Quoting Quiverfull: If He Cheats Immediately Forgive?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - When He Comes Home After An AffairEditor's note: Taking a very short break from finishing up Michael Pearl's vile Infant Manifesto to bring you this bit of toxic 'change your husband by your submission without a word'. This is actually not written by Lori, but by one of her Facebook followers about how difficult it was to get over her husband's affair. While salvaging your marriage when a spouse cheats is really something that is only the business of the husband and wife involved applying the more submission and no talking is really a recipe for disaster later on down the road. Of the many marriages I observed in my old faith community that … [Read more...]

On Fornicators and Misfits

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental1It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife. 2And ye are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he that hath done this deed might be taken away from among you. 3For I verily, as absent in body, but present in spirit, have judged already, as though I were present, concerning him that hath so done this deed, 4In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when ye are gathered together, and my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ, 5To deliver such an one unto Satan for the d … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 – Infant Manifesto?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Infant ManifestoEditor's note: Now Michael flips the script to the beaten child justifying Michael's constant calls to beat childen into submission starting around 6 months old. I am not old enough to read, but I heard my parents reading that article called Infant Manifesto. I wanted to respond, but I can’t write yet, so I dictated this to my older sister—she is three years old—and she wrote it down on our new computer. If it weren’t for that grammar and spell check, I don’t believe she could have done it. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated – Part 1 Chapter 12

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows & Kids CollideQuoted text from the book in blue text.Chapter 12 is titled "What a Man Needs at His Side: How to Become a Girl a Man Would Want as a Wife as Well as a Friend.  Ironically, I can start by parsing the problems with the title of the chapter.The first word of the chapter title is an interesting Freudian slip.  The Botkin Sisters use "What" - a term used to designate an object in English - instead of "Who".  A man apparently doesn't need a woman; he needs a tool. Girls shouldn't marry.  Girls are by definition immature and still growing.  A man who is looking for a wife is looking for a woman or a lady.  (If a man is loo … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Infant Manifesto?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Infant ManifestoEditor's note: This final bit of the original manifesto has all the Pearl strawmen/boogiemen under the bed in it. It bashed government public schools, modern medicine, behavioral sciences, people's needs and individuality. … [Read more...]

The Emotional Effects of Divorcing God

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEvangelicals-turned-atheists are often accused by Christian zealots of being angry and/or bitter. The goal is to dismiss the intellectual reasons people deconvert, painting former Evangelicals as emotionally damaged goods. By doing this, Evangelicals are free to say things such as, you are just mad at God or my all-time favorite, someone hurt you. Of course, this argument works both ways. Few Christian converts convert solely for intellectual reasons. I have heard hundreds of salvation testimonies, and every one of them had an … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Infant Manifesto?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Infant ManifestoEditor's note: More of this vile blaming by Mr. Pearl of babies for actually having needs and expecting their parents to meet those needs. This has some added bashing of public schools too. He leaps right from babyhood to school without anything in between. … [Read more...]

Questioning the Pearls: Church or Children?

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Infant Manifesto

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Infant ManifestoEditor's note: Babies thinking and talking about breaking their parents will before their own first birthday is one of the more twisted things to come from the brain of Michael Pearl. He clearly knows nothing about infant development or needs. This is sick. … [Read more...]

Benchmarking and the Secret Knowledge Bias of the Cult Leader

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace.Part of her series on Cognitive Biases. All images by Cindy Kunsman of Under Much Grace and used with permission. ~~~~~~Just a reminder that the purpose of this discussion aims at stimulating thought and self awareness as tools to help those in recovery from trauma learn how to make safer choices. To make the discussion more jocular, we've defined Cognitive Biases as “CranioRectal Inversions” (CRI).I've struggled with writing this installment because I hate when a person pulls a Blind Spot Bias subtype out of their hat as cult leaders often do... Or were they in full force all along, but it took time for me to finally … [Read more...]