An Open Letter To My Former High School Teachers

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemDear Teachers,                                                                                            October 15, 2013When I came to the high school at age 17, I had absolutely no idea how to be a student.  Many of you know by now that I had didn't know what a teacher-student dynamic was. I hope you understand that up to that point I had been around adults who mostly made stuff up as they went along, and expected respect from authority that was derived simply from being bigger and older, not from legitimate accomplishment. To a scared 17 year old, it looked the same at first, because of the authority aspect. In … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Hot Jesus Eyes!??

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by Paula Hendricks from Lies Young Women Believe - Christ or Crush?Editor's note: Thanks for pointing this one out Bruce Gerencser! Didn't know if it should be a 'Quoting Quiverfull' or a 'Laughter is Good Medicine' on NLQ because it's funny as can be with the original author thinking it's serious and good advice. I don't want to think about Jesus as 'The Hot Guy'. Ick factor infinity! … [Read more...]

Boiling The Frog – When Churches Turn Into Dangerous Cults

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog What Would Roger Sterling Do?I'm going to ask you to stop and read this first before proceeding onto my story of how weird the church and I got towards the end - The Seven Signs You're in a Cult in The Atlantic MagazineGot it? Yep.What happened was sort of like that old beloved in Christianity false story about putting the frog in a big pot of water and the frog not realizing till it was too late that he was being boiled alive. Our church turning into a cult happened a lot like that. … [Read more...]

My Level of Commitment Cannot Exceed Yours

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsA few nights ago, one of the folks from our former church called.  Not to ask us how we are. Not to find out why they don’t see us around anymore.  Not to ask if we would like to get together.They called to ask us for . . .  Deep breath . . .Money.And I’m thinking, “Wow.”Maybe if you cared just a little. Just enough to say, “We miss you and would like to see you sometime.”Theirs is a noble cause.  Though, I must say, I was a bit surprised that they called asking us for money since theirs is a wealthy family.  So why ask for our help?  Especially when our son has already told them that we are in the midst of helping o … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: What Happened to the IFB?

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by David Parton from What Happened To The Independent Fundamentalist Baptist Movement? - What Happened To Us?Editor's note: While parts of the IFB fall clearly in the harmful Quiverfull theology I have to give this man credit. He's asking the hard questions as someone in the IFB movement. Too bad other flavors of religion in Quiverfull are not asking and examining the same question. It can only be positive when those involved in the more cult-like versions of Christianity start critically thinking about why it doesn't work. What questions do you think Quiverfull churches should start asking? … [Read more...]

Oh Daughters of Fundamentalism, Take Upon Yourselves the Cloak of Self-Deception

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of Them I recently witnessed a young girl who is struggling a bit who expressed that she was a bit unhappy with her life, being told that she just needs to take it one day at a time, and be happy with it. To me it is shameful to express to a child or a teenager that their discomfort or unhappiness with a difficult situation stems from their own inability to cope. What message is being given to girls when they are told that although they are not the creators of the bad situation, they must be the authors of the solution, but the solution must only be to swallow their feelings and smile. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Accept the Bad Things to be Happy?

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by Sarah Mae at Fitting Perfect Into Fallen - I Have Bad Thoughts About My HusbandEditor's note: Why is it that in the world of Quiverfull, Evangelicals, Fundamentalist and Christian Patriarchy no one ever thinks to just come right out and TALK about their issues or feelings or struggles WITH the person they are struggling with instead of repressing their angst and pasting a smile on their face? Life outside that bubble is so much more simplistic and fulfilling if for no other reason than you can express your thoughts and feelings without feeling shame. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet Blog: Wedding Music Angst!

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideLearning to judge people is a skill that must be refined over time. Here's a question that lets the girls practice sharpening their nails - or not.(All spelling is from the original.) … [Read more...]

Final Installment of My Story: A Heart Like Mine

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by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like MineClosing the gate behind; leaving the suds in the bucket and the clothes hanging on the line. I thought that I would be writing the final installment of My Story; A Heart Like Mine from the singular perspective of leaving home many years ago. But I realized that in many ways I am only now finally leaving home and closing the gate behind me. … [Read more...]

The Perfection Lie

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live Hello. My name is Young Mom, and I am a recovering Perfectionist. I used to be in denial that I am a perfectionist. Perfectionist’s were the type of people that annoyed me, they were the ones with the immaculate houses, well behaved children and clean nice-smelling cars. My house was never clean enough, my children still disobeyed despite my best efforts, my car was a disaster. Nope, I couldn’t be a perfectionist, otherwise I would have everything under control. But being a perfectionist doesn’t mean that you have an immaculate house, it means that you feel that you are supposed to have an immaculate house, so you freak out whenever … [Read more...]


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