What is the Bravest Thing You’ve Ever Done?

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixThe bravest thing I have done so far in my life has been allowing myself to feel.I was able to make it as far as I did  in life appearing on the outside to be normal and functional because I buried the past. Completely. I didn't talk about it to anyone, and I didn't acknowledge it to myself.Being numb to it was the only way I could survive. I purposely hung around with people who didn't talk about feelings or emotional things. I buried who I was, even if it meant I also had to bury my intuition, my creativity, my feelings, my empathy, and any form of introspection. … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next?: It Became To Me a Dark Thing

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by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The Shepherd"It Became to Me a Dark Thing" by Virginia KnowlesIt became to me a dark thing: Words spoken over me, into me Claiming divine light, right, might to rule. "Go down, worm soul, go down - You are unworthy to assume the dignity Of one with victory crowned." As if I had swindled treasure! Embezzled grace and glory from celestial storehouses -- A dastardly slave, masquerading as a devoted heir. Contrary! The enemy himself ransacked, then accused and confused this child.Truth: Every spiritual blessing is lavished freely From the Father's endless bounty of grace - And these are not even His only such gifts to … [Read more...]

My Abusive Relationship Was Typical

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger warning for abuse and sexual violence Last week, I wrote an article for xoJane and I shared some things about my past that I haven’t shared on the internet before. I don’t enjoy talking about my abusive relationship at all, and I especially avoid thinking about my last semester at PCC, which was nightmarish with exceedingly few good memories. I was extremely vulnerable in that piece, knowing that there would be people around the internet that would shit on it. … [Read more...]

Coming Out of the Cult Closet

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixThe last year has been full of shifts, most of them tumultuous, but most of them ending up being quite positive. In the actual moment, each change didn't feel positive. It felt like I was wearing skin that didn't fit me anymore, and I was trying to wrestle out of it. Much like a critter shedding it's old skin. Painful, itchy, uncomfortable, exhausting. But then each time I shed an old layer, it felt great afterwards to relax and sit in the sun, so to speak with spanking new skin that felt all new and glowing. … [Read more...]

My Recovery Story: So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused. What Next?

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by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Come Weary MomsAn entry to the "So I've Been Spiritually Abused. What Next?" series.Four years ago, our family left a church organization which was and is facing major issues with legalism and abuse. It wasn’t easy to be there at the end.  It wasn’t easy to leave.  It still isn’t easy to navigate what I believe and how I relate to people.  Despite my deep disappointment and disillusionment, I have continued to rebuild my own spiritual life.  I have also looked back on several things that helped me transition out of more than one less-than-ideal-for-me situations.  I’d like to share these with you. … [Read more...]

Stand Up and Speak Your Truth

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI have always had a hard time standing up for myself. I chalk it up to the way I grew up. I grew up in a cult where women and children weren't allowed to speak up for themselves, especially when we were abused. We weren't allowed to ask "Why?" even in a quiet voice. We were to take abuse quietly, submissively, like Godly females would. Otherwise, all hell would break loose. So, my sisters and I grew up with blank, obedient minds. We were trained to obey male authority without question, and we had a healthy fear of the chain of command above us. We were Godly, submissive sheep who obeyed at the blink of an eye. We grew up with no defenses … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fred Phelps Sr. of Westboro Baptist Dead

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According to the website Towleroad the former head of Westboro Baptist Church Fred Phelps Sr. has passed on Wednesday evening. Earlier in the week the media had been reporting that Mr. Phelps was was expected to die at any moment.Our sincerest condolences to his son Nathan Phelps, long-time NLQ friend. Losing a parent, even an estranged parent, is emotionally painful. Please be kind to yourself and remember the good memories of your father. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: To That Girl Who Just Broke Off Her Courtship

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't WaitTrigger warning: Hard core patriarchal views that may make your nauseous! [The following post is purely fictional. No reference to any specific living person should be implied.]Ok, so you broke it off with what’s-his-name. That guy that, a few days or weeks ago you plastered all over your Facebook wall and spent dizzying hours telling your girlfriends about. We all understand why you did it. The guy turned out to be a jerk. From so far away we can’t tell exactly what kind of jerk, and you have very properly not cared to share that all over your Facebook page, but a jerk of some sort. There are so many types of jerks, but  he was one of them … [Read more...]

Forced To Believe In Jesus or How Not To Do A Salvation Call

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by Suzanne Calulu cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightTrigger Warning for spiritual abuse and manipulationThere's an interesting debate going on at Bruce Gerencser's blog: The Way Forward. Part of me has been enjoying watching Bruce's readers point out to some roving internet Pastor his incorrect conclusions. Gives me something to do while I'm stuck with my right leg enrobed in a brace, propped up and covered with it's own winter wonderland of ice in a bag. Stillness is so boring.One of Bruce's critics, Pastor Bob, is very busy painting all of the readers and commenters with a paint roller dipped in Sherwin William's newest shade - "Atheist" and issuing 'Come To Jesuses' … [Read more...]

Why miscarriage matters when you’re pro-life

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From the blog The Lewis Note written by Rachel Lewis(Editors note: Saw this piece today and realized that there are many here who have suffered the pain of a lost pregnancy and likely were treated poorly by their brothers and sisters in Christ during that terrible time. Sharing here not because of the 'pro-life' aspect, but more towards helping people heal. Sometimes Christians get it more right than wrong, this is one of those pieces. I'm taking the author at her word that it is alright to share this.)Back in my former life, I was a proofreader. … [Read more...]


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