My bulk subscription to Above Rubies recently arrived in the mail. Even though I left my Quiverfull beliefs and lifestyle over five years ago, I never bothered to remove myself from Nancy Campbell’s mailing list – so periodically, I still receive five copies of the magazine which claims to be “Strengthening Families Across The World.”
The lastest issue features a cover photo of Nancy’s daughters, Pearl and Serene making their FAT STRIPPING FRAPPA (even though it’s sweet, frothy, and creamy, it will strip off the pounds! … find the recipe in their new book, Trim Healthy Mama) and headlines to make a submissive Quiverfull wife drool:
- We Stopped Our Divorce
- Return to Common Sense
- Five Is Not That Many
- Debunking Overpopulation Myth
- Our Greatest Building Project
- Finding My Rest
- Free from the Curse
- Trusting the Designer
- Magic Pill Didn’t Work
- How to Respect Your Husband
[Insert barfing face here …]
Okay, I’ve been away long enough now that I can barely remember why Above Rubies magazine was so darn appealing to me. But I do remember that whenever that packet containing five copies came in the mail, whatever plans I’d had for that day were usually put on hold while I devoured every word of every article. And the whole time I was reading, I would be thinking about my friends with all their marital struggles … and I’d be so eager to pass around my extra copies so they, too, would have solid biblical solutions to enable all of us to love our husbands graciously with hope in our hearts.
[Insert eye rolling face here … LOL]
Toward the end, I was beginning to see through the unrealistic expectations. Rather than being inspired by Pearl and Serene’s perpetually thin figures and beautiful smiling faces, I was feeling just a little resentful of the constant pressure I felt to always look like a youthful, energetic cover girl rather than the middle-aged, worn out, tired mom of many that I am!
While making a real effort to conceal my discontentment which I feared was due to my waning faith, I managed to get in just a little dig when I posted about my daughter Berea’s reaction to the magazine on our family blog:
I just don’t like that …
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
Berea’s been reading the latest issue of Above Rubies ~ Nancy Campbell’s magazine to encourage women in their roles as wives and mothers. The magazine just came in the mail today and already, she told me, she’s read nearly every page ~ every word, in fact.
And what does Berea think? Weird people ~ they think about health, and they all have a bunch of kids (mostly boys). And they think they have to OBEY their husbands ~ “I just don’t like that,” she says.
Well ~ no kidding, ‘Rea. Who would?
With five daughters and a not-exactly-perfect husband, it’s sometimes hard not to sympathize with the feminists. ‹(ô¿ô)›
I’m so grateful now that my daughters never really caught on to the Quiverfull vision. Somehow, in all our diligent “training” we never managed to completely eradicate that little feminist spark that compels girls to recoil from the Above Rubies message of female self-abnegation and say, “I just don’t like that!”
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Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement. Over time, NLQ has developed into a valuable resource of information regarding the deceptions and dangers of the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle. Several more former QF adherents are now contributing their stories to NLQ and our collective voice makes these Quiverfull warnings impossible to dismiss or ignore.
NLQ Recommended Reading …
‘Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich
‘Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland
‘Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce