Answers to last week’s question: If I love my husband….
Independent Thinker: If I love my husband I will………………
Leave the house to run errands, Christmas shop, or get my hair done during all Green Bay Packer games that do not fall on a holiday so my husband can watch the game in peace.
I will not text him at work because he has a real job that requires him to go to all day conferences or sit thru five hour meetings. My text messaging would effect his job performance and he needs to be focused at work most of the day.
I will prioritize taking care of my health because I don’t want to burden him with preventable health problems that could have been addressed before they got seriously bad.
I will be his wife not his mom.
Not feel insecure when he wants to go do something without his wife. I will instead fill that time pursuing my own interests so when he gets home I will have something to talk about other than kids, cooking, or cleaning which seems to bore him in most conversations.
Saraquill: If I love my husband I will…
Be honest with him.
Treat him as a person and not as an idol or an incompetent being.
Maintain open communication.
Discuss the important things that we disagree upon, rather than bottle them up.
Not make him play into other people’s idea of a husband.
LoriVK: If I love my husband I will…
Not cook for him, because neither of us enjoy that.
Make sure he has clean socks and underwear.
Learn about NFL football, teach him about NHL hockey
Have my own interests and my own friends, and not be at all concerned that he has his own thing and his own friends.
Laugh, a lot, and be silly.
Be grateful every day that he didn’t want children as much as I didn’t want children, and remembering that common life goals is what brought us together in the first place.
Never say “I told you so”.
Never say anything mean, just to hurt.
Be his biggest fan and staunchest supporter, but also tell him when he’s acting like an ass.
Teach him about feminism, and learn from him about political and public policy.
Remember that we’re a team, and we’re better together than battling this world as individuals.
Bekabot: Men eat dark chocolate? This is the first I’ve heard of it. In the land of gender roles, aren’t women supposed to eat the dark chocolate while men eat hamburgers (with no lettuce on top)? I’m so confused now. Please instruct…
AlisonCummins: Be honest and trustworthy.
Not burden him with the expectation that he must meet all my needs, even sexual ones.
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NLQ Recommended Reading …
‘Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich
‘Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland
‘Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce