If It Was So Bad, Why Did You Stay?

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsOnce in a while, I get this question. It’s not so different from years ago when I asked my mother the same thing.My father died of colon cancer when I was three years old. My mother rarely spoke of him except to say that his death was the best thing that could have happened to us – his four children. Back in those days, you didn’t challenge or question adults, so I would listen to her comment and wonder what she meant. Was it because he was so ill or so maimed by his disease (he lost most of his intestines and wore a colostomy bag) that it would have been difficult for us? That was my assumption.Then, when I was about twenty yea … [Read more...]

Christian Cliches: “Do Not Deny One Another”

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by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's Words "Do not deny one another" is a misquoted fragment of a passage in 1 Corinthians 7.  Here is the whole passage, from the New American Standard Version, with the words in question in italics: … [Read more...]

Vyckie Garrison on “Soulation” – Part 1

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by Vyckie Garrison - Founder of NLQ Here's the first segment of my recent interview with Jonalyn Grace Fincher of Soulation. From Jonalyn's intro: Here you can see us beginning to determine if we can trust one another even as we find common ground. The opening minutes are all about listening well and gaining trust. What common ground do you see us identifying? Stay tuned for more (✿◠‿◠)~~~~~~~~~~~~ Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ If this is your first time visiting NLQ please read our Welcome page and our Comment Policy! Comments open below NLQ Recommended Reading … Quiverfull: Inside the Chr … [Read more...]

Day 20 of 21 Days of Healing: What About God?

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“God made you in His image.”Day 20You may have noticed that I haven’t spent much time on God over these 21 days except for the brain changing thoughts that I hope you have been repeating to yourself several times a day through the month. If you stuck with it, you will probably notice a change in how you think about what God thinks of you. Please don’t stop once our 21 Days are over. … [Read more...]

Being a Mom is Hard

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by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesEditor's note: Posting this because it points out something obvious that the Quiverfull world loves to downplay. Not everyone is ready, equipped, suited, or should be a mother. It's hard work and it's not for everyone. True wisdom is knowing your own capabilities.Being a mom is hard.I know this because, from time to time, my friends ask me to care for their children while they’re away, and I know, from experience, that I don’t have what it takes. … [Read more...]

Part 2 – The Paradox of Freedom

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalPart one can be found here - Part 1 - The Paradox of FreedomI shared in my last post about the revolutionary discovery I made after my husband left me - that I actually had the freedom to choose whether or not to forgive him! And that it was only when I found out I was free to choose, that I was truly able to forgive. This is what I call the paradox of freedom.Now it's been many years since that momentous realisation. Since then I've seen a precious friendship turn into marriage, been blessed with two more amazing sons, suffered spiritual abuse, lost my 'religion', and embarked on a faith journey with a freshly-revealed … [Read more...]

What I Understand

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live In my last re-post I talked about how I am not my parents. This stemmed from being told again and again (whenever I disagreed with my parents stance on something) that when I was older, when I was a parent, when I was a parent of many… I would magically understand why my parents did what they did. The implication being that I would agree with and condone what they did as well. The breakthrough I talked about in that post, was stating that I will never “understand” or feel that abuse was justified, and I stand by that statement. But some of what they are saying is true. I have begun to understand some things. … [Read more...]

Guilt, the Essence of Evangelical Christianity

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserWhat would the Evangelical Christianity be without guilt?Guilt, despite what preachers say, is the engine that powers the Evangelicalism.Often preachers will try to hide guilt by giving it other names like conviction. But no matter how they try to hide it, guilt plays a prominent part in the day-to-day lives of those who profess to be followers of Jesus Christ.Think about it for a moment. The Bible presents God as a righteous, holy, judging, wrathful, deity. In the Old Testament this God was unapproachable except by a  few chosen people. People who got too close wound up dead. … [Read more...]

It’s a New Year, and it’s Going to be Perfect (Because I Said So)

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by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like Mine originally posted on 12-27-13 It's a couple days after Christmas and we are about to come into the New Year. I don't know about you but it's about this time of year where I start to feel an urge to plan for next year, and all the awesome things I am going to do, how much self change I want to set out to attain and how this New Year will be perfect. Cue the obsessive scrolling of Pinterest and creating boards and New Years resolutions left and right. I think "oh won't this be wonderful" and get a sort of New Years resolution happiness spike that will eventually result in a crash, burn and lots of tears. Perhaps even a wallop o … [Read more...]

Part One – The Paradox of Freedom

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalMany years ago I found myself, completely against my will, dealing with the loss of my marriage. I'd spent 7 years married to a man who lied and deceived seemingly without conscience, who was a master of emotional manipulation, and who acted as if the world revolved around him alone. While his regular outbursts of anger only occasionally resulted in physical abuse, it almost always ended with him breaking things - usually my things! … [Read more...]


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