Not Quoting Quiverfull: What To Say To Someone Suffering

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by Nancy Guthrie from John Piper's Desiring God blog - What Not to Ask Someone SufferingEditor's note: Most of the time when I read Desiring God I have to say 'ugh' at the terrible Evangelical Quiverfull ideas it contains. This is different, this is something I think all of us in recovery can learn from. It's a good list of what to say to someone suffering. Guess even places with bad ideas will occasionally stumble over something that isn't so bad after all. … [Read more...]

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I Am A Publican And A Heathen Part 3

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserIn March of 1994, our family packed everything up and moved from Somerset, Ohio to Elmendorf, Texas, a small rural spot along the road outside of San Antonio. Community Baptist Church had asked me to come to Texas to co-pastor the church along with Pat Horner, the founder of the church. This move was supposed to be what pastors like to call a once in a lifetime opportunity. The church was a young, growing Sovereign Grace church. (the church is much smaller today, and many of the members I pastored are no longer there) The church wanted me to jump-start their evangelistic efforts and help them start a … [Read more...]

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I Am A Publican and a Heathen Part 2

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserOur family arrived in Elmendorf, Texas the first week of March 1994. I had resigned from Somerset Baptist Church in Somerset, Ohio, and after closing down the church and Christian school, I  packed up my family and moved us to Elmendorf so I could become co-pastor of Community Baptist Church.Community Baptist Church was an Sovereign Grace (Calvinistic) Independent Baptist church. The church was started in the 1980’s by Pat Horner. The church worshiped at a ramshackle former Southern Baptist church building on Labus Road outside of Elmendorf. The church property included several acres of land that ho … [Read more...]

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Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – What To Do With My Life?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

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Mari’s Journey – Continued From April 2013

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by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesI started this blog to tell my story. I stopped abruptly in April 2013 and just never got back to it. Well…. here is the continuation of the story….In the last two installments, I passed the GED test and got a car! A lot happened in a short period of time.After finding out I’d passed, I took a celebratory trip to Minnesota to visit my cousins. I was just so happy that I wasn’t stupid after all and I needed to find someone to share my joy. … [Read more...]

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My Conservative Christian Nightmare: I Spent 16 Years in an Abusive Religious Sect

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by Vyckie Garrison NLQ Founder from AlternetIf you have not heard of the Quiverfull movement, I’ll sum it up by saying that Quiverfull is an all-encompassing vision of a big, happy, godly family which affects every aspect of a so-called True Believer’s life. Probably the most recognizable Quiverfull family in America is reality TV’s Duggar family of 19 Kids and Counting fame.You'll find Quiverfull families in nearly all types of churches in every community. Quiverfull is simply the “pro-life” idea that truly godly families will “trust the Lord” with their family planning. Children are viewed as unmitigated blessings (“As arrows in the hand of the mighty man, so are the children of one … [Read more...]

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Morality

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by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (and Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsI have been trying to figure out just what it is that bothers Christians about the idea that there may be no God telling us exactly what is good and evil. This seems to be a big deal! I have friends in a panic over the mere suggestion. There may be some side issues, but it appears to boil down to a Christian’s desire for accountability; not even so much for themselves as for everyone else. Christianity teaches there are eternal consequences: rewards for those who do good, punishment for those who do not. I know that on the surface they believe this just because the Bible teaches it, … [Read more...]

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Insanity in the Church

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalMy ex-husband's way of dealing with relationship breakdown was just to walk away and pretend it had never happened.Despite the many times I asked him to meet with me and deal with the reality of what had happened between us, he refused. He wanted to walk away and get on with the fun he was having (i.e. an affair) If he didn't have to face reality, he could convince himself that he'd done nothing wrong and so there was nothing to deal with. If I was hurt, that was my problem. … [Read more...]

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Sea Legs

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsFor the first several weeks after we were tossed out of our church I felt like I still had sea legs.  I had learned over the years to walk somewhat steadily – or at least with a great deal of familiarity – as the wind and waves of spiritual abuse crashed over and around me.  Though I found myself on solid ground, my body, mind, and spirit continued for a time to lurch and sway as though I were still on board that hulking monstrosity of a church from whence my spiritually abusive treatment had pounded unabatedly. … [Read more...]

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The Mary Crawfords of This World

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by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like MineEditor's note: The Mary Crawford that Nora is discussing in her blog is a character from Jane Austen's novel "Mansfield Park" An explanation of the character of Mary Crawford and quotes by Mary for those unfamiliar with the writings of  Jane Austen. An important part of recovery after leaving the world of QF to be able to recognize the toxic people in your path. … [Read more...]

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