Quoting Quiverfull: A Convenient Time?

by Nancy Campbell at Above Rubies 

I remember someone saying to me when I was raising our children, “There is never a convenient time to have a baby!”

How true. If we wait for the perfect time, it will never come. There is always some trauma happening in our lives which could cause us to think that it is not an opportune time to embrace a child! But, when we receive the blessing of conception and a baby comes, the BABY ALWAYS FITS INTO THE FAMILY! AND WE WOULD NEVER EVER EVER BE WITHOUT THIS PRECIOUS CHILD.

God’s plans are always better than ours.

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • http://calulu.blogspot.com Calulu

    I wish Nancy would realize that if you have sex without birth control you’re going to get pregnant. It isn’t a ‘blessing of conception’, it’s a biological fact that applies to us and to other mammals, like cats, dogs, pandas whatever. Sex = pregnancy if you don’t take care to prevent it.

  • http://concerningpurity.blogspot.com Lynn

    I would bet there are a lot of couples that wish their baby had come at a different time or not at all. It’s culturally taboo to admit such things in general, but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

  • Nightshade

    Most times to have a baby aren’t convenient, and I don’t know of anyone who has made complete, 100% advance preparations for their little ‘blessings,’ at least partly I think because you can never fully know and prepare for all possibilities. Even if it’s not the first child things can turn out very differently from what you expect and can plan for. However, there are ‘inconvenient’ times and there are purely disastrous times for starting/adding to a family, and the fact that things may end up working out OK even at those times doesn’t mean we should just close our eyes, hope for the best, and pray. Common sense, aren’t we supposed to use it?

  • http://omorka.blogspot.com/ Omorka

    Except, of course, for those of us struggling with infertility – which I suppose she’d claim is God withholding a blessing from us, rather than biology sometimes not doing what it’s supposed to do.

  • saraquill

    Babies don’t always fit well into a family, nor do they always fit well as they grow. Familial strife and abuse are not unheard of.

  • Nea

    It’s always been hard for me to wrap my head around the notion that the same people who claim that evolution “teaches children they are nothing but animals” then live *exactly like animals* when it comes to reproduction.

  • http://www.facebook.com/lucrezaborgia Lucreza Borgia

    My bestie planned their second child. Went off of BC with the husband’s permission and all that jazz, only to find out after the child was born that he actually didn’t want another child oh and he didn’t want to be with her anymore either. She scarified her mental health for this child by staying off her psych meds and breastfeeding for 2 years, forever changing the balance for her. Nearly 7 years later, and she’s still not OK. So no, babies don’t always fit in perfectly!

  • madame

    I agree with most of what you said, Nightshade, but I think there are people who have planned their childbearing years well, and they don’t have as rough a path as those who threw all caution to the wind.
    Perfect timing? No, but good planning and using that God-given common sense, yes.

  • Persephone

    Didn’t Nancy only have six children?

  • chervil

    This is just more anti feminist straw man nonsense thinly wrapped up in biblical godly. Only selfish, selfish, materialistic, self centered, career oriented, child hating bitter feminists would ever think that babies are inconvenient. To keep herself in business, Nancy exploits that straw man and pretends not to understand the very basics of reproduction.

  • A.Roddy

    I wonder if they woudl go into a third-world country and say the same thing. You are of the Devil if you child-free on purpose. yes Nancy has 6 kids. One of the daughters had a husband who quit his job because he thought God told him to. If I recall correctly, he let the house get in shambles and without heat. The daughter and kids ran around the house to keep warm . They joked about the electircity cut off. One of Nancy’s sons is a well-off musician in Nashville and her daughter lives in a squalor or did. I suppose they still live there. These people view kids as some kind of reward like God favors you over everyone else and never mind they need food and roofs over their head.


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