Good Christian Sex by Bromleigh McCleneghan

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samanthapfield.comWhen I first crack open the spine of a book like Good Christian Sex, the first place I turn to is the bibliography. When I got this book about a month ago I glanced over the materials she referenced, and at first was a little wary. There were a lot of pop culture references, a blog post I’ve occasionally been frustrated with, a smattering of male theologians, and a feminist author who makes a case for abstinence that I thoroughly disagree with. Looking over the table of contents made me feel a touch cautious, as well: there’s a chapter on vulnerability and another on fidelity, two concepts I’ve seen go completely sideways in C … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Chastity Belts?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Is it Wrong For My Christian Husband to Make Me Wear a Chastity Belt? - not linking directly but this is the top article on Biblical Gender if you must read.Editor's note This quoted piece is not written by Larry but by a woman writing to him for advice on the Biblicalness of  chastity belts. In the unquoted bits Larry comes out that he considers chastity belts a sin and no woman should wear on, no matter how much she may want to wear it. He goes on to say masturbation is no sin either. Has anyone heard anything else about the wearing of chastity belts in the CPM? … [Read more...]

All Complementarian Sex is Rape

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comYes, I’m leading with that because I might as well– it’s what the naysayers will swear up and down I’m arguing for in this post anyway, and I’ve already made my peace with it. Several men from inside my own progressive Christian camp have already tried to misrepresent my argument this way, and I know that it’s what the complementarians will start screaming if they even read it. So, I’m Andrea Dworkin-ing it up and owning it. My argument has already been labeled “unproductive” and “pointless” (by “feminist” men– are you surprised? I’m not), but I believe that what I’m about to lay out for you is critically important. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Men Imagine Sex Only as a Goal, Not as a Relationship?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender - Is Sexual Fantasy Outside a Relational Context Sinful? and as always linked to through Do Not Link.Editor note: Again Larry is trying to justify drooling over his neighbor's wife as if she were a savory steak. I thought the Bible was pretty clear about lust, but Larry is parsing it differently. What do you think? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Ask Your Wife About Foreplay or Technique?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender - How a Husband Can Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Give by His WifeEditor's note: This alone may be one of the worst pieces of marital advice given by this man. Of course you should talk about these things if something isn't going right in the bedroom instead of faking that it's wonderful. Eventually the fakee is going to be fed up and explode on the one insisting she fake it. Recipe for disaster like so much marriage advice given in the world of Evangelical Quiverfull. If you are doing it wrong and your wife tells you this you should listen! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Patriarchs Can Fantasize About Other Women & Not Sin?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender - The Church, Women and BarbequesEditor's note: Yes, yes, BGR compares women to a consumable inanimate object in this post - thick juicy steaks. But he so routinely dehumanizes women to objects that's not even the shocking part. The shocking part of this entire thing is his claims that God is a-okay with you imagining having sex with your neighbor's wife. He's playing Bible Twister again! Anyone can play! Just take a verse out of context, claim is means something other than what most people think it says and then use it to make something sort of maybe at least a tiny bit morally squishy you do perfectly acceptable. Not that there's … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Thoughts Can Ruin Your Future Marriage?

by Lisa Hallahan from A Lovely Calling and reposted at Whole Magazine - Confessions of a Lusting Christian GirlEditor's note: Whoa! Talk about blaming and shaming! Claiming that thinking sexual thoughts before marriage will ruin or defile your future marriage is so wrong. It's human nature to have feelings and thoughts that don't always line up the way you want and this is veering too close to thought crimes. Why all the fear of thoughts and projecting sin on to others? … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 14 How Do I Need Thee? (Your Wife Was Created To Fill Your Sexual Needs)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonpages 59-61Last post, we talked about foreplay and, as Michael calls it, the "2 minute pop".  We also re-touched on how premarital sex hurts the woman because she is the sensitive, weaker vessel.  Today we get to talk more about premarital sex, and women climaxing. Get ready. Text is in purple … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 12: How Do I Need Thee? (Michael Turns Debi On) *Insert Puking Smiley Here*

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom MormonTrigger warning: You may have to use brain bleach after reading this about Michael's ideas of sex.Hello, everyone! I apologize for my sporadic posting, but I've been traveling to and from Spokane this past week. I'm back home now though, so things should be back on schedule.p55-57 Text is in purpleAlrighty! We are finally at the section we have all been waiting for. I hope you guys are ready for this. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Have Sex With Me Or Else!

by Biblical Gender Roles from - 8 Steps to Confront Your Wife's Sexual RefusalEditor's note: Again this is all about forcing compliance from someone who obviously has reasons not to have sex with her husband. Put out or else. I bought you. You owe me. All horrible messages without adding in the bible verses written by a confirmed bachelor Paul. Taking sex advice from Paul is like listening to a deaf person explain why you shouldn't listen to a certain type of music. … [Read more...]