Sometimes Church is the Problem

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by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking LlamaIn May 2011 I requested a meeting with a church leader about the terrible time I had been having.I hadn’t eaten, really, in three weeks. I could barely sleep. Some nights I would just sit in my room and cry and cry as I thought about my life, about the kind of man I was, someone whose anger and hatred had left him alone and completely friendless. I cared about ideas more than I cared about people; and I realized I was heading towards the same miserable end as my hero, … [Read more...]

Religious Counsel

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by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog The Monsterium(Please welcome Anais to NLQ and to the SASBN! We're glad she's here!)My rapist had listened to me. I had warned him I was thinking of telling on him. I was getting tired of being his rag doll. He explained very gently that no one would believe me, or if they did they would tell me it was my fault. He decided to demonstrate this. He was very sensitive this way. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: How Much More ‘Clear’ Does Doug Phillips Need to Be?

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by Doug Phillips of Vision Forum on Vision Forum Ministries website re his 'sin' that caused the closing of Vision Forum Ministries I would like to express my gratitude for the great kindness so many have shown to my family in the wake of my stepping down as president of Vision Forum Ministries. My family has been greatly encouraged by many loving notes we have received. With that in mind, I want to be so very clear about the rightness of this transition, and I want to clear up some matters which have been brought to my … [Read more...]

How Doug Phillips Wreaked Havoc On My Family

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy Feminism and Homeschoolers AnonymousMy parents homeschooled me K-12, and during those years they fell under the influence of several Christian leaders who spread toxic dogma and find their following within the Christian homeschool movement. My parents never followed Gothard, but they did follow both Michael Pearl and Doug Phillips. I’ve … [Read more...]

It’s Not the Affair That Irks Me, Mr. Phillips

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 by Lana Hope cross posted from the blog Homeschoolers Anonymous and her blog Wide Open GroundDoug Philips, president of Vision Forum, and popular advocate of Christian Reconstructionism, Christian Patriarchy, and the Stay-at-Home-Daughter Movement, who has influenced 1000s of homeschool families to not use birth control or send their daughters to college and keep daughters at stay home until they marry, cites some kind of emotional affair as reason he is stepping down from Vision Forum. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part Four

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons  I stared at what I’d typed into Google. The blinking cursor was silent, patient, waiting for me to hit enter.   Verses in the Bible about abortion.   Blink. Blink. Blink. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part 2

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons For this series, I’m going to be monitoring the comments a little more closely than I ordinarily do. I haven’t gotten any comments that I’ve needed to moderate, yet, but I am discussing an incredibly charged issue. I will not tolerate any personal attacks– on me or anyone else. Also, I am not really writing this series to convince anyone. This series is about my story– the road I traveled that brought me to this point. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters: Part 1

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons trigger warning for rape and abortion My heart was in my throat, my fingers floating over the refresh button on my twitter feed. I was curled up under a gigantic down-alternative comforter, huddled under the half-tent I’d made on the floor of my bathroom. Hours went by as I watched what was happening– the strikes, the interruptions. In the last few minutes I joined with thousands of other voices shouting and screaming, a cacophonous din stretching over the internet, across twitter mentions and live feeds. Together, we watched the underhanded attempt at deceiving an entire country of watching people. … [Read more...]

Escaping the Emotional Damage of Our Fundamentalist Christian Past

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMaybe.If a person is a relative newcomer to Christian Fundamentalism, and they decide to leave it for a non-Fundamentalist Christian religion, another religion, or atheism, I think it is likely quite easy to view their Fundamentalist past as nothing more than a blip in their life.  However, for those of us who were raised up in Christian Fundamentalism and spent years attending Fundamentalist churches, it is much harder for us to escape. … [Read more...]

Dousing a Fire

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixBack when things just rolled right off me.Why do I often feel so sensitive, defensive and maligned against? Some days, it's like my body is a magnet that draws to itself and magnifies each hurt, each bit of slander, each little judgement I sense may be directed towards me. What some people can easily shrug off is like a crushing weight to me.I used to be able to shrug off implied insults or hurts more easily when I was young. They seemed to roll off me like water off a duck's back. I just didn't get insulted. Direct insults didn't hurt me, even when they were directed right at me. It's like I knew I was a winner, and … [Read more...]


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