few things are more important than reminding people of what we have escaped, or the eternal vigilance that is required to keep us from returning to those dark ages.  Brian Keith Dalton,  Creator of Mr. De … [Read more...]

I was too wiped out and overwhelmed to enjoy the fruits of my labor

by VyckieShortly after Angel's first suicide attempt, I remember thinking to myself that all of my children were growing up without me ~ because I was much too worn down physically ~ plus what little energy I did have was all being zapped from me daily as I tried to make life with their overbearing, micro-managing, hyper-critical, narcissistic father as painless as possible for the children. Despite my efforts, they were all obviously beaten-down and discouraged to the point that we had become of family of zombies ~ excepting, of course, for Warren ~ who rather than feeling half-dead like the rest of us, seemed to have all the energy in the world ~ in fact, I believe he thrived on the … [Read more...]

Patriarchy Across Cultures: A Lifetime Commitment: Initiation

by TapatiTemple DeitiesIn January of 1977 Mike and I were preparing to ask for initiation. We were carefully composing letters to Srila Prabhupada to indicate that we understood the commitment we were making and hoped that he would accept us as disciples. Mike shaved his head, something he’d avoided up until that point. He knew he would not get a recommendation for initiation from the temple authorities if he kept his hair shoulder length. Embarrassed, he wore a cap over his head until it grew out again. We were more strictly abstaining from sex as well, trying to genuinely follow the instructions we had received from Srila Prabhupada.My initiation letter is dated February 2nd, 1977. W … [Read more...]

Christian Dominionism ~ Part 1: The Ties that Bind Extremist Politics to Christian Patriarchy

by kmPart 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 In recent years, most popular culture discussions of the Christian Quiverfull movement center on the charming Duggar family of TLC reality fame.  The Duggars—parents of eighteen children with another on the way—are seen by many as a wholesome—if quirky—example of a healthy family with astoundingly polite and well-behaved children.  It is nearly impossible to have a discussion with a well-meaning Quiverfull-illiterate without hearing that familiar refrain: “They just seem like such nice people!”  It’s not uncommon to find secular people who find themselves drawn to the Quiverfull lifestyle based on what they perceive as such a healthy—and happy—home l … [Read more...]

You know you read too many blogs when you can describe your day this way …

by hopewell With tongue firmly in cheek, I pay homage to those never rattled, never angry, always positive, always thankful Mommys who have made me see my world oh so differently! [And, who have inspired me to find a new form a recreation than reading all their blogs!!! lol...]. I posted this at a FJ to get people thinking creatively about their world. I am not trying to blaspheme, insult anyone. Please relax and take it as H.U.M.O.R., ok?Sunday started off so very well!!! Our Savior woke us in time to worship him in the fellowship of other believers! This is SUCH a blessing to me I cannot adequately express my thanks! Especially since ds and his friend enjoyed each other's fellowship u … [Read more...]

Shutting Off My Brain ~ Part 1

by JourneyThe overt abuse began the day we got married. The wedding was wonderful. I was so excited, so happy. As we drove away to our honeymoon, two Bible College students having just pledged to the Lord their love for one another, I had stars in my eyes.Then my new husband reached over and put his hand on my breast. Not fondling, not foreplay, just putting it there firmly, eyes still on the road, much like a robot.I left it there for a few seconds, stunned, and then tried to gently push it off. He pushed back, and held it tightly, right where he'd put it, firmly on my body. I pushed back harder, but Mark's large muscles were stronger than mine. I felt like I was going to … [Read more...]

"Very brave women …"

No Longer Quivering is an organization by and for very brave women who have lived a life of parallel reality in a country commonly perceived to be the land of the free.Yet, there is a culture of extremism that skews and twists the Christian Bible, further empowering the males and subjugating the women to extreme servitude and excessive child-bearing. It is truly abuse - spousal abuse & child abuse - and deprives the indoctrinated from joy and a quality of life that is unavailable to them.This organization is unique and crucial in addressing the questions from those women who have already removed themselves from their misogynist environments, but who now need to feel connected with a c … [Read more...]


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