Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” = Is My Grief Normal?

Answering

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Do People That Say They Aren’t ‘People Pleasers’ Do The Opposite in Church?

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This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.Tim Falls of Tim's Blog - Just One Train Wreck After Another had a short post on the subject of people pleasing - People Pleasing Doesn't Please Me that had me thinking about the issue of people pleasing and many fundamentalist churches. How they frequently quote this scripture: … [Read more...]

What Micah Murray and I Want You (and the Duggars) to Know About JOY (Jesus, Others, You)

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from Under Much GraceMy blog post today was birthed by a new article written by a thoughtful young man -- a Second Generation Adult (raised in high demand religion) -- who used to be the equivalent of a Duggar, but sans TV show.  Hopefully sans abject abuse, too.(As I finish this post, The Kelly File featuring the first interview with the Duggars following the tragic news of sexual abuse in their family just beings to air. … [Read more...]

New Vyckie Garrison Interviews

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Today two new interviews/articles came out about NLQ Founder Vyckie Garrison.Christian Today - 'Atheist of the year' tells of exit from Fundamentalist Quiverfull MovementA few interesting bits: … [Read more...]

Recognizing Sexual Abuse in Children

One of the author's favorite photos of her new grown children.

by Suzanne TitkemeyerOne thing that has happened as a result of the revelations of sexual abuse by Quiverfull super star Josh Duggar is that it has pushed the taboo subject of the sexual abuse of children into the spotlight, engendering a number of conversations on what must happen to expose it, how it should be handled and getting help for the survivors. Those are all great things to consider, that's for sure.I wish there was some way to let his victims know that many of us stand in support of them and their journeys towards healing. Many media outlets have made this about Josh, not being supportive of his victims. That much was evident from the very sloppy redacting of victim … [Read more...]

NLQ Book Review: The Hand on the Mirror

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerWhen Patheos was asking for people to review 'The Hand on the Mirror: A True Story of Life Beyond Death' by Janis Heaphy Durham I was intrigued by the subject matter. In my years at my old church I'd participated in many a house cleansing and the occasional exorcism. Particularly interested after a few experiences I've had after beloved pets passed and something that happened during my vacation last summer  I became even more interested in the idea of the survival of the mind after death. Plus I've had my experiences through the years with the paranormal that cause me to believe that there is life beyond death. It's the one core belief that keeps me from fully … [Read more...]

Do Not Turn Yourself Inside Out

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by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like Mine"Do not turn yourself inside out trying to explain yourself to people who refuse to see you. You know who you are."I really liked this quote; I always seem to find things like this when I really need them. A wave of sadness had hit me yesterday, in part because I was still trying to recover and process from a nightmare the night before. I had this horrible dream Other Child was dying and there was nothing I could do about it. I was at their bedside forced with having to let them go. I think a dream like that is fairly representative of how I am still sorting through my feelings after making the choice to go no contact. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Young Man Witnessing to Young Lady

Answering

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Mothers Day Open Thread: Do You Have Regrets or Wisdom to Impart?

Spider monkey mama with baby on her back at Manuel Antonio Park, Costa Rica. Image by Suzanne Titkemeyer

by Suzanne TitkemeyerAnother Mother's Day is almost upon us again and I have questions of all the readers here that left the Evangelical Quiverfull Movement. Do you regret having or trying to have a large number of children? What would you do differently if you did it over? What did you learn? What would you like others to know?Mother's Day can be one of the hardest days of the year for those in or out of the church because of society's insistence that motherhood be presented in a sentimental perfect light, even if you aren't Quiverfull. It's hard to stuff down negative feelings and experiences on a Hallmark manufactured holiday and pretend to a happiness you may not feel. If you are … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – How Can I Please The Whole Family?

Answering

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]


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