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by Doug Wilson from Blog and Mablog – Occasions and Causes
Editor’s note: Oh good grief! Doug is blaming this fictional gay man’s lack of attraction to females on the man’s mother. Then he reverses and says that no matter how your mother has affected you that you cannot blame her. Evangelical word porn Twister. He blames his fictional gay for being gay, like it’s some random choice he made instead of something biologically hard-wired into the man. Sexuality is not a choice.
That said, you described numerous clashes with your mother in your high school years. They tapered off when you were in college because you simply avoided going home. You said that your relationship with your father was decent, but tinged, as you put it, with “mild disappointment and contempt.” You don’t have collisions with him, but you fault him for the way he allowed your mother to browbeat your sisters. You view your father as something of a letdown, and your mother as an adversary.
Now one of the more obvious things about male homosexual desires is that they constitute a rejection of women. There are various ways that men get there, but in your case—going from your description—it appears to have been something like “if this is what women are like, I don’t want one.” This reaction, this pulling away, can begin pretty early—long before adolescence, long before you were thinking in sexual terms at all.
Having stated this, somewhat baldly, let me go back to what I meant by saying that your mother was the occasion for your sexual development, and not the cause of it. We are moral agents, responsible for what we do as individuals. You—and you only—are responsible for your sexual decisions. In the event that your mother is converted, and comes to the point of repentance, she would have to repent of the things she did. She would have to repent of being domineering, overbearing, and so on. She would not have to repent of your poor reactions to it. She would of course feel sorrow that she had been the occasion of your stumbling, but there should be no element in your thinking where you can just simply “blame your parents.”
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.
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