Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How To Act Around Guys That You Like?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Be Good to Keep Others From Gossiping About You?

by Sarah Beth of Daughters of the King - BusybodyEditor's note: This blog is run by several girls that posted frequently at Debi Pearl's 'Preparing To Be A Help Meet' message board.  Another look into the fascinating juvenile mind set of young adult women raised in the extremes of fundamentalism and quiverfull. Someone complaining about a busybody and this young lady's take is that you have to extra good to stop the busybodies. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way, and that lifestyle seems to make most women think that they are cultural enforcers as well as wives an mothers. … [Read more...]

Part 5: Pitfalls in Personal Power – Adventures in Ambiguity

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll imaged by Cindy Kunsman of Under Much Grace used with permission In the previous post, we explored a couple of ways a person can work on their own to develop better Emotional Self-Regulation after exiting or after growing up in a high demand group. Healthy internal dialogue and building self concept provide individuals with a good opportunity to do a great deal of healing and growth on their own.The concept of “Locus of Control” comes from the study of the psychology of personality and is viewed as another important aspect or component of self concept. It refers to the amount of control that a person bel … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Getting to Know Your Intended Spouse Isn’t Needed?

by Anonymous from the blog Necessarily Anonymous - How I Learned to Stopping Worrying and Love Arranged Marriages Part 2Editor's note: Now he's saying that a few rational questions about lifestyle and theology are much more important than any amount of simply getting to know the person. What if everything theologian lines up but there's zero attraction, no spark and clashing personality types? Making sure theology is similar is somehow more important than those other indicators of future happiness? That's a recipe for a toxic relationship. … [Read more...]

March For Life & Site News

Just a quick note to let you know not to worry if NLQ does not update much this weekend. Right at this moment the Northern Virginia area is the middle of winter storm Jonas. There's about six inches on the ground that has fallen since noon. The area I am in is projected to get 30 inches or thereabouts if the Washington D.C. area weathermen are to be believed. With that much snow we sometimes lose power here in the Piedmont area. If that happens it will be impossible for me to update the site. Internet has been spotty already today. But we will return as soon as possible if the power goes out. … [Read more...]

Part 4 – The Map is Not the Territory: Adventures in Abiguity

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images in the piece by Cindy Kunsman and used with permission. And the territory is definitely not the map.   This saying came from a scientist and philosopher named Alfred Korzybski who launched the study of how human understanding and the nervous system intersected, particularly concerning how language shapes our perceptions. He was a Polish-born Russian who served in World War I as an intelligence officer, but he became a citizen of the U.S. In 1940.The original phrase that Korzybski coined in 1933 illustrates the problem of mistaking an abstraction of something for the genuine article. Another wise f … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Why Hand Holding in Courtship is a Slippery Slope to Sin?

by Anonymous from their blog Necessarily Anonymous - How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Arranged Marriages Part 2Editor's note: This is a newer quiverfull marry 'em off while they are young once daddy picks the spouse blogger I found through our old pal Vaughn Ohlman. I'm always dismayed to see Christians so hung up on every single small thing that they have to stop, study scripture and then extrapolate what they've read into ever more strict rules and don'ts. That type of legalism is a killer. It doesn't 'save' people from sin, it only makes them sneak around in a guilty fashion. … [Read more...]

Positive Affirmations and Manifesting

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixLife has changed so much for me the last several months. I honestly am still pinching myself. I got myself out of a living situation that was not conducive to healing, as well as a location that was physically not the best for my health. I'm living in Florida now, which has been my dream for quite some time... I'm finally free of the cold NY and PA winters. I'm surrounded by a totally new set of people... no one in my life now knew me before, and no one from my past contacts me now except two sisters. There is a possibility that I can work again in the future, get my career back. My physical health has been coming back to me faster than I im … [Read more...]

‘Christian’ or Christ-Like (Of Apes and Men)

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI recently introduced my younger sons to the Planet of the Apes movie series. Having worked our way through the 5 original movies (and turned a blind eye to the 2001 abomination) we then watched the 2011 reboot, 'Rise' and its sequel, 'Dawn'.Needless to say, the whole concept of two intelligent species vying for supremacy of the planet has given rise to some interesting conversations. Personally, I have found myself musing on the portrayal of the relationship between ape and mankind, and particularly the idea that both species had their share of 'good' and 'evil' characters. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: African Americans Are The ‘Real Racists’?

by Zsuzsanna Anderson from her blog Are They All Yours? - Joyous Kwanzaa? No Thanks!Editor's note: Every now and then one of the Quiverfull leaders will slip up and state that one of the aims of the Quiverfull movement is to outbreed darker races. Nancy Campbell has admitted it a couple of times along with a few others. Turns out, surprise, surprise, that Zsuzsanna Anderson, wife of pastor Steven L. Anderson is also a bigot against blacks. … [Read more...]


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