Questioning the Pearls – Stop Being a Sissy Boy?

QuestioningthePearlsA husband writes to Michael Pearl complaining that his wife does not obey or respect him. Pearl starts off by calling him names.

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give.

Original letter and long reply here:

First the letter:

She has absolutely no respect for me, is very rebellious toward me, and outwardly refuses to obey me in nearly every manner possible. She does not acknowledge that I have any authority over her. I have told her that she needs to obey me and leave it up to God to deal with me if I am wrong. I am heartbroken. I have been unable to make her happy in nearly everything for years. I feel that she needs a serious trial to bring her to her senses. I want God to do this, but… We have been married nearly 30 years. I don’t want a divorce, but I do want her to be my true Help Meet.

Michael’s reply:

Why should your wife have respect for you when you don’t have respect for yourself? You sound like a 13-year-old boy, whining because his six-year-old sister won’t treat him with respect. Did this wife, with hair on her chest, crush the man in you, or did you bring your insecurity to the marriage? It really doesn’t matter how you answer; the cure is the same.

I cannot tell you how to MAKE your wife lovely. I can tell you how you should conduct yourself as a man and a husband, which MAY result in her becoming a worthy help meet. Even God is unable to change men and women who will not cooperate. However, there is hope. There is a way that offers great promise for the redemption of your marriage. But first you must obtain for yourself that which is readily available to make you the husband and MAN you need to be.

Michael follows this with a big bunch of word salad that is about as helpful as calling this guy a boy.


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