Kink 101 For Purity Culture Survivors

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [note: links may include NSFW material] There are many amazing resources out there for people who think they might be kinky or into BDSM, and I’ll link to some at the bottom of this post. However, if you’re anything like me … a lot of what’s out there seems conflicting and confusing, and because I grew up on the rather strict end of purity culture I didn’t have the tools to start sorting any of it out. I didn’t know anything about sex, and many of us don’t. Someone I met in college thought that semen was green because of a joke they’d heard about grass stains, and I thought that “going through the back door” meant doggy. An … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Christian Grey Isn’t a ‘Real Man’?

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by Tamara Rajakariar from Mercantor Net and as quoted and reposted by Ladies Against Feminism - A real man vs Mr GreyEditor's note: The ladies at LAF are still rattling on about the evils of the film 'Fifty Shades of Grey' and ignoring the Christian film response to the movie 'Old Fashioned' This isn't the only new link they've posted against 'Fifty Shades' since a few days ago. Why is this film so threatening to them beside the fact that there is absolutely no mentions of faith in it? It has a merciless dominating male in it, just like in the Christian Patriarchy Movement they all follow, who forces a woman to submit in every way to him. You'd think they might find the … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Ladies Against Feminism Losing It Over ’50 Shades of Grey’

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from Ladies Against Feminism and the seven quoted articles they tagged about sex, perversion and the movie '50 Shades of Grey'. Editor's note: Wow, seven articles about sexuality, pornography and what LAF considers perversion in just a couple of days? Sounds like someone has some sexuality issues they're working out. They don't even put up this many articles at once about abortion near Right To Life Sunday. For years at NLQ we've theorized that large parts of the patriarchy is obsessed with sex, as much sex as they can get, like the Pearl's honeymoon tale or Vaughn Ohlman's insistence you get married young to keep from committing sexual sin, but we've never examined the female psyche in … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Government Is Pushing Transgender On Teens?

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by Rev. James David Manning from Atlah World Missionary Church as quoted by Raw Story - NY Pastor "Justin Bieber is trans and 'cut off his breasts' because Obama's 'evil spirits' mislead himEditor's note: This pastor keeps popping up on national media in his competition with Steven L. Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church for the strangest fundamentalist Christian conspiracy theories. Here he blames transgenderism on the president. While this isn't really a QF issue necessarily it does neatly dovetail with those in the Quiverfull movement that are trying to demonize transgendered people, like Michelle Duggar and others more mainstream. This conspiracy theory is a little extra crazy … [Read more...]

Part 1 – Is It Possible To Be A Sex-Positive Christian?

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons If you’ve spent any time in feminist circles, you’ve probably bumped into the termsex-positive. It gets thrown around a bit, and one thing I’ve noticed is that it can occasionally be difficult to nail down what the writer/speaker means when they use it, so I’m going to offer a definition for what I mean when I use it. … [Read more...]

Rather Dead Than Queer

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To LiveI’m so cripplingly lonely. I have parents that think I shouldn’t be allowed to go out with friends more than once every couple months because they don’t want me to make friends that accept my gender. I never get any social interaction, I just sit in my room and listen to indie music and browse tumblr all day. My social anxiety is at an all time high and my stuttering is worse than it’s ever been. -Quote from Leelah’s TumblrI remember trying to figure out a way to explain. A way to describe how the rejection feels. Every statement about “god’s plan”, and “god’s design”, pounding it further and further into your head, that god does … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” Review: 177-206 “Can We___?”

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I knew before I sat down to read today’s chapter that it had been the one that people found controversial, but I wasn’t familiar with why it had upset some—and I have to admit that even after reading it I still wasn’t sure why it had apparently caused a hubbub. To me, it seemed as though Mark was toeing the conservative evangelical line pretty well. I mean, he was clearly “being Mark,” but he didn’t say anything that I wouldn’t have expected from a lot of other evangelical leaders. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull/News: Protest at Steven Anderson’s Faithful Word Baptist Church

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 by Ryan Van Velzer from the AZ Central - Protest held against Tempe pastor for AIDS commentsTurns out that a number of people showed up to protest Steven L. Anderson's hate speech calling for the deaths of gay Americans by Christmas to wipe out AIDS. They came from all denominations and no denominates. One pastor held communion for the crowd while a rabbi was also on hand. Anderson himself came out and spoke to the crowd. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Parents Need To Stop Minnesota From Ending Gender Distinctions In School Sports?

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from Ladies Against Feminism - What's a Social Engineer to do When Parents Get in the Way? and the source piece they are citing from The Federalist - Minnesota Plans To Eliminate Gender Distinctions For High School SportsThe ladies of Ladies Against Feminism were largely silent during the month of November except for a few posts about stylish modest clothing. Too bad they aren't  quiet now because they're joining in the gay fear mongering with Steven Anderson and the Duggars. Nothing like a little old-fashioned fear mongering along the lines of Michelle Duggar's trans-phobic robo calls. Ladies Against Feminism is freaking out over the same thing that Michelle Duggar was, the possibility … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” review: 139-155 “The Porn Path”

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Ok, so the last time I talked about porn, a lot of people seemed to think that I don’t have any problems with porn, or that I think that porn is always ok and having negative thoughts/feelings about porn makes you a prude or something. So let me clarify something up front: I have a problem with a lot of porn, but I do my best to limit my discussions about porn to arguments that are reliable in the sense that I have more than anecdotal evidence to back me up. … [Read more...]


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