by Lori Alexander from her blog The Transformed Wife and the posts Jinger Duggar is Now Freed From Wearing Dresses, Feminists Have Done Violence to Mothering, and finally Hardness of Heart is at the Root of All Failed Marriages
Editor’s note: Rather than drag this out over days I’m just posting a long list of her toxic ideas this week. It’s easier on my nerves and gag reflex. It’s kinder on all of us, like putting Old Yeller out of his misery instead of letting him suffer endlessly.
We were discussing in the chat room the fact that Jinger Duggar is now wearing pants since she got married and some women outside of the chat room are clearly excited about it. This sentiment bothered me since it made it seem as if she was in “bondage” in her parent’s home but now she’s “free.” I have heard those who hate Christianity state the same sentiment and as believers in Christ, we should support other believers in their convictions.
If Jim Bob and Michelle have the convictions that females should only wear skirts and dresses just below the knee, we should applaud them for having convictions and sticking to them instead of rejoicing when one of their daughters walks away from that conviction when she marries. In saying this, I have no problem with Jinger wearing pants now since it must be okay with her husband who is her head now and not her father. It’s no big deal but not something to celebrate since she wasn’t in bondage in her parent’s home!
Many women today love clothing and fashion, especially in America. Our closets are packed full and it’s easy to be looking for new clothes to spend money on even though we have plenty.
Our clothing should cover the body, which is pretty much a given. We also need to be careful to not waste time shopping for clothes or spending a lot of money on it, but instead, we need to care a lot more about serving and helping others.
Unfortunately, feminists have not only controlled the public image of secular women but Christian women as well. Many Christian women seem to be as unsubmissive to their husbands as women who are not believers and Christian women are working in full-time careers in almost the same numbers as those women who don’t claim the name of Christ. Instead of searching scriptures for God’s will for their lives, they go along with our culture instead, sadly.
Anyone who fights for subsidized child care is fighting for something that is not from the Lord. Children need their mothers full time. The last thing mothers need is more incentives to leave their children in the care of others all day long. They need incentives to stay home with their children and care for them.
Then there are acquaintances and friends of ours who love the Lord. I hate to say this but their numbers aren’t growing much either. They marry late and then put off having children due to the women having careers. Then if they have children, they only have a few since they want their “freedom” to travel and enjoy life before children come onto the scene. They waste valuable fertile years to pursue pleasure instead of bearing and raising godly offspring.
Hardness of Heart
I have always believed this especially since Jesus is the one who said it. Divorce wasn’t ordained by God and is never promoted in God’s Word. For what God hath joined together, let no man tear asunder. Moses allowed a certificate of divorce but only due to the hardness of their hearts. As believers, we should never be accused of having hardened hearts.
I believe bitterness is the root of it all for it defiles many and we are warned about it in God’s Word. Whenever you feel resentment and bitterness creeping into your minds towards your husband, break out in praise and thanksgiving. This is the best antidote to bitterness. You can’t have bitterness or critical thoughts in your life if you are singing praise to the Lord and are thankful for all that He has blessed you with.
My parents didn’t have a good marriage for many years but they modeled to the three of us commitment even when it was hard and they didn’t feel in love and weren’t “happy.” They knew there was more to marriage than just seeking self-fulfillment and doing what was best for them. They had made the commitment to each other until death do they part and now they are blessed with three daughters who have been married over thirty years each and ten grandchildren, eight of whom are very happily married. (Two still are not married.) There are rich blessings in obeying the Lord for He is the one who promises that we reap what we sow.
The only transformation I see in the life of Ms. Alexander is that from innocent child to angry, frustrated, bitter woman.
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