Quoting Quiverfull: Irritated With Your Husband?

Quoting Quiverfull: Irritated With Your Husband? February 19, 2017

quotingquiverfullby Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife – Mutual Annoyances and Daily Pinpricks

Editor’s note: Today Lori takes the words of C.S. Lewis β€˜Screwtape Letters’ and replaces the mother with wife before telling you that you cannot be irritated with your husband ever. I’m sorry to tell her but that is very dangerous advice. There are just going to be those little annoyances between people living closely together. You have a choice in how you react, true, but it’s much more emotionally healthy to approach your spouse in a non-blaming non-threatening way and say, β€˜You know, when you do X, Y or Z it makes me feel this way. Do you think you could remember not to do that thing?’ Nothing wrong with a request like that. Nagging or trying to fight about it is as counterproductive as ignoring it. We’re humans, it’s going to happen so it’s best to realize this and have a plan for dealing with it. There are respectful ways to handle these things that do not involve swallowing your emotions.

β€œBuild up between you in that house a good settled habit of mutual annoyance; daily pinpricks.” I am sure every single one of you can relate to this. How many things does your husband do that irritates you? Have you learned to stop allowing it to bother you or do you nag him to death about it? The first way builds your home up and the second one tears it down. As soon as you feel the slightest of irritation towards him, begin singing in your thoughts or out loud,Β β€œTurn your eyes upon Jesus. Look full in His wonderful face and the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace” and remind yourself that love is longsuffering and kind.

One of the worst things a wife can do isΒ over analyzeΒ her husband’s words and behaviors.Β Instead, learn to not get offended easily for getting offended easily is another word for self-pity and self-pity is satanic. When you find yourself becoming critical towards your husband and falling into a pit of self-pity, quickly take these thoughts captives to the Lord Jesus Christ. β€œI don’t think this way anymore. I am a new creature in Christ and choose to believe the best about my husband!” Make sure your words, actions, and facial expressions towards him are respectful as well, since this honors the Lord.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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