Child Sexual Molestation and Evangelical Christianity’s Completely F’ed Up Response

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 by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeI was saddened but not surprised to hear this morning that actress-singer Vanessa L. Williams (my favorite on the show "Ugly Betty") had been sexually molested at ten years old. She came out and told the story on "Oprah's Master Class"Vanessa explained how her experience had played out in the rest of her life, her early sexual experiences, bad choices in relationships, the guilt and shame, the bout of promiscuity. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Kid Collecting?

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by Michelle Swanson from her blog One Big Connected Family - Why Do Homeschooling Families Have So Many Kids??? The big question remains: why do homeschooling families have so many kids?Some families are part of the "quiver-full" movement. You know, the Duggars and the Bates kinds of families. The ones that believe you should always be seeking and never preventing the blessing of children from God. You can google that whole philosophy for the next few years and have some fun. Our family doesn't fall into that category. … [Read more...]

Writing a Letter to Those Who Try to Evangelize You

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by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardIf you were once an Evangelical Christian and are now an out-of-the-closet atheist/agnostic, it is likely that you have had family, friends, and members from the last church you attended, try to evangelize you.  I know that has been the case for Polly and I. Since 2008, numerous friends, family members, people who once called me pastor, and men who were once my colleagues in the ministry, have tried to get me to repent and return to the Christian fold. In my wife’s case, it is primarily family that has tried to gently woo her back to the faith once delivered to the saints.These people certainly want what  they think is best … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – How to Recognize and Respond to “Mean” Christians

Looks like he's getting ready to dish out that five fold ministry

From Charisma Magazine by Richard M. Salazar Jr. - 5 Signs of a Mean-Spirited Leader I was astounded when a close friend of mine recently forwarded a tweet to me sent out by Dr. Chuck Swindoll a few months back that read, "The problem with mean Christians is that not enough people have confronted them and told them to get lost!" … [Read more...]

Right Wing Family Values and the World’s Greatest Freak Show

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by NLQ Founder Vyckie Garrison and also posted at Bruce Gerencser's blog The Way HomeDo you remember when it first dawned on you that your relatives are all a bunch of crackpots and weirdos?  Seems like I was around 8 or 9 — my mother worked all night in the casinos and slept most of the day, leaving me alone to protect my naïve older sister from the depraved advances of Mom’s alcoholic boyfriends and worry about my big brother’s drug addiction. I couldn’t count on my grandparents to help — they were too preoccupied with their own divorce, dating, and remarriage dramas.“Holy sugar,” I thought to myself, “these people are seriously messed up!” … [Read more...]

Mary Pride denies founding the Quiverfull movement?

by Vyckie Garrison (Editor's Note: This was originally published on NLQ back around three or four years ago. Sharing again as it seems appropriate in light of our recent discussions about Mary Pride)A couple months back, I received an email from Mary Pride -- apparently, she's feeling the pressure since Frank Schaeffer mentioned her in his latest book, Sex, Mom & God, and has been talking in various interviews about her role in founding the Quiverfull and Christian Patriarchy movements with her book, The Way Home: Beyond Feminism and Back to Reality.If you Google "Mary Pride" -- NLQ comes up 4th on the results page -- I'm guessing that's how she ended up emailing me: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Mary Pride Marginalized by Patriarchy?

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by Karen Campbell from her blog That MomMary Pride was one of the first leaders in the modern homeschooling movement. Her book The Way Home was a powerful rebuttal of the radical feminist agenda and she minced no words as she made an appeal for rejecting all sorts of sacred cows. Mary was outspoken and certainly no model of the perfect patriarch wife and ruffled lots of male feathers. One of my fondest memories of homeschooling in the early days (nearly 30 years ago now) is of a conference in the St. Louis area with Gregg Harris, Michael Farris, and Mary … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sexlessness and the Single Woman?

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by Colleen Chao from Ladies Against Feminism and True Woman - Sexual Desire and the Single Girl Imagine keeping a lion in a small cat-carrier. For years. Day after day. Night after night. He roars. He eats. (A lot.) His energy is endless. And yet you keep him caged. If sex is the highest good in life, the greatest pleasure we can experience, we're in trouble. … [Read more...]

1971-1972 Good Baptist Boys Don’t Dance

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by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardNinth grade school picture, wearing the welfare glasses I got in 1971. It took me all of 4 weeks to earn enough money to get a pair wire rimmed glasses. I was so embarrassed to wear these glasses. Everyone knew our family was on welfare.It’s September of 1971 and I am fourteen and a ninth grade student at Central Junior High School in Findlay, Ohio. It’s time for gym class and today we are going to square dance. Except I won’t be square dancing because the church I attended, Trinity Baptist Church, considered dancing a sin. … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next?: The Narcissistic Pastor – How to Recognize a Spiritual Abuser

Chances are any pastor that is a Narcissist is actually whoring out parts of his personality/life

from the website An Irenicon - The Narcissistic PastorSo what does the narcissistic pastor look like?  I’m a humble person, so I’ll merely recount the characteristics of narcissism as identified by Sam Vaknin (himself diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder). His thoughts are in bold. Like I said I’m too humble to know any of this firsthand. Having worked, lived, confided for, and studied with many pastors, however, I know that it touches our profession intimately. Comments following the boldface reflect my actual experiences working in the church. … [Read more...]


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