Junior High Gym Class — 1970s

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserImage from The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserThe black framed glasses? Welfare glasses. As soon as I saved up enough money to buy wire-rimmed glasses, I ditched the glasses. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 3 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book in blue textChapter 5 went really fast.  Chapter 6 feels like it will never end.Overarching Themes:Modesty in women starts with denying your own skills.... "The subject of modesty has already been covered from head to toe by other, much wiser authors, so we'll keep this short." (pg. 102) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Husband Doesn’t Love You Anymore Until You Give Him Your Whole Body?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Why Doesn't My Husband Love Me Anymore? and as usual linked through Do Not Link to keep Larry's overweening ego in check. Red highlighting and bolding from the original by Larry.Editor's note: This long post of Larry's is a rationalization as to why guys like him don't hold hands, or shower you with flowers and compliments or treat you the same way after they marry you. Larry is chock full of wretchedly vile advice that you could do to get a little better treatment again, without putting any onus or responsibility on the husband. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: If You Want Your Man to Find You Attractive You Have to ‘Earn’ it?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles – What if I Don’t Have an Hour Glass Figure as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Here we get to the last part of this entire body shaming screed of Larry's, his take on weight and marriage. He thinks it's perfectly fine for men to gain weight after they've married, but insists that women do not gain weight if possible because they have to 'earn' their husband's love, acceptance and attraction. What a punitive punishing thought! Starting to sound like a set up to justify bringing another wife in and practicing polygamy. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Hate Men That Only Like ‘Perfect’ Women?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles – What if I Don’t Have an Hour Glass Figure as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Larry finally goes into full on fat shaming in this bit. If he was so repulsed by this woman's body why on earth did he keep going out with her? No sparks? Stop the thing after the first date. Don't drag out the torture on yourself and heighten the expectations of the other person. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: It’s Rare For Men to Fall in Love With a Woman’s Personality Only?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - What if I Don't Have an Hour Glass Figure as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Larry pretends that he's merely giving advice to unmarried girls with less than perfect figures on how to find a guy. But mostly this is a fat-shaming and/or body shaming piece. Will be sharing this horrific post in multiple postings. There's just too much toxic sludge here to unpack in one quote. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Rebelling Against God By What You Wear?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - 6 Reasons a Woman May Not Want to Display Her Beauty as always linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Larry cannot conceive of women that do not dress for male attention or try to enhance their looks. In his world all women are objects to be used in some way and always for the pleasure of the male species. … [Read more...]

Effects of Patriarchy on Gender and Relationships

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am Phoenix It was when I was in my early 20's while still living at home, right before the intervention that resulted in me leaving the homestead.I realize now this phase was my silent, extreme reaction to growing up in a patriarchal environment. My version of "fuck you!" without daring to talk. Talking was too dangerous, too scary. Too many repercussions.  This, on the other hand, was my quiet way of taking a stand and rebelling. Although I didn't know it at the time and didn't even realize it until recently. … [Read more...]

The Value of Shame

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comI have … unusual hair. At one point when I was a child, it was so long I could sit on it, but it wasn’t just the length that made it stand out. It was also full, thick, voluminous– or as my partner likes to call it, “robust.” I have thick, wavy hair and I have a lot of it. It was also fairly healthy, so, as long as it was, it kept its body all the way to the ends. Honestly, it didn’t even look real. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Representing Your King?

by Elizabeth Botkin from Visionary Daughters - What Every Christian Girl Can Learn From KateEditor's note: Almost two years of radio silence from the Botkin sisters, save for the occasional paid online seminar. Neither of them married in that time frame and no one really knows why they suddenly went quiet instead of continually flogging their restrictive lifestyle. But in this piece Elizabeth says that Kate Middleton, wife of the future king of England Prince William, represents the crown in how she dresses, that she doesn't dress or style for her own tastes but to bring glory to the British royal house. I doubt that she picks everything she wears with no amount of her own personal taste … [Read more...]


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