How to Encourage Your Husband: Part 2 – Verbalize

How to Encourage Your Husband: Part 2 – Verbalize April 21, 2017

EncouragingThis is a series looking at the marriage advice given in Nancy Campbell’s book β€˜How to Encourage Your Husband’.

While packing for a move I have turned up are books, terrible idiotic books filled with toxic advice. One of those books is by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies β€˜How to Encourage Your Husband’. I think I ended up with this book in the aftermath of leaving my old church, given to me by one of my former friends that thought it would β€˜help’ my marriage since in her eyes my husband leaving our old church meant that I wasn’t doing my job of wife well enough. Reading through this book now I cannot help but laugh at some of the suggestions. The book is entirely written by commenters and comments from Nancy Campbell’s website.

Marriage Changing Words

When I want to see my husband’s face glow I tell him, β€œThank you.” His response is always a little smile and a questioning look on his face. β€œFor what?” he’ll ask. I give him an answer such as…

  • β€œFor the three pairs of wet panties from our potty-training two-year old.
  • β€œFor the joy of hearing our six-year-old little daughter read her first words today.”
  • β€œFor the total excitement of watching our son kick a goal in the game on Saturday.”
  • β€œFor this beautiful home that keeps me warm while I snuggle and nurse yet another sleepy baby.”
  • β€œFor working so hard today and coming home tonight.”
  • β€œFor your prayers over me and our children on your lunch break. Honey I could go on and on. I have everything I have ever wanted right here, and I thank you that you let me enjoy being what God intended me to be.”

He looks at me and says, β€œReally?” I nod and assure him that I mean it. Really!

Our home is humble. The dishwasher, oven and stove are really old. Our cabinet doors are coming apart. The windows are not β€œenergy efficient” because they let in whatever temperature we are trying to keep out! Everything my children and I wear comes from someone else’s closet to ours. But, my husband knows I am content. He knows I am thankful for everything I haveβ€”mostly for him and our children. He knows he is king of this earthly castle, and he is respected and adored. And despite what others called a β€œhopeless marriage,” we now have a marriage made in heaven. Saying β€œThank you” has made a difference!

While having a good attitude in adversity and accepting situations as they are is a good thing there’s just something about all of this that seems so wrong. What do you think?


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