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When someone has experienced one or more traumatic events, they will sometimes re-experience the intense and disturbing reactions they suffered during the original trauma if something in their environment reminds them of the traumatic event. These reminders, which are often referred to as Triggers, can be a wide variety of things:
- a person that reminds the survivor of the abuser
- a situation, such as sexual abuse that took place in the bathroom triggering someone during a show or a place or anniversary date of the trauma
- a sensation, such as someone wearing the same cologne as the abuser
- a feeling, example the survivor feeling helpless because they are not able to complete a task or control a situation and reacting by having a melt-down because they felt helpless when there were abused.
- an object
Triggers can be so subtle that they can be difficult to identify and therefore make the emotional and behavioral responses of an abused individual difficult to understand. Extreme reactions are often misunderstood as willful behavior that the survivor ‘chooses’ when, in fact, they may be set off by one or more trauma reminders.
Written by a clinical social worker that wishes to remain unnamed.
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