Daughter of the Patriarchy: Stuart of the Lovely Locks

 This is an installment of the Daughter of the Patriarchy series. Read the rest here.A couple of days after moving onto campus, Molly informed me that she was expecting a visitor. He was a friend from her Dungeons and Dragons group, coming by to pick up one of his books from their last game. Molly called him “Stuart of the Lovely Locks.”I turned around. “What?”“He has long hair,” she explained. “And it’s gorgeous. I just want to pet his hair all the time.”Of all the weird bonding moments. “I like long hair on guys,” I said shyly, and buried my face in a book. A sequence of long-haired men danced through my brain. I imagined the hair cascading down to his waist, li … [Read more...]

Who Was That Masked Man? Part 11

by CaluluI went home crying, shocked that my pastor had gone back on his word like that. It was a betrayal that left me reeling emotionally. Cried for days feeling a sense of deep betrayal. The pastor was quiet that week, no emails or phone calls.I told my husband that I thought the time was right for me to join him at the other church and that I had no intention of going back to the old church as a member ever again. He was the recipient that afternoon of quite a few emails from Tom Smith telling him that he was dicing with his very salvation by attending this main stream denomination filled with homosexual abortionists.Fast forward a week. Hubby and I both agree that the best … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: A Gendered Childhood Part 1

by Libby AnneRaised Quiverfull Introduction — A Gendered ChildhoodQuestion 1: How many siblings did you grow up with? Did responsibilities in your family differ by gender, with the girls having certain chores and the boys having others? Explain.Joe:My Mama was a very unique woman.  I’ll explain in a bit.  But first, I was the dead middle child of seven siblings.  The oldest was a girl, then twin boys, then me, then two more girls, and finally, the baby of the family, a boy.  If you’re familiar with any movies or television shows, you might see that it is regularly portrayed that siblings hate each other.  Especially boys hating on girls and the other way around.  Due … [Read more...]

Millipede: Part 12

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by MillipedeIn truth, our Pastor was going through a period of soul searching. In the years that we first met him, certain issues had driven him into the Patriot movement which in turn had exposed him to different variants of Christianity.Now, not quite a decade later, his experiences had found him wanting. He liked our church and the people in it, but he had also seen a lot of people leave in a huff. The hair splitting, the people who shied away from organized churches; coming from a traditional fundamentalist background, he felt that most people in the Patriot movement wanted to be a law unto themselves. He felt that they were Christian only on the surface and that they used it to … [Read more...]

NLQ Featured Writer: Sierra

Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network member, Sierra blogs at The Phoenix and the Olive Branch Emotional Incest Series by SierraEmotional Incest Part 1: The Junior Wife Emotional Incest Part 2: The Momma's Boy and the Other Woman Emotional Incest Part 3: The Bottom LineDaughter of the Patriarchy series by Sierra:A Terrible Secret Anything you can do, I can do in a skirt! Old- Girl in Young-Girl Disguise Scooby Doo and the Angel A Jewel or a Trash Can Hello, Miss Dog-Meat Two Snakes and a Virgin – the Serpent’s Seed Hairspray Casualties Signs Daughter of the Barren The Atheist The Sickness ~ Pt 1 The Sickness ~ Pt 2 “Why do you look that cow in t … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: Safe Now

by SierraPrincesses do NOT eat turkey legs.A month after my acceptance, I was moving onto campus for my first autumn semester at Rowling College.* Most of my community college credits had transferred, leaving me a semester ahead of that year’s incoming freshmen. The same summer, my mother and I had finally filled out the paperwork to get me a diploma from a Pennsylvania homeschooling agency. I was deeply self-conscious about the 2005 stamp on my diploma; it was an emblem of what I perceived as failure, as my other homeschooled friends liked to boast about graduating early, and I was a year late. I also desperately wanted to be part of a group of people my age, for once, s … [Read more...]

Revisiting Tapati’s Body Image Workshop: Day One Assignment

by TapatiFind some images online, in card shops, in books or magazines, or elsewhere of women (or men) whose body type resembles your own. It’s OK if this project takes more than one day, but spend at least 15 minutes per day on it until you have assembled several images. You might color-copy or scan some images if you go to the library to find them. When it comes to magazines, you might look in something other than fashion-oriented issues. Try everything from National Geographic to alternative press titles. Pagan magazines are a good bet for a variety of images.Older woman can find some wonderful images in a deck of cards entitled “Wisdom of the Crone.” You can find them … [Read more...]

NLQ Featured Writer: Libby Anne

Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network member, Libby Anne blogs at Love, Joy, Feminism The Beautiful Girlhood Doll by Libby AnneIntroduction (1) Faith & Fortitude (2) Purity & Contentment (3) Femininity & Grace (4) Enthusiasm & Industry (5) Home & Hospitality (6) Joy & Friendship (7) Submission & Obedience (8) Out of the Dollhouse and Into the Real World (9) The Broken Doll (10) I Am a Person, Not a Doll!Also by Libby Anne:Quiverfull Mothers It's About the DAUGHTERS Sons of PatriarchyRaised Quiverfull:Introducing, Raised Quiverfull!Raised Quiverfull: Introductory QuestionsEmotional Incest:Emotional I … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Living the Life Part 2

by Libby AnneRaised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning SummaryQuestion 3: How often did you, your siblings, and your parents read the Bible? Were you guided by your parents or pastors in how to interpret the Bible, especially certain passages, or were you generally free to form your own ideas about what the Bible said?Joe:Suffice it to say that I have read through the whole Bible about forty times.  We were required to read it daily after school. During the summer months, while on summer vacation, we had to read it every morning before breakfast.  Our interpretation of it came directly from Billy Boy G’s [Bill Gothard] reading of the text.  I got to the point wher … [Read more...]

Revisiting Tapati’s Body Image Workshop: Why Body Image Matters

by Tapati(Editorial note: after all this talk of modesty and body image I felt this is the right time to revisit Tapati''s entire Body Image Workshop. We all need to be reminded we're beautiful just as we are.)My involvement with the issue of body image came out of my encounter with the size acceptance movement in the late 1980s. I was fortunate enough to meet Ruah Bull, a body image educator. I had never heard of such a thing but soon I was exposed to her classes at Cabrillo College in Aptos, California. She had studied with body image guru Marcia Hutchinson and had joined with other large women to form a radical group that occasionally defaced billboards with thin models and … [Read more...]


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