Part 2 – A Crash Course in Sex, Gender and Sexual Orientation

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAlrighty.  Let's start with a quick refresher course from the previous post:Physical sex refers to which secondary sex characteristics a person has.  The binary nature of the system creates problems when someone has a reproductive system that is not fully female or male. Genetic sex refers to the compliment of sex chromosomes (X and Y) present in a person.  Usually, a someone with a female physical sex is XX and a male physical sex is XY - but this cannot be determined without medical testing AND is not always true. Our sexual characteristics are determined by hormonal cascades during early embryonic development.  These … [Read more...]

“Zimzum of Love” review 97 – 121, “Sacred” & “Epilogue”

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons This is the last post on the book, and I find myself wondering if I can enthusiastically endorse it. It’s certainly different than every other Christian marriage-advice book I’ve ever read, and I’ve deeply appreciated those differences. It’s straightforward, honest, authentic, all things I appreciate, but at times it got a little boring because they frequently dipped into pretty conservative Christian ideas about the role and purpose of marriage, and I think they skirted more difficult questions or avoided them entirely. They didn’t examine problems like we’re just not happy anymore, or we want completely different things in … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Blog – Touching Before Marriage

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDue to a crazy-busy schedule, I've fallen off my pace of blogging Preparing to be a Help Meet because typing in the quotes from the book is surprisingly time-consuming. In lieu, I offer my most choice selections from the blog with the same name.What levels of hell have Mike and Debi wrought? Apparently they've moved beyond beating the shit out of children and started messing with an entire generation's sexual life.... … [Read more...]

Kink 101 For Purity Culture Survivors

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [note: links may include NSFW material] There are many amazing resources out there for people who think they might be kinky or into BDSM, and I’ll link to some at the bottom of this post. However, if you’re anything like me … a lot of what’s out there seems conflicting and confusing, and because I grew up on the rather strict end of purity culture I didn’t have the tools to start sorting any of it out. I didn’t know anything about sex, and many of us don’t. Someone I met in college thought that semen was green because of a joke they’d heard about grass stains, and I thought that “going through the back door” meant doggy. An … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Ladies Against Feminism Losing It Over ’50 Shades of Grey’

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from Ladies Against Feminism and the seven quoted articles they tagged about sex, perversion and the movie '50 Shades of Grey'. Editor's note: Wow, seven articles about sexuality, pornography and what LAF considers perversion in just a couple of days? Sounds like someone has some sexuality issues they're working out. They don't even put up this many articles at once about abortion near Right To Life Sunday. For years at NLQ we've theorized that large parts of the patriarchy is obsessed with sex, as much sex as they can get, like the Pearl's honeymoon tale or Vaughn Ohlman's insistence you get married young to keep from committing sexual sin, but we've never examined the female psyche in … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Courtship Isn’t Spiritual But It Is Sexual?

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by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog from 'His Hand in Marriage' as quoted by Vaughn Ohlman at his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - Courtship: That Volatile Sexual RelationshipEditor's note: This is one of those few times I don't entirely disagree with Vaughn Ohlman. Yes, sexual attraction and chemistry exist and they do play an important part in marriage and who we chose to marry. But life outside the Fundamentalist Christian Bubble is just not as sexually charged and focused as it is inside. Most people don't walk around thinking about sex all the time, unless they are a certain sort of sexually repressed Christian man. … [Read more...]

Review: ‘The Zimzum of Love’: Introduction to the Series

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Hello, again! I hope everyone had an enjoyable holiday season. Mine was a good, long break that I definitely needed– didn’t really realize how much I needed it, although by the end of last week I was antsy to get back to work. Unfortunately, I bruised/broke my tailbone this weekend, which has made sitting down … uncomfortable. Right now I’m anticipating being able to keep to my schedule (except for this week– period week), but we’ll see how it goes. I’m not going to push myself, as how fast my tailbone heals depends almost entirely on how careful I am with it. … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” review: 156-176, “Selfish Lovers and Servant Lovers”

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [note: this post inspired some swearing] This chapter seems to be laying all the necessary groundwork for the last chapter in the “Sex” section of the book, and from the title (“Can We ____?”) I’m guessing that’s the one that caused some of the firestorm around it. Honestly, unless he does something drastic in that last chapter, I’m going to be a little confused as to why people were so bothered, since he hasn’t said too much at this point that I haven’t heard echoed in plenty of other corners. … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” review: 107-122, ‘Sex: God, Gross or Gift?’

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons This chapter seems to be Mark and Grace’s attempt at establishing a historical context for arguments they’ll make later; it’s basically nothing more than an extremely truncated and condensed version of how sex has been viewed in Ancient Near Eastern (“biblical”) and Christian cultures. The unfortunate thing is that their history lesson is … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 8 – Dancing With the Devil?

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by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - When the Worst HappensA reader brought up an excellent point yesterday. What does Michael advocate doing if your child is the aggressor or sexual offender. So I'm posting a few more parts of this long article to answer that question, or attempt to answer it. … [Read more...]


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