Quoting Quiverfull: Motherhood is a Calling?

by Rachel Jankovic posted on John Piper’s blog Desiring God – Motherhood is a Calling

Motherhood is not a hobby, it is a calling. You do not collect children because you find them cuter than stamps. It is not something to do if you can squeeze the time in. It is what God gave you time for.

Christian mothers carry their children in hostile territory. When you are in public with them, you are standing with, and defending, the objects of cultural dislike. You are publicly testifying that you value what God values, and that you refuse to value what the world values. You stand with the defenseless and in front of the needy. You represent everything that our culture hates, because you represent laying down your life for another—and laying down your life for another represents the gospel.

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • herewegokids

    Sometimes I think I just can’t handle any more of this. Where to even start?

  • Independent Thinker

    ” You are publicly testifying that you value what God values, and that you refuse to value what the world values.” Probably the most true passage in the entire statement. Having been around many quiverful families myself when your child doesn’t have appropriate clothing for the weather, looks like they only shower once or twice a week, and seem to be lacking good nutrition based on looking at tell tale signs like dark circles under the eyes what does that say about your values? Does it say you care about quantity over quality it sure does. Yes, the world values healthcare, education, hygiene, and nutrition. Is there anything wrong with that, nope. One more thing fortunately our culture hates neglect so if you feel like a battle is being placed on your family there way very well be a logical reason why. How is neglect part of God’s plan?

  • NeaDods

    So much martyrdom, so little realization that secular women have and love kids too. Since when were children not valued in the world?

  • Periphrastic

    As usual, all the talk of modesty only applies to clothes, not all this PAY ATTENTION TO ME I’M IMPORTANT stuff.

  • Lolly

    Always looking for attention, me, me, me. If I go outside with my children and don’t feel like a total victim every time, well then what’s the point.

    I understand the counter culture thing, it only feels like you’re doing something at all when there are enemies and those who are in and those who are out. It’s no good if no one is watching. But honestly, no one is paying that much attention. Everyone has their own things to deal with. Some people are so drowning in their own self importance that they think everyone is looking at them all the time. It’s common among teenagers, adults tend to do their own thing without obsessing over what other people think. It’s like high school that never ends.

  • teaisbetterthanthis

    Secular women (and non-Christian-fundamentalist religious women) don’t have precious arrows of God. They have kids.

    QF women are SPECIAL because they have precious arrows of God, not just regular kids.

  • Fledgeling Feminist

    I think the defensiveness comes from the fact that qf practice makes even women who genuinely like children lose that joy. if you keep having kids, you will eventually run out: of time, patience, money, health, and sleep. thats why they have to connect it with martyrdom (to make their lIves make sense) and denigrate women who have 2 kids and balance kids with work, hobbies, and relationships, as if that’s the real tragedy. I’ll bet most qf women have moments when they realize it would be nice to have 2 kids and honestly enjoy them alongside other loves.

  • Donsie

    These people sure do fetishize their own sense of oppression and rejection, don’t they?

  • mayarend

    Well, if it’s a calling, then it’s not for everyone.

    And if it’s not for everyone, STOP trying to get everyone to have a gazillion kids or judging them for not doing so!

  • Trollface McGee

    “Motherhood is not a hobby, it is a calling”
    And plenty of people don’t get that calling, or only get that feeling a few times in their life, but hey.. I’m sure she knows better than God.

    “You do not collect children because you find them cuter than stamps.”
    No, and you should not collect them to fill some imaginary quiver or to prove your husband’s virility.

    “It is not something to do if you can squeeze the time in. It is what God gave you time for.”
    Exactly. Which is why you should only have the amount of kids you have the time to raise, not expect your older kids to become their surrogate parents.

    When you are in public with them, you are standing with, and defending, the objects of cultural dislike.
    I don’t know anyone (except fundies who think born children are bundles of sin that need to be beaten on a regular basis) who has a cultural dislike for children.

    “You are publicly testifying that you value what God values, and that you refuse to value what the world values.”
    Oh.. so it’s bad to have kids because you think kids are cute, but it’s fine to have kids as a propaganda piece for your political agenda..gotcha.

    “You represent everything that our culture hates”
    Help, help! I’m being repressed!

    “because you represent laying down your life for another”

    Having a goal of having lots of kids, then accomplishing your goal of having lots of kids is like the opposite of sacrifice. (Unless she means that the kids sacrifice – their childhoods, their futures, their educations.. but I doubt she means that)

  • Hannah

    Motherhood is a calling for many women, but certainly not all. It is also not the ONLY calling a woman can have. I will be a mother eventually, but at the same time I also want to go out and have a career answering 911 calls. Or doing social work. Still undecided.


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