People Magazine: Duggars "won't rule out having baby #20"

Why Michelle Duggar can't say, "We're done!"  "We'll just wait and see what God has in store." ~ Michelle Duggar, People, Feb. 8, 2010by Vyckie As a former Quiverfull mom of seven, I've had such a variety of birth experiences ~ emergency c-sections, scheduled repeat c-sections, failed homebirth attempt, successful homebirth (after four cesareans!), hospital VBAC, and with my last birth ~ which I had planned to have unassisted at home, I ended up with a 5th c-section due to partial uterine rupture. My complicated birthing history made living out the Quiverfull ideal of "leaving my fertility in the Lord's hands" all the more challenging ~ and one of the toughest things for me to handle … [Read more...]

The God Card: Subordinate But Equal

Subordinate But Equal (Piper and other Complementarians on 'Biblical Womanhood')The God Card ~ Thoughts on Patriarchal Teachingsby Journey The patriarchy camp loves to say that, at the core, it believes men and women are equal.  A common phrase goes something like, "Men and women are equal, but simply have different roles to play."  The statement often works like a charm.  After all, hey, they just said men and women are fundamentally equal, right?  People playing different roles isn't necessarily bad.  In fact, it’s usually positive.  Images of actors on state are conjured up in our minds, putting on a costume to play one role or another---or different occupations people choose, lik … [Read more...]

Barren

by CaluluOf all the things that happened during my ten years in the Quiverful movement I think that the one thing that caused me the most pain was my inability to bear children. Being infertile in a movement based upon the notion that God grants the righteous a full quiver of arrows led to all sorts of interesting assumptions by people that swore I was their Sister in Christ.Based upon the ways I was treated because of my fertility challenges I came to realize that my church ‘family’ was as dysfunction and rude as any family featured on a sleazy television talk show.I’d been an only child, growing up in a large home in south Louisiana.  My parents had an arranged marriage, which wasn’ … [Read more...]

Quiverfull Reality Pics …

by VyckieI was just digging around for old photos to post along with the next installment of my story.  Found this one of the children visiting me in the hospital after Wesley's birth ~ and thought to myself, "Hmmm ... what does this remind me of?"Oh ~ I know ... … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: A Jewel or a Trash Can

by SierraWilliam Branham with a woman in his prayer line. (He would lay on hands, pray, and they would walk away healed, allegedly.)If you asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I always had an answer. If you asked again in ten minutes, it would be a different one. I wanted to be a figure skater, detective, veterinarian, zoologist, writer, astronaut and archaeologist – and not just one at a time. When I went outdoors to play, I climbed rocks and saw them as mountains. When I jumped over streams, I bravely bridged rivers. With stuffed animals as my companions, I sailed pirate ships and submarines and narrowly escaped devastating wars through wit and determination. I harboured r … [Read more...]

Take Heart Project (Blogathon Daily Highlight) ~ About THP

by VyckieSince the main goal for the NLQ Blogathon is to introduce and promote the Take Heart Project, each day we will feature a brief "Take Heart Project" post to highlight the group's goals, resources, needs, etc.The Take Heart Project is spearheaded by a group of women who, while exchanging thoughts on Vyckie Garrison's No Longer Quivering discussion forums, noticed a disturbing lack of psychological, legal and shelter services geared specifically toward women attempting to exit their oppressive religious and patriarchally controlled lives with five, ten or even more children to care for.These women, some having already struggled through the exiting process completely on their … [Read more...]

New NLQ Series: The God Card ~ Thoughts on Patriarchal Teachings, by Journey

A Good Man Will Make Sure Those Dishes Get Done (by Repenting For His Failure to Make Sure His Wife Does Them)   by JourneyOne of the most important things to do, in any arena of information, is to go directly to the source instead of relying on heresay. In posts to come, I intend to introduce direct statements from different leaders in the patriarchy movement, statements that will often include words I myself read, as I sought to obey God as a woman striving after His will, in a marriage that regularly left me confused, condemned and off-balance.The God Card ~ Thoughts on Patriarchal TeachingsAfter reading and hearing stories like the ones featured on NLQ, one of the primary a … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: Scooby Doo and the Angel

by SierraBy my eighth birthday, Anna’s church had become our own. My father attended sporadically, but my mother and I adopted a weekly ritual of driving forty minutes through the woods, to the highway, passing numerous small churches on our way to the secret annex of the YMCA. No one would have guessed there was a church there, unless they happened by as we all bustled in with our flowing skirts and dresses and exited under the mid-afternoon sun. My mother was enthralled, talking excitedly to Anna and her new friend Sheila every day. A frequent topic of conversation was her journal, in which she recorded her thoughts and prayers as well as verses from the Bible that seemed to answer e … [Read more...]

Patriarchy Across Cultures: Hard Day’s Night

by TapatiTapati January 1978It's been a hard day's night, and I've been working like a dog It's been a hard day's night, I should be sleeping like a log But when I get home to you I find the things that you do Will make me feel alright -- Lennon/McCartneyWe were still in the laundry room when I started having Braxton Hicks contractions more and more frequently. At about the same time my midwife, Manindra, let me know that she was moving to Hawaii and would be leaving shortly. This seemed rather sudden to me and I didn’t know what all was behind this move, but it made me anxious. I had just gotten to know her and was feeling confident about her skill. She told me that there was another … [Read more...]

It alienates people, pushes friends and loved ones away

by ErikaMy friend was waiting for me to convince her to help me run away. As my freshman year of high school plodded on, things at home became more and more constrictive and conservative. My friends from school started to drift away as my parents pulled the reigns in at home tighter and tighter. The few friends that stuck around were the ones that were known mostly as the "outsiders" at the public school, so they were of a rebellious and non-conformist attitude anyway.I always felt that my other friends had moved on from me, but I've found out recently that it wasn't that they moved on from me, but they had felt that my parents had pushed them away and that they were no longer welcome … [Read more...]


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