Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I’ve Made Mistakes But Can’t Get Past Them

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Bruce, You Were No Good as a Pastor and You Hurt Our Family

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Sharing this because it's healing to see someone who held a position of spiritual authority who is actually open to saying how sorry they are for the damage they caused, either directly or inadvertently. Most of us will never receive that 'Sorry' that we're owed by the one person that was charged with being out shepherd and with our care. Kudos to you. Bruce!Today, a man who says his name is Andrew Beltz, left a troubling comment on the Why I Hate Jesus post. Beltz wrote: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Treat Women Like Guns?

by Sundance at I Want You To Be Andrew Breitbart - Yes Hillary, and Democrats, Our Children Are Watching....Editor's note: Found this when I was taking a look at disgusting semi-perv Minthegap's various sites. Remember Min, the man that had all those revealing photos of teenage girls at his site IsThisModest.com? No idea if this guy he's quoted is QF or not, but this is exactly the type of thinking rife in the Christian Patriarch Movement. Worth a reminder of what they want of women. He's riffing on a sign carried by one of the women at the Woman's March that calls for women to have as many rights as guns. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Act Kind to Homosexuals But Convert Them!?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Trying to Justify Christians Watching 'This Is Us"Editor's note: This week's theme for Lori seems to be sinful movies and television shows. She apparently approves of watching shows with dramatic depictions of murders and other 'sins' but not watching a show named 'This Is Us'. I admit I haven't seen this show so I cannot make a judgment call on if it's sinful or not, but for goodness sakes it's just a fictional television show. If you don't like it, don't watch it and don't beat up on your readers that said they liked it. No one is forcing you to participate in watching the show! Personal tastes vary wildly. I had to share this little bit by … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Hipster Clothing Threatens Pastor Tim Bayly’s Masculinity?

by Tim Bayly of Bayly Blog - The Emperor Has Hip ClothesEditor's note: For a guy who claims to be uber masculine pastor Bayly seems to spend a disgracefully large amount of time judging others levels of masculinity. Why would that be?Also, hair is coiffed, scarves are not. Scarves are coiled. Coiffing can only happen to hair, careful styling, or donning a headdress.Saint Benedict never called out random people out for being effeminate either. What he did call out was soft living, as there was a hatred of the body and self-punishment among the monks of that time. Softness and soft bedding, being concerned with soft living was described as 'effeminate' in that time, and those … [Read more...]

Banning Movies – Parody That Sounds Too Real

There's of a lot of films out right now that are upsetting the Evangelical Quiverfull world right now, from 'The Shack' with it's depiction of God as a LGBQT black woman to 'Beauty and the Beast' and it's brief depiction of a gay Lefou. They are ignoring the disturbing themes of kidnapping and holding someone against their will, Stockholm Syndrome and the vaguely bestiality theme of a girl in love with a buffalo-bear-pig being.Right now even Duggar son-in-law Ben Seewald is ranting in long videos about the evils of 'The Shack'. This is sort of a parody of that.The Try Guys of Buzz Feed, whom I usually love and adore, decided to poke fun at the religious right's banning of all sorts … [Read more...]

Love Does Not Look Like Judgement

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI've been thinking since I wrote my last post about our use of the phrase "Love the sinner, hate the sin." In that post I was suggesting that going out of your way to point out and denounce whatever you view as sin in the lives of others, under the guise of "love", is not in fact a very loving thing to so.I've struggled with the notion that people who claim to worship a God whose very essence is love, can be some of the most hurtful, hateful, unloving people around. And that in so many cases, christians are not known for their love, but for their bigotry and fear and condemnation of others. … [Read more...]

Loving The Sinner…

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal Love the sinner, but hate the sin.Despite what some people say, this phrase is not from the bible.But it is frequently used by Christians an excuse to declare how sinful the 'lifestyle choices' of others are."I love you, but you're going to hell." "I'm only telling you how sinful you are because I love you." … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Are Women Isolated?

This is a series we run every Thursday. The questions are things that people who may not know much about the Quiverfull movement or even Fundamentalist or Evangelical Christianity ask about the lifestyle. Examining some of the questions involving Quiverfull theology and life can only shine a light on the toxic nature of this lifestyle choice. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Scare Your Husband?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]