“Modesty is Hottest” and Girls’ Self Confidence

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismBy now, you’ve probably heard “modest is hottest” thrown around like a mantra. There are “modest is hottest” fashion shows and “modest is hottest”conferences for girls. It’s about time I weighed in.Frankly, I’m conflicted. When I was a teen striving to dress modestly, I struggled with body image. I covered my body in baggy clothing. I felt unattractive, and that affected how I carried and viewed myself. So I like the idea that in many churches girls like I was are now being encouraged to think about fashion and dress in a way that makes them feel confident and good about themselves. That’s a good thing! … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Michael and Debi’s Love Story – Part Two

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide(Editor's note: I know I'm posting these out of sequence. I overlooked the continuation of the Pearl's love story. Rectifying that now. This is what happens when you kill off brain cells listening to the Duggars, Swanson and others daily.) Preparing to Be A Help Meet: Debi and Michael's Love Story - Part TwoIn Part One, Debi goes to a youth gathering at a local church and is told by God that she's going to marry Michael Pearl.  She's 13.  He's approximately 21.  Yipee.Debi goes home and tells her mom the good news:"Then I casually told her that God had spoken to me and told me that, when I grew up, the preacher g … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Protecting Sons?

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Blogger Bunker Down has written an excellent rant about modesty - How the modesty police are hurting my son If you want your daughter (and hopefully son) to dress modestly because you want them to value their intrinsic self over their outer self?  Fabulous.  If you want your daughter (and hopefully son) to dress modestly to create healthy attitudes toward sexuality?  Great.  If you want your daughter (and hopefully son) to dress modestly to glorify the Creator of all things?  Boo-ya.  If you want your daughter (and hopefully son) to dress modestly because it is a long standing tradition of your church/synagogue/people/culture/or group?  Awesome possum. … [Read more...]

The Female Body, a Source of Contamination

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI recently came upon a blog post titled “How the Modesty Police Are Hurting My Son,” in which blogger Ami writes about trying to teach her son that he is responsible for his own actions even as those around her tell him that girls are responsible for covering up so as to “protect” him. As I looked through the mostly positive comments on her post, I was struck by this one: I think it’s great that you teach your child all these things—and I think it’s great that parents teach their children modesty. And sometimes it is to protect boys—they can’t un-see a girl’s body once it’s been seen barely clad. Many parents teach their childre … [Read more...]


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