Vulnerable

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental We wander through this life together in a semi-darkness in which none of us can distinguish exactly the features of his neighbor. Only from time to time, through some experience that we have of our companion, or through some remark that he passes, he stands for a moment close to us, as though illuminated by a flash of lightning. Then we see him as he really is.- Albert Schweitzer We all need somebody to talk to. It would be good if we talked ... not just pitter-patter, but real talk. We shouldn't be so afraid, because most people really like this contact; that you show you are vulnerable makes them free to be … [Read more...]

Five Things Home School Moms Should Know About Abusive Marriages

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the Shepherd When our family started the homeschooling journey about 25 years ago, I envisioned my comrades in the movement as the ideal examples of healthy marriage and parenting. I have learned much along the way about educating and nurturing my own ten children, and I am seeing this legacy continue with my six grandchildren. However, as the years have gone by, I have had to lay aside my cute little rose-colored glasses and acknowledge that there can also be a dark side. Abuse, whether it is against a child or a spouse, is a tragic reality in far too many homeschooling families. Because I write frequently on the topics of domestic … [Read more...]

How Fundamentalist Christianity Affected My View of Money and Material Things

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's  note: Be sure to look at the accompanying photos at Bruce's site. Eye opening.These and other verses were the guiding principles of my life for many years: Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. Matthew 16:24Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there … [Read more...]

Duggar Cult Survivor Wants You to Meet the Powerful Women Who Make Other Women’s Lives a Living Hell

by NLQ's Vyckie Garrison originally published in Raw Story “ …Older women … admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.” Titus 2:3-5 Quiverfull is a growing fundamentalist movement within evangelical Christianity which shuns all forms of birth control and follows the “biblical” marriage model of male headship and female submission. … [Read more...]

My History in the Conservative Quiverfull Home Schooling Movement: An Introduction to the Gender and Authority Series

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the Shepherd(Editor's note: This series was originally posted in 2011 and is written from the perspective of a woman that is still a Christian.)Dear friends,I've been posting articles and web links for my series on Gender & Authority this past week, and just compiled them all into the July edition of my Hope Chest e-magazine which is sent to about 950 families around the world. This is the introduction I gave to those who don't know me, and I thought it would serve well as an introduction to the blog series, too... … [Read more...]

Vyckie Garrison Scheduled on Al Jazeera America Tonight

After all the shuffling of Al Jazeera's 'America Tonight' due to winter storm Jonah and coverage of both the Iowa Caucus and the emerging details of the Zika virus it looks like they will be showing NLQ founder Vyckie Garrison's segment tonight.  The program will air at 9:30 pm est. Check your local listings for times in your area.Also on the program will be much-quoted here at NLQ female cultural enforcer Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies.  Will be interesting to see how she comes off considering to most outside of the movement she sounds very odd and almost creepy. … [Read more...]

When Reality Collides With Earnest Expectations

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding FundamentalI’ve never been much good at New Year’s Resolutions.I tend to over-think everything including all the areas in which I need to improve... so much... that instead of getting motivated and energized by the practice, I end up defeated and discouraged. I just can not seem to make it work for me.I know what the problem is. My resolutions are entirely unrealistic and being that ‘resolutions‘ are supposed to be made for the long haul, it is necessary to evaluate them for their importance and edit out the trivial if one has any hope of keeping them. … [Read more...]

Dear Family, Friends and Former Parishioners

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Posting this because sometimes it's a good idea to stop and look back to measure just how far we've come from our old life.What follows is the letter I sent in April 2009 to my family, friends and former parishioners. This letter came after Polly and I attended church for the 2008 Sunday before Thanksgiving. I am republishing it here so it is part of the historical narrative of my life. I know many of you have read this before but I hope you will read it again. As I reread this, I am reminded that what I wrote here is still, almost 6 years later, the motivating factor of my life.  The … [Read more...]

HA & NLQ: What Are We After We Leave?

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyI have a concern about stuff I’m seeing and not seeing in the survivor community, and I think the time has come to address it, and talk about creating individualized post-fundamentalist roadmaps to ensure you’re not accidentally following new leaders in directions that don’t truly work for you.  So here goes: … [Read more...]

Open Thread: Christmas Aftermath – Maintaining Healthy Emotional Boundaries in Family Dysfunction Post-Evangelicalism

Just wanted to throw open a discussion thread to discuss best ways to deal with the holidays and family after leaving your old faith. Or perhaps you've not left but a family member has. Or your family is filled with dysfunction, turmoil and trauma that has nothing to do with  religion at all. Do you struggle to maintain healthy emotional boundaries in the holidays? Did you have to fend off an over-eager fundamentalist relative wanting to issue some serious 'Come To Jesus' your way as recently described by Bruce Gerencser? … [Read more...]


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