Found on Ladies Against Feminism and written by Tim Challies of Challies.com – Why Marriage is Better Than Cohabitation
Editor’s note: Most of the reasons to marry instead of live together in this article aren’t bad ones. Some are the same arguments I’ve cited in my review of Vaughn Ohlman’s book as a reason not to do marriage his way without a marriage license. Things such as legally protecting the rights of inheritance for the surviving spouse and protects the children born of the relationship if one party or the other decides to abandon the family. Those are good reasons to marry. However, getting married to make everyone around you that cannot figure out what your relationship actually is more comfortable is silly. The silliest part is that Challies has it listed as the number one reason, over legal protection. Other people’s relationship making you feel uncomfortable is your problem and none of your business!
Marriage Is Unambiguous
Unlike cohabitation, marriage is unambiguous. In fact, in most cases cohabitation is deliberately in its ambiguity. “When a man and woman begin sleeping together and perhaps move in together, the rest of us are left guessing as to what exactly is the basis of their relationship. Clearly they have agreed to sleep together, as otherwise it would be rape. But what have they promised one another, if anything? On what basis or shared understanding are they together?” The answers will vary from couple to couple and may range from a very minimal level of commitment to a very significant one. But there always remains a measure of uncertainty. Often each of the partners will have different levels of commitment or expectation—one thinking that moving in together marks the beginning of something permanent while the other regards it as a mere trial period. All the while the rest of us are uncertain how to relate to them as they live together and if and when they dissolve their relationship. The relational ambiguity is especially apparent when one of them dies. “Who is the next of kin? With whom should we grieve most deeply? The parents, or the live-in partner?” Marriage helpfully resolves this lack of clarity.
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