Seven Signs of Spiritual Abuse

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by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking Llama(Please welcome Boze to NLQ and the Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network! He's an awesome addition!)For about five years during and after college I was trapped in a dangerous Charismatic religious community. Living in a spiritually abusive environment is like a nightmare that you can’t wake out of. It can be hard to tell right from wrong, left from right. The people you trust the most could betray you at … [Read more...]

Happy Thanksgiving: Duties, Rights and Privileges

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by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeThe quotes and theology I stumble across as part of my posting and moderator duties at No Longer Quivering sometimes make me laugh, but many times I'm more likely to drop my full coffee cup in shock or dismay, just like the graphic of a spilled coffee cup I use for the Quoting Quiverfull feature. … [Read more...]

Love Misapplied: A Response to Chris Jeub

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy Feminism and Homeschoolers AnonymousI grew up hearing about Chris Jeub.He was a big name in NCFCA homeschool debate circles, and while I never met him I did use the evidence briefs he put out. The Jeubs had 16 kids and were deep into the patriarchal and controlling ideas at the heart of the most conservative strains of the Christian homeschooling movement. In fact, they kicked their daughter Alicia out of the family and shunned her completely when she became “rebellious.” However, Chris says that he and his family have since left that whole legalistic mess. … [Read more...]

Religious Counsel

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by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog The Monsterium(Please welcome Anais to NLQ and to the SASBN! We're glad she's here!)My rapist had listened to me. I had warned him I was thinking of telling on him. I was getting tired of being his rag doll. He explained very gently that no one would believe me, or if they did they would tell me it was my fault. He decided to demonstrate this. He was very sensitive this way. … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse and Whitewashed Marriage

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by Mere Dreamer cross posted from her blog Love is Not Equal to Love(Editor’s note: Please welcome Mere Dreamer to NLQ and the SASBN! Another great addition to our group!)I grew up in a 3rd world mission where the horror stories of Northern news overshadowed all other impressions of the US, though I determined to move there after graduation in spite of the fear. My 17 year old, culture-shocked self feared the six block walk from the school to work, morbidly certain it was inevitable that I would be kidnapped and raped. … [Read more...]

What “Fireproof” and “Twilight” Have in Common

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons During my undergrad days, one of my friends convinced me to read the Twilight series. At first I rolled my eyes at the “vampire books,” but I did read them— flew through them, really. I strongly, strongly identified with Isabella Swan– but when I tried to explain it to my friends, all that I could come up with was that “we were both clumsy.” My friends laughed at me, or rolled their eyes, so eventually I shut up about it. I was never able to figure out exactly what it was about Bella that tugged at me so much. I knew it had something to do with her relationship with Edward– I was frequently able to draw direct parallels to my rela … [Read more...]

She Deserved My Undeterred Love

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by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous CircumspectionTrigger warning: Sexual contentThe day was sweltering hot in the two room studio apartment. The air conditioning, rusting in it's metal encasement, rattled and whined, trying to keep up with the radiant heat of the asphalt coming in the back window. The room smelled slightly, as it always did, of a small gas leak from the old, olive green, stove on the east wall. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Voting & Jury Duty Are For Men Only?

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by Jonathan Lindvall from Bold Christian Living I obviously share your conclusion that young women serving on a jury is a very vulnerable, potentially damaging experience we should be able to shield them from. Let me share some thoughts of how we can protect our daughters from this particular emotional/mental threat. … [Read more...]

Fundamentalist Flashbacks

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by Jonny Scaramanga cross posted from his blog Leaving Fundamentalism(Editor's note: Welcome Jonny to NLQ and the SASBN! We're glad to have you here!)I recently woke up in the middle of the night, gripped by a sudden panic. What if I’m wrong?If I’m wrong, I’m going to hell.I’ve spent the last several years campaigning to raise public awareness of fundamentalist Christian schools that I consider abusive. I went to such a school myself, so I have a dog in this fight. If what they taught me is true, then I have spent these years fighting against God himself. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Only Ever Think Good

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 128-132In this section Debi goes into more depth about just what “reverencing” one’s husband actually looks like in practice. Her focus in this section is on thought patterns—basically, she argues that women should brainwash themselves into only ever thinking good of their husbands. Debi starts by outlining what she argues is a common problem for her intended audience: … [Read more...]


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