So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – How to Recognize and Respond to “Mean” Christians

Looks like he's getting ready to dish out that five fold ministry

From Charisma Magazine by Richard M. Salazar Jr. - 5 Signs of a Mean-Spirited Leader I was astounded when a close friend of mine recently forwarded a tweet to me sent out by Dr. Chuck Swindoll a few months back that read, "The problem with mean Christians is that not enough people have confronted them and told them to get lost!" … [Read more...]

Right Wing Family Values and the World’s Greatest Freak Show

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by NLQ Founder Vyckie Garrison and also posted at Bruce Gerencser's blog The Way HomeDo you remember when it first dawned on you that your relatives are all a bunch of crackpots and weirdos?  Seems like I was around 8 or 9 — my mother worked all night in the casinos and slept most of the day, leaving me alone to protect my naïve older sister from the depraved advances of Mom’s alcoholic boyfriends and worry about my big brother’s drug addiction. I couldn’t count on my grandparents to help — they were too preoccupied with their own divorce, dating, and remarriage dramas.“Holy sugar,” I thought to myself, “these people are seriously messed up!” … [Read more...]

Mary Pride denies founding the Quiverfull movement?

by Vyckie Garrison (Editor's Note: This was originally published on NLQ back around three or four years ago. Sharing again as it seems appropriate in light of our recent discussions about Mary Pride)A couple months back, I received an email from Mary Pride -- apparently, she's feeling the pressure since Frank Schaeffer mentioned her in his latest book, Sex, Mom & God, and has been talking in various interviews about her role in founding the Quiverfull and Christian Patriarchy movements with her book, The Way Home: Beyond Feminism and Back to Reality.If you Google "Mary Pride" -- NLQ comes up 4th on the results page -- I'm guessing that's how she ended up emailing me: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Mary Pride Marginalized by Patriarchy?

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by Karen Campbell from her blog That MomMary Pride was one of the first leaders in the modern homeschooling movement. Her book The Way Home was a powerful rebuttal of the radical feminist agenda and she minced no words as she made an appeal for rejecting all sorts of sacred cows. Mary was outspoken and certainly no model of the perfect patriarch wife and ruffled lots of male feathers. One of my fondest memories of homeschooling in the early days (nearly 30 years ago now) is of a conference in the St. Louis area with Gregg Harris, Michael Farris, and Mary … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sexlessness and the Single Woman?

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by Colleen Chao from Ladies Against Feminism and True Woman - Sexual Desire and the Single Girl Imagine keeping a lion in a small cat-carrier. For years. Day after day. Night after night. He roars. He eats. (A lot.) His energy is endless. And yet you keep him caged. If sex is the highest good in life, the greatest pleasure we can experience, we're in trouble. … [Read more...]

1971-1972 Good Baptist Boys Don’t Dance

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by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardNinth grade school picture, wearing the welfare glasses I got in 1971. It took me all of 4 weeks to earn enough money to get a pair wire rimmed glasses. I was so embarrassed to wear these glasses. Everyone knew our family was on welfare.It’s September of 1971 and I am fourteen and a ninth grade student at Central Junior High School in Findlay, Ohio. It’s time for gym class and today we are going to square dance. Except I won’t be square dancing because the church I attended, Trinity Baptist Church, considered dancing a sin. … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next?: The Narcissistic Pastor – How to Recognize a Spiritual Abuser

Chances are any pastor that is a Narcissist is actually whoring out parts of his personality/life

from the website An Irenicon - The Narcissistic PastorSo what does the narcissistic pastor look like?  I’m a humble person, so I’ll merely recount the characteristics of narcissism as identified by Sam Vaknin (himself diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder). His thoughts are in bold. Like I said I’m too humble to know any of this firsthand. Having worked, lived, confided for, and studied with many pastors, however, I know that it touches our profession intimately. Comments following the boldface reflect my actual experiences working in the church. … [Read more...]

The Six Inch Rule: Thou Shalt Not Touch

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by Bruce Genercser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardImagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are discreetly, cleverly holding handsThe pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]

How I Was Almost Rescued from Abuse

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemA few months I wrote a post called Navigating the Justice System Part 1: Alone at 9 Years Old. This post is the story of what it was like for me to experience a Children's Aid investigation and a court case, from my perspective as a child. It skips pretty quickly over what the social workers were like and what they did, and I didn't talk very much about the involvement of other agencies and groups. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being an Abused Woman Makes You Sinful?

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by Jennifer Tritle at Chalcedon.edu and cross posted at Ladies Against Feminism - Joy as a Tool of Dominion For the Abused Woman Consider this scenario: Various women are abused as children. They grow up in conscious or unconscious guilt and shame. They subtly or ostensibly manifest fear, bitterness, depression, masochistic dependency, and/or sadistic domineering behaviors in their personalities. Undiscipled Christian men are attracted for various conscious and unconscious reasons to … [Read more...]


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