Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Blog – Touching Before Marriage

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDue to a crazy-busy schedule, I've fallen off my pace of blogging Preparing to be a Help Meet because typing in the quotes from the book is surprisingly time-consuming. In lieu, I offer my most choice selections from the blog with the same name.What levels of hell have Mike and Debi wrought? Apparently they've moved beyond beating the shit out of children and started messing with an entire generation's sexual life.... … [Read more...]

Should A Christian Date An Atheist?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser Recently, a girl emailed Paula Hendricks, a writer for the Lies Young Women Believe website, and asked her whether it was OK to date, love, and marry an atheist. Hendricks, a Christian fundamentalist, replied: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: When is it ‘Intentionally Available’ and When is it ‘Stalking’?

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by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - How to be Intentionally Available Without Chasing BoysEditor's note: Remember all those screeds by the Botkin sisters, Von Ohlman and others in the Quiverfull Evangelical Christian movement about girls keeping their hearts pure waiting for courtship?  This is a bit different. The author started out by pointing out that Ruth pursued Boaz in a serious way to indicate she wanted him for her husband and she goes on to explain how a 'mature' Christian girl is allowed to do the same. The problem being is that some of this advice comes across like something someone obsessed might do instead of  a 'mature' person. Life is so much simpler outside the E … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Avoiding An Abuser?

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by Natalie from Visionary Womanhood - Deal Breakers: Advice to Unmarried Women (and Daughters) How To Avoid Marrying An Abuser … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being Faithful For Your Future Husband?

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by Bethany Baird from Girl Defined - Being Faithful to a Man You've Never MetEditor's note: One of the big things impressed upon girls in Quiverfull and the Christian Patriarch Movement is staying 'pure' in every way for some future husband supposedly out there waiting for you. I have noticed that similar pressure to conform is almost never placed upon the young males in this movement. Why is that? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Courtship Isn’t Spiritual But It Is Sexual?

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by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog from 'His Hand in Marriage' as quoted by Vaughn Ohlman at his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - Courtship: That Volatile Sexual RelationshipEditor's note: This is one of those few times I don't entirely disagree with Vaughn Ohlman. Yes, sexual attraction and chemistry exist and they do play an important part in marriage and who we chose to marry. But life outside the Fundamentalist Christian Bubble is just not as sexually charged and focused as it is inside. Most people don't walk around thinking about sex all the time, unless they are a certain sort of sexually repressed Christian man. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 6 Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideWe are at the last section of the Leah/David courtship where Leah shares her post-marital advice. Post-marriage thoughts: No Regrets Do you know how nice it is when we look through family photo albums at Christmas to never see David with another girl? No. I assume Leah means with another girlfriend, but either way, seeing a photo of your husband with an ex shouldn't be traumatic. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Marry A Woman Older Than Yourself?

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by pastor Stephen Kim from NYC Pastor blog - 10 Women Christian Men Should Not MarryEditor's note: The entire list is pretty bad, filled with pious scripture references and lots of poisonous assumptions like something straight out of Debi Pearl's awful tome 'Created To Be A Help Meet". It was hard to pick only one to focus on for our Quoting Quiverfull feature. Which do you think is the worst on the list? … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 4 – Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide  I, Leah, grew up in Texas, the oldest of five home-educated children. I loved to play golf, tennis, and chess. I graduated from the Culinary School of Fort Worth and Thomas Edison State College with a Bachelor's in Business Administration. Whoa! Two people with actual college degrees. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Finding a Spouse is Like Finding a Steak Sandwich?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - Searching for a Steak SandwichEditor's note: Putting the search for a suitable spouse on the same level as finding a consumable commodity. Fundamentalist religion reduces people to objects. … [Read more...]


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