How Fundamentalist Christians Ruin Christmas

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser on Dec. 20, 2014Now that I am no longer a Christian, I really enjoy Christmas. I know this might be hard for some to believe, but I enjoy Christmas now more than I ever did when I was a card-carrying member of Club Christian®. The reason is simple. From Thanksgiving to New Years, there were services to prepare, food drives to coördinate, and season-themed sermons to preach. Like the Easter season, Christmas was a high stress, lots of work, time for me. Quite frankly, I found it exhausting and rarely did I have time to enjoy Christmas.And of course, Christmas was that time of year when it was my duty to … [Read more...]

12 Things the Insane Right-Wing Christian Duggar Family Gave Us

The Duggar Family Christmas Card - Let's see how long it takes them to claim NLQ violated their copyright by reproducing it here, like a zillion other websites...

by Vyckie Garrison cross posted from Alternet  Michelle and JimBob Duggar, mom and pop of the Quiverfull mega-family featured on TLC’s “19 Kids & Counting” reality TV show, have been in the spotlight recently due to a petition which has gathered 180,000+ signatures demanding that The Learning Channel cancel the program in protest of the Duggar’s “LGBTQ fear-mongering.” A counter petitionsponsored by Duggar supporters has collected almost 210,000 signatures from among the religious right. … [Read more...]

A Personal Response to Voddie Baucham on Mental Illness

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by R.L. Stollar Community Coordinator for Homeschoolers Anonymous, cross posted from Homeschoolers Anonymous  Over the last week I listened to and transcribed Voddie Baucham’s sermon “Nebuchadnezzar Loses His Mind.”  I grew up in the Christian homeschool world in which Baucham is popular. I have written numerous times about my own struggles with major depressive disorder and suicidal urges, as well as been publicly critical about the American Evangelical Church’s handling of mental health issues, I take Baucham’s sermon seriously. The ideas he expresses here are admired and continue to be disseminated in the Christian homeschool world. These ideas are damaging to many people and must be spok … [Read more...]

Happy Holidays – Open Thread

First time in eight years I've put up a tree and decorated the house.

by Suzanne TitkemeyerSince we are mere days away from Christmas and I'm sure many of us here are in the middle of holiday preparations. Right now my kitchen looks like the Keebler Elves Hollow Tree exploded as I'm baking up Christmas cookies.So my question is: How did your holidays change after you got out of extreme Christian fundamentalism?Bruce Gerencser wrote an excellent post about his holidays through the years on his blog - The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser: Christmas, 1957 - 2014.  … [Read more...]

Day 15 of 21 Days of Healing: Making It Real

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“He restores my soul.” (Brain work.)Day 15At the end of Day 14, you should have had a pretty good idea of what your perfect “ordinary” day would look like. I hope you are taking steps to make that happen.Remember, an “ordinary” day is one that happens on a regular basis – like my work week. Monday through Friday’s are my “ordinary” days and I love having a very restful, relaxing, time outside of my working and commuting hours. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Nancy Steals Hanukkah Day 2

Since this is Nancy Campbell it's likely you need a kitten. How about a kitten with a Hanukkah Dreidel?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Never Afraid (Day 2 of Hanukkah)Speaking up for truth in the face of danger? When has Nancy ever done that? She surely did not do it when she disposed of her African adoptees. … [Read more...]

There Is No Formula For Culture Shock

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundI recently thought of this post, I wrote on Christmas Eve from my phone while with a few teenagers in Asia. We spent Christmas day floating around a pond in 80F/26C weather in shorts, and in the evening when the temperature had dropped to 68F/20C, I read a book out on a lawn chair while the kids were swimming.Then I thought how brutal the last two years have been. I mean, freakin TERRIBLY DIFFICULT PUCK ME UP, kind of brutal. … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” Review: 207-222, ‘Reverse-Engineering Your Life and Marriage’

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Well, folks, we finally did it. We managed to make it all the way through to the very bitter end of Mark and Grace Driscoll’s Real Marriage. Usually I’m excited about wrapping up one of these review series, but all I can manage to feel about finishing this one is … relief. I’m not entirely sure why reading Real Marriage was so much more draining than Fascinating Womanhood or Captivating, but it has been. … [Read more...]

Clay Yarborough and the Evangelical Fear of Breasts

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by Bruce Gerencser from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser See the full sized image Bruce is writing about by clicking here. It's beautiful and not pornographic. Trigger warning for full female nudity. There is a smaller version in the story below. For those of us raised in the Evangelical/fundamentalist church, we are quite familiar with the fear preachers and church leaders have of exposed breasts and cleavage. Women are oft reminded to cover up, lest the weak, pathetic men of the church throw them down in the middle aisle of the church and ravage them. As the recent GRACE report on sexual abuse and rape at Bob Jones University reveals, women are viewed as temptresses out to b … [Read more...]

Late Bloomer

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixThere are a number of life events that I have arrived at quite late in the game. The biggest life event has been marriage. And there are a few milestones in life I have avoided altogether, such as motherhood, even though most females my age have looked forward to and reached this milestone long ago. … [Read more...]


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