Quoting Quiverfull: Sleepovers are Molest-Fests?

by Lori Alexander of Always Learning Blog and DarleneSchacht’s Time-Warp Wife

Rachel Campos-Duffy writes parenting blogs and wrote one on when the right time is to allow sleep overs and she was shocked how many women commented and said it was at sleep overs that they were molested as children.  Her husband is a DA and she said he deals with this issue a lot also.


We rarely allowed our children sleep overs.  I will never forget Ruth Graham Bell saying that she wanted all her children under her roof at night.  I agreed with her.  With the proliferation of pornography, even in Christian homes, we must be very proactive in protecting our children.

I went to sleep overs when I was young.  I remember doing seances, playing with a Ouija board, playing spin the bottle, eating tons of junk food; nothing that was productive or healthy.  Thankfully, I was never molested but I could see how it could easily happen if there are older brothers in the home, step-fathers, uncles, etc.

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.

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Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich

Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland

Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce

 

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  • Joy

    Molestation can occur in many places other than sleepovers. If we don’t allow our children to take part in activities because someone was once molested during that activity or in that place, there are going to be very few safe activities or places. And home will easily be one of the most unsafe places!

    I find it interesting that she didn’t list fathers in her list of potential abusers.

  • Petticoat Philosopher

    Lots of people are molested in churches too. Ban churches!

    Also, older brothers and step-fathers (and, um, fathers) are in homes regardless of whether or not there are children there that are not their own siblings, step-children, or children. If they really are inclined to molest children, they can easily stick to their own kin. So…ban homes!

    Also, as usual, these people see porn absolutely everywhere.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I don’t know about the rest of you here but as a kid and during my children’s years you only allowed a sleepover at houses/parents you knew well. It’s not like you’re sending the kids out to sleep at a NAMBLA member house.

    Plus lots of churches hold sleepovers, some coed, and lock ins. Does that make it molestly too?

    I swear I think they come up with things to worry about just for fun

  • http://biblicalpersonhood.wordpress.com/ Retha Faurie

    That is a good observation: She did not mention fathers as potential abusers. Nor did she mention any females – yes, some children are molested by women.

  • Jayn

    “And home will easily be one of the most unsafe places!”

    Right, we need to send all our children out in the world where we can’t know where they are so we can’t hurt them. I can’t help but think of South Park’s “Child Abduction Is Not Funny” episode.

  • Fledgeling Feminist

    I don’t know…for better or worse I’ve never liked the idea of sending my kid to a sleepover. A sleeping kid is a vulnerable kid. You have to trust every member of that household, plus every other kid invited, without knowing what some of them have seen or experienced. And I have known at least one friend who was molested at one, so I think it’s smart to be aware of risk. That being said, yes she left out fathers or women as potential abusers.

  • Kristen Rosser

    Sleepovers are helpful in giving children experience of being away from their parents. Yes, it’s important that you meet the parents first and have some idea of what will happen at the sleepover. But the goal of parenting is supposed to be to help your children grow up to be independent adults. QF, on the other hand, wants children to remain dependent on their parents into adulthood, so it’s no surprise that they find reasons to scare parents away from sleepovers.

  • Baby_Raptor

    Paranoid much?

  • Madame

    I’d only let my children spend the night with people I trust. All three of them have spent a night at their pre-school as part of the program. They loved it! The only one who didn’t like the actual sleeping part was my middle child because he wet his bed, but the teachers were very discreet about it and it’s not like he was the only one!

    Ruth Bell Graham may have wanted her children under her roof every night when they were little. Later on, she sent them to boarding school, whether they liked the idea or not!

  • http://yllommormon.blogspot.com/ aletha

    Having been molested in my home by my father, I think I would have preferred more sleepovers…

  • Theo Darling

    I’m 25 and ALL I WANT TO DO is play spin the bottle. Never had a chance to do it. And now something is missing from my life.


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