Escaping the Emotional Damage of Our Fundamentalist Christian Past

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMaybe.If a person is a relative newcomer to Christian Fundamentalism, and they decide to leave it for a non-Fundamentalist Christian religion, another religion, or atheism, I think it is likely quite easy to view their Fundamentalist past as nothing more than a blip in their life.  However, for those of us who were raised up in Christian Fundamentalism and spent years attending Fundamentalist churches, it is much harder for us to escape. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Teen Pregnancy?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - Teen Pregnancy We had great news from one of our friends the other day: one of their teenagers was pregnant!(Yeah, read that again. I actually said it. No, I wasn’t kidding. Good news: teen… pregnant.)It used to be that a pregnant teen was a cause for congratulations. The whole church would gather around her and congratulate her. Oh, wait, I left something out. They would gather around her… and her husband. … [Read more...]

Dousing a Fire

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixBack when things just rolled right off me.Why do I often feel so sensitive, defensive and maligned against? Some days, it's like my body is a magnet that draws to itself and magnifies each hurt, each bit of slander, each little judgement I sense may be directed towards me. What some people can easily shrug off is like a crushing weight to me.I used to be able to shrug off implied insults or hurts more easily when I was young. They seemed to roll off me like water off a duck's back. I just didn't get insulted. Direct insults didn't hurt me, even when they were directed right at me. It's like I knew I was a winner, and … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: The Protector

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons This chapter is devoted to the second “masculine need”: “a man needs to function, feel needed, and excel women as a protector.” A man being a protector is probably one of the more foundational concepts about men in conservative religious environments– it is most especially true where patriarchy and complementarianism are fiercely held. It appears in a variety of ways, some more subtle than others. … [Read more...]

Sunday Shout Out: If I Love My Husband…

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Back in May of this year we posted the thoughts of Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies Magazine and her followers on what ladies that love their husbands do for their husband to concretely express that love. Not that the list was entirely bad, but much of it was silly over the top actions and filled with empty insincerity. There were things on the list that could potentially not be good for your husband or significant other over the long run. … [Read more...]

Sneaky Subconscious

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixI've  been experiencing some shifts lately, and my eyes keep opening up to new breakthroughs. Some with my subconscious. It's completely exciting for me. Somewhat painful. I feel like things are ripping on the inside of me. In a good way. I feel somewhat more balanced now than I used to be. I'm getting used to the constant changes in my perspectives. I feel like I accept things more. … [Read more...]

When Other Daughters and Sons of Patriarchy Are Trapped

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundWith all the ex-conservative homeschooler blogs out there nowdays, people may be under the impression that homeschool fundamentalism has viritually disappeared among homeschool alumni. To be sure, this Christian movement among homeschool graduates is dying a very slow and painful death. But it is so far from over, and I have so many friends still trapped in the ideology that I constantly feel the tension with old friends and old hangouts.  Here’s just a few  very recent encounters I had with a few graduates … [Read more...]

Thank You, Dad

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixDad,Thank you for showing me who I am not.Age fiveYou beat me with a rod because I laughed when my baby brother shot peas out of his mouth and laughed. My baby brother wasn't obeying you when told to eat neatly, and you said he was old enough to have the devil beat out of him. You said the next one who laughed when my baby brother spit peas onto his high chair would get the rod. The next one was me. So you beat me with a wooden rod. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The Cost of Raising Children?

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by Brant Hansen (Christian DJ) at his Air1 blog Of course, this whole "kids are too expensive" thing has a funny familiarity to it, and by "funny", of course, I mean, "tragically unfunny". It's precisely where we are. And precisely why western civilization, demographically speaking, is most definitely, irreversibly, going out of business. The numbers don't lie. As a culture, we simply love ourselves too much to burden ourselves with little versions of ourselves. … [Read more...]

Sunday Shout Out: What Does a Young Adult Need to Know/Study?

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This week we posted a bit about what the Botkins Sisters, Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin consider essential for every young woman to study. The Botkin family is currently signing up people to take their newest Webinar - Ready for Real Life.It's obviously not the 1850s or the 1950s now, like many Quiverfull leaders try to return us to so their strategies of life developed with old days in mind aren't going to be very effective in our times. How must we shift to make a seamless transition in today's world? … [Read more...]


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