A Few Thoughts About Mental Illness and Depression

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserOriginally written 2011, edited, corrected.At the age of 54, my mother turned a .357 magnum Ruger revolver toward her chest and pulled the trigger. The bullet tore a hole in her heart and in a few moments she was dead. Mom had tried to kill herself many times before. This time she succeeded (please see the post Barbara).When I was 11, Dad had to call for an emergency squad because Mom had taken several bottles of prescription drugs. They rushed her to the hospital and pumped her stomach, and she survived to die another day. Later in the year, Mom and the neighbor lady were in a serious automobile … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Michael Pearl Defending His Strawman?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Spank and Save a ChildEditor's  note: So now Michael finally cites some verifiable sources, but it is only to claim it's his right as a parent to spank and that his types of beatings are not abusive like most other folks. Just because you call a pig a princess doesn't mean that it's wearing a crown and not in a barnyard. Everyone else can clearly see that the poor pig holds none of the attributes of royalty and that it's likely still coated in mud from the sty. It just means you cannot clearly see what is before you. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is It Okay To Join A Christian Group Just To Meet A Husband?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Michael Pearl Defending His Strawman?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Spank and Save a ChildEditor's note: Really, Michael? You're making assertions again without any legitimate evidence cited? No studies named? No links to studies, just the names of a few children's psychologists who said things about how spanking isn't that bad? If this is how you're going to defend yourself in that rumored law suit you're going to have a hard time winning. … [Read more...]

Part 2 – Emotional Self Regulation: Adventures in Ambiguity

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceIn the previous post, we explored the problem created by the black and white thinking that was forced upon us in a high demand religious group. This is especially difficult if we grew up in an ideological group, because we likely didn't see anyone model moderation or another way of thinking. We end up adopting the strategy that if one thing is bad and unsafe, it's extreme opposite is likely the best safe alternative.High demand groups don't tolerate uniqueness, and they make the mistake of defining uniformity as a type of unity. They don't tolerate much of anything that falls outside whatever their group defines as … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Michael Pearl Defending His Strawman?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Spank and Save a ChildEditor's note: Now Mr. Pearl starts seriously unpacking his usual strawmen of 'you're not hitting right,' 'you're hitting in anger,' 'we can teach you to hit right' and lastly 'hitting statistics in prisoners are meaningless'. Nice try Michael, but this is the same rehashing you always do. Just because you keep repeating things doesn't mean that people will believe what you are saying. … [Read more...]

Part 1 – Black and White Thinking After Exiting: Adventures in Ambiguity

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceI spent much time studying chemistry, thinking about the Bohr Model of the Atom, and I was so fascinated by the periodic table.  I suppose that along with math, it seemed like one of the few consistent things in my life.  Language could be misinterpreted, but chemistry presented a fixed, definitive type of truth.  And I lacked that in my life.How can something be true and untrue at the same time? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Michael Pearl Defending His Strawman?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Spank and Save a ChildEditor's note: This story of the screaming psychologist that slaps her children is one that pops up from time to time in Pearl's rhetoric whenever he has to point out that someone is spanking wrong or hitting the wrong way. Is there ever really a correct way to hit others? Studies seem to indicate that if you use any physical violence on your children you are teaching them that violence is an acceptable way to settle conflict. … [Read more...]

News: Duggars Hide Flight Plans for Their Airplane

One of the more curious pieces of news on TLC's Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar family is the recent change to their publicly available flight information. In the last few days the Flight Aware flight plan page for the newer Duggar-owned plane - the 2004 SR22 with the FAA registry number N68SY - has gone completely private. Looks like Jim Bob finally ponied up the extra dollars to make all the flight plans for the plane unavailable to anyone with Google and the easy to obtain information on their plane. … [Read more...]

Bonding and Bondage in Abusive Relationships

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the ShepherdIn case you're wondering why you can't "just get over it" from a painfully abusive or damaging or destructive relationship: Trauma bonding makes any relationship harder to end, harder to heal, harder to find freedom from through forgiveness, than the loss of a true love. The neural pathways burned into a brain in trauma bonding are laid down in powerful fear/anxiety hormonal rushes leaving even comparatively good memories with the person colored with the stains of those traumatic events. The loss of anyone we have loved -- whether they have treated us very well indeed or in a deplorable manner -- is something that will heal … [Read more...]


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