Quoting Quiverfull: Keep Sunny?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies – A Sunny Attitude

On a cold day, isn’t it nice to sit by a window where the sun is streaming through. You feel warmed and comforted inside and out. A cloudy day may cause you to feel dismal; a sunny day fills you with joy and positivity.

What kind of an attitude do you have as you mother your children in your home? Is it a cloudy attitude, filled with frowns, sighs and grumblings. Or do you have a sunny attitude, filled with joy and happiness? This is the kind of attitude that makes your home a place where everyone loves to be. Your children are content and happy. Your husband can’t wait to get home to enjoy the loving atmosphere.

How do you keep sunny? Smile continually. Smile at your husband and children each time you look at them. Laugh lots. They say that children laugh 300-400 times a day whereas adults only laugh an average of 15 times a day. How boring. Change that statistic in your home. Praise the Lord in every situation and look up to the Lord instead of dwelling on your problems and challenges.

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.

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Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich

Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland

Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce

 

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  • Saraquill

    Children are not stupid, they can pick up on things like forced merriment.

  • brbr2424

    When your tormentor can beat you at any moment for no apparent reason it just ads to the PTSD that she is grinning. This woman has no credibility as a mother after being involved in abusing those Liberian children.

  • Madame

    I actually agree with her on this issue. I tend to see my household chores as that. Chores. I want to get out there sometime and get a job where people actually appreciate my work (a paycheck!) and don’t run away from me or try to hide when I call their names. I feel like the unpaid boss and everyone’s servant all tied in one package. All the responsibility and all the menial work. And I’m officially unemployed, so my work doesn’t count.

    I agree that someone has to set the tone of the home, and who can do that better than the person who spends most time caring for it? In our case, that’s me.
    I don’t agree with never showing signs of strain, stress, frustration… children learn how to express these in a healthy way from us.

    So, Nancy, I agree with your premise of being positive, smiling, and being grateful for what we have, but I don’t agree with covering up feelings and pretending everything is ok when it isn’t.

  • Nightshade

    Me too. If one partner is working a full time job and the other isn’t it just makes sense for the one employed for fewer or no hours to pick up whatever slack happens at home, and that person (male or female) is contributing in non-paycheck terms. It IS important that someone do the laundry, prepare food, take care of children, whatever, and attitude goes a long way towards making anything endurable. It becomes bad advice when it’s used to sweep problems under the rug and avoid dealing with them, covering them with ‘Everything’s great, keep smiling no matter what!!!’

  • Madame

    QF/P sure knows how to take good advice meant to make a person’s life happier and turn it into law that condemns anyone who doesn’t follow it. ” Attitude makes a difference” becomes “get your attitude in line with these Bible verses or else!”

    They turn logical arrangements (like one parent taking time off paid work to care for the family) and turn it into a mandate for women to never get a paid job outside of the home.

    They are masters at placing burdens and shackles on people. They remind me of the Pharisees….


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