Day 4 of 21 Days of Healing: Reclaiming Your Power Part 3

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid for the Lord is my strength and my song; He also has become my salvation.” Is 12:2,3 Day 4: The balance of power. … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” review: 107-122, ‘Sex: God, Gross or Gift?’

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons This chapter seems to be Mark and Grace’s attempt at establishing a historical context for arguments they’ll make later; it’s basically nothing more than an extremely truncated and condensed version of how sex has been viewed in Ancient Near Eastern (“biblical”) and Christian cultures. The unfortunate thing is that their history lesson is … [Read more...]

Day 3 of 21 Days of Healing: Reclaiming Your Own Power Part 2

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsIf you are following the 21 Days of Healing, please remember to continue to work on changing your brain. You will want to continue to replace the messages that your abusers gave you by focusing on the truth of what God has to say about you and your relationship with Him. “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” Jeremiah 31:3 … [Read more...]

Day 2 of 21 Days of Healing: Reclaim Your Power – Part 1

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsFirst, let me remind you that if you are walking through these 21 Days of Healing, keep working on Day 1. “God loves you with an everlasting love.”Now for Day 2: … [Read more...]

Day 1 of 21 Days of Healing: Change Your Brain

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsWhile my most recent church experience involved over a decade of abusive conduct toward me, the church I attended before was also fraught with spiritual abusive. So for nearly 20 years, I had been beaten down, kicked in the corner, and had my standing as a Christian questioned. … [Read more...]

Tim Bayly Is Tardy To Our Hen Party!

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerEvangelical pastor/blogger Tim Bayly just discovered Vyckie Garrison's life story and *gasp* is busy clutching his pastoral pearls as he realizes that women are speaking out! Guessing sometimes information outside of the CPM bubble takes a while to trickle down past all those filters woven from old Bible pages.Women folks! They are speaking out 'online' and even worse, 'in real life', to the men folks! He can't understand how Vyckie could possibly have such a problem with God the Father and Christianity in general even after reading all the ways in which her own beliefs harmed her. It must be feminism according to him and his readers/commenters.He had this to … [Read more...]

21 Days of Healing – An Introduction

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsDecember 20, 2013. That’s the day that my husband received an email from one of the pastor’s of our former church telling us that we were to leave. All because my husband had said that they needed to apologize to me. Until the moment when he insisted there needed to be an apology, it appeared that there was hope. For communication. For a meeting. The anticipation of a God-honoring conclusion to years of spiritual abuse. … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” Review: 86 – 106: ‘Taking out the Trash’

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons I wish you all could read the entirely of this chapter because it is ironic. One of these days I’ll have to create a whole series of posts dedicated to page 89, where Mark defines repentance, comparing that to his actual real-life behavior, because it is hysterical. Not only does he fail his own list of “pastoral requirements,” he also bombs at his own definition of repentance– and you can read the whole thing here. … [Read more...]

Moms, Joy and Christmas

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Kirk Cameron on his film 'Saving Christmas' in cinemas tomorrow.What I want to know after watching this bit is if he and Nancy Campbell got together to plan this 'Moms should be filling the home with JOY!' thing they are both spieling . … [Read more...]

Re-Post: Lies We Tell Ourselves About Abuse

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live This post was originally published June 2011. One of the things that prompted my finally admitting my own denial, was realizing I did not want to parent the way I was parented.  I wanted to believe that how I grew up had not been harmful, I wanted so badly for my parents to be right, that I refused to think about it, refused to deal with it, and even repeated it. In the end, my desire to not hurt my kids was stronger than my desire for my parents to be right.  That is what snapped me out of the fog, and forced me to get help. … [Read more...]


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