It’s a New Year, and it’s Going to be Perfect (Because I Said So)

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by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like Mine originally posted on 12-27-13 It's a couple days after Christmas and we are about to come into the New Year. I don't know about you but it's about this time of year where I start to feel an urge to plan for next year, and all the awesome things I am going to do, how much self change I want to set out to attain and how this New Year will be perfect. Cue the obsessive scrolling of Pinterest and creating boards and New Years resolutions left and right. I think "oh won't this be wonderful" and get a sort of New Years resolution happiness spike that will eventually result in a crash, burn and lots of tears. Perhaps even a wallop o … [Read more...]

Part One – The Paradox of Freedom

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalMany years ago I found myself, completely against my will, dealing with the loss of my marriage. I'd spent 7 years married to a man who lied and deceived seemingly without conscience, who was a master of emotional manipulation, and who acted as if the world revolved around him alone. While his regular outbursts of anger only occasionally resulted in physical abuse, it almost always ended with him breaking things - usually my things! … [Read more...]

Affects of Stress on the Body and “Multi-Generational Faithfulness” in Quiverfull Families

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceDuring the interim while waiting on the continued discussion of Cynthia Jeub'sblog posts about the inconsistencies she experienced in her TLC celebrity family, enjoy a graphic about how stress affects the body. (Editor's note: Graphic by Healthline can be seen at Under Much Grace)  Let it be another good motivator to work through the negative and costly aspects of true "multigenerational faithfulness."  It might be better termed "parental convenience" for which adult children raised in the high demand system pay a terribly high price. … [Read more...]

Sci Fi, Fantasy and Religion

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 by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (And Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsA bit of rambling backstory first. With a houseful of rapidly growing children who are receiving their education at home, we are keen on opportunities to get the family out of the house for worthwhile activities and socialization.  Trips to the feed store, library and dentist are great, but they don’t quite cut it.  There are doubts that the weekly homeschool playgroup we’ve attended the last two years will come back together this fall, so we have been discussing our options. … [Read more...]

Day 19 of 21 Days of Healing: Self-Care

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“His love endures forever.” (Thought suggestion for today.)As I am writing this, it is the day after Thanksgiving, 2014. Black Friday. My husband left shortly after 4 AM to pick up my son and go shopping. (For shop vacs, ladders, scaffolding, and an iPhone.) Me? I stayed home. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Forgiving Doesn’t Mean Forgetting

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by Linda Vernick from the Association of Biblical Counselors - Why We Must Never Forget Even When We Do ForgiveEditor's note: This may be coming from a Christian counselor publication, but it's a step in the right direction in the way forgiveness and self-protection should work together. … [Read more...]

I’m Not Asking For Perfection

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI've had many conversations over the last 2 or 3 years that revolved around my experience of abuse in the church and my subsequent disillusionment with that institution.There have been people who disapproved of me being upset and who therefore assumed that somehow I was the one at fault. Others were distressed that I would even suggest that there was anything wrong in 'their church'. Then there were those who recognised there was something amiss, but didn't want to get involved.But, interestingly enough, there was one line almost every person produced. "You can't expect the church to be perfect - it's made up of imperfect … [Read more...]

So, Are You a Feminist?

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons It’s become almost de riguer for red-carpet journalists (and others) to confront a female celebrity and demand to know whether or not she considers herself a feminist. This bothers me. From what I’ve seen, most of the time the publication asking doesn’t have any vested interest in their answer (see, a Time magazine writer asking Shailene this question, and then another turning right around and putting “feminist” on their “words to ban” poll). This leads me to believe that these people aren’t confronting these women because they care about feminism, or want to help overturn some of the misconceptions about feminism– they jus … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Going To A Quiverfull Church While Infertile Why?

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by Jennifer from her blog A Home With A Purpose - When Being At Church Hurts: InfertilityEditor's note: This is truly heartbreaking, being a member of a church that embraces Quiverfull yet unable to have any babies. Being tortured with frustration at the easy fecundity of others in your church isn't being 'sanctified', it is cruel, it would be cruel of any deity to demand you be constantly in the presence of your deepest desires with no way to obtain them. That's not a loving God. … [Read more...]

Fundamentalist Homeschooling Christmas: A Video of What My Mom Gave Me For Christmas

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground We never did much for Christmas as a kid, and in many ways, I’m glad. I’ve never felt that rushing around in mobs to buy gifts for western people who have it all is a particular worthy use of time and resources. I don’t have a problem with gifts, decorations, or good food, but right now, traffic is lethal in my town, enough to awaken me to the realization that my parents were at least partially correct. Instead of writing a post about what Christmas is like in a fundie family, I just made a short one-minute video of what my mom sent me for Christmas this year. It really says it all. Mom lives in her own homeschool world. Instead of se … [Read more...]


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