When “Respect” Involves “Disgust”

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy Feminism and Homeschoolers AnonymousGrowing up in a conservative evangelical home, I believed that we were the ones who truly respected women. I believed that our young men—the young men in my homeschooling community—were being raised to treat the women around them, of whatever age, with respect.I was wrong, very, very wrong. … [Read more...]

True Love Doesn’t Wait

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by Rosie Franklin cross posted from her blog Disrupting Dinner PartiesTrigger warning- Christian virginity/purity culture throughout (which is absolutely not sarcasm as a trigger warning). __________________Also, I told you not to read this, Mom._______________ I talked a bit Tuesday about how I lost my virginity, in my post on rape culture. I sort of mentioned but didn’t go into detail about the fact that the loss of my virginity was somewhat emotionally unmooring for me, in addition to the manner in which I “lost” it being awful. So today I’m going to talk about what I was taught about sex and virginity. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: A Christmas Word?

Don't know if Doug was referring to snarled parachutes, snarled yarn, snarling animals or what. Guessing he meant a parachute.

by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog - A Huge White Snarl Flapping Behind YouTrigger-warning! Doug is being very judgmental and hateful in his Christmas cyber altar call. So here it comes — a Christmas word to the faithless. I am using the word faithless in both senses. I am speaking to those who do not believe, and I am speaking to those who are being disobedient to what they actually do know (Rom. 1:19-20). Ultimately the two categories are only one, but I am speaking to those who are without faith and those trying to throw it away, wanting to pretend they never had it. … [Read more...]

Dialogue, Privilege, and the Homeschool Debate

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by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyEvents of late have got me thinking about a lot of things, including sex ed, my relationship to popular culture and society, and how advocacy groups work, among other things. It made me think in a broader sense about my life as well, where I came from and where I am going. I’ve traversed a lot of ground. Enough to make my head spin, really, and like Lana Hope saying there is no pure narrative, I know I don’t have answers to all that stuff and I find myself growing more comfortable with not knowing, with moving forward based on sense and feel, not proscriptive mandates on how to live life. It is freeing. … [Read more...]

Dude, Seriously? – Answering Kevin Swanson

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 by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeRecently Kevin Swanson, radio babbler and righteous rabblerouser against all things not homeschooling fundamentalist Biblical patriarchy has been making more of an ass out of himself than usual. It's not merely due to the fact that he has a new book to flog about and promote by calling everyone that doesn't agree with him an 'Apostate', a title that is also a big part of the title of his new book. Oh no, Kevin seems to be off the internet deep end this week. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Have Yourself Some Merry Little Selfishness?

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by Jay Younts of Shepherd Press - Avoiding Disappoint Christmas morningNot getting the gift that is wanted can happen for several reasons. The budget dictates trips to Walmart instead of the mall. Usually this kind of disappointment can be addressed with a loving dose of reality given well in advance of Christmas Day. Sometimes, the giver is simply unaware of what is going on inside the person to whom he is giving the gift. A little more sensitivity  and careful listening would help here.  … [Read more...]

She’s a Witch!

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by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog Whisper CollectorHis mother told him she had seen demons around me. I had heard of overprotective mothers, but this was ridiculous. What was worse is that this guy believed his mom. He offered to pray for me. Guys- a word of advice: It is a complete mood killer to tell your date that you are praying for her immortal soul. … [Read more...]

Sometimes Church is the Problem

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by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking LlamaIn May 2011 I requested a meeting with a church leader about the terrible time I had been having.I hadn’t eaten, really, in three weeks. I could barely sleep. Some nights I would just sit in my room and cry and cry as I thought about my life, about the kind of man I was, someone whose anger and hatred had left him alone and completely friendless. I cared about ideas more than I cared about people; and I realized I was heading towards the same miserable end as my hero, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: “Quiet Bombs”?

Poor Jimmy Harper in "Reefer Madness" after opening that "Door of Darkness"

by Tim Price of Chalcedon Presbyterian Church posted at Ladies Against Feminism - The Door of Darkness When boys enter into puberty, they discover a door within themselves that has a sign saying, “DO NOT ENTER!” It is the door of sexual exploration and it has been presented to them by their new-found hormones. It is his responsibility to keep that door closed and to even guard it against any outside attempt — , i.e. seduction and temptation, — at prying it open. This is his first “rite of passage” into manhood, the first battle which begins with his own flesh. … [Read more...]

Victims and Abusers and Why Church is Not Safe

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons[trigger warning for abuse] If you follow me on twitter, you might have noticed that I watched My Fair Lady this past weekend, one of my favorite movies from when I was younger, but a movie I haven’t seen in years. And while I enjoyed the nostalgia and singing all the songs again, it was not an entirely pleasant experience and I probably won’t watch it again. Watching Professor Higgins, listening to him sing “Let a Woman in Your Life,” realizing that he never uses Eliza’s name and instead prefers to call her wretch, insect, and baggage, and understanding for the first time that Professor Higgins is an abuser . . . … [Read more...]


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