Gaslighting

Lamplighter Lighting Gas Street Light

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts Editor's Note: We've covered this topic before but it never hurts to revisit some of the basics of harmful practices in churches and the world.I’ve been reading a bit about gas-lighting lately and at first I didn’t think that it played a part in my spiritual abuse. Maybe that’s because many of the articles and blogs that I read assumed that we all know what gas-lighting is already and so they didn’t give a very complete description or definition. I think it was the word “crazy” that finally hit home with me. Essentially, as I started putting it all together, I determined that gas-lighting is when someone tries to make you believe y … [Read more...]

Day 8 or 21 Days of Healing: The Arena

waterfalls

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“Keep your heart with all diligence . . . ” Prov. 4:23A big “aha!” moment for me came when I went to a conference based on Brene Brown’s book, Daring Greatly.In the book, Brene describes our lives as being lived in an arena. We all live in an arena with people sitting in the seats around us, watching.What we must determine is who sits where. Who gets to sit in the box seats – the places of honor in our lives? Who gets to sit in the cheap seats? … [Read more...]

Open Thread: Raising Your Children?

poisoncake

Last night I encountered this list of how not to raise 'Godly' children on Facebook. It was actually on the wall of someone I know from a very mainstream church where that church does not teach this restrictive list or anything even remotely close to it, but she firmly believes it. She's involved with the local homeschool group in my area, which is run by a woman that should be in jail right now for parenting failures of an extreme magnitude that originated with the type of thinking  this list is opposed to. … [Read more...]

My Story – A Heart Like Mine Part 2

nora

by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like MineI was raised as a “modern” Evangelical Christian. But the more I read the more subtle the distinction I find between how I was raised and Fundamentalist beliefs (such as Quiverfull).I didn't wear long dresses/or skirts like the women and girls of the Duggar family, however I still had fashion specifications I was required to follow. I was still in many ways made to be lady like and modest, even if it was in pants. I rebelled and pushed this boundary as best I could and with dramatic flair. I even won my battles with mini skirts eventually. Probably due to my parents crumbling relationship; there was something else to dist … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Beall Phillips Responds to Excommunication?

itsallaboutme

by Beall Phillips (wife of Vision Forum disgraced head Doug Phillips)  at Facebook on November 17th, 2014A little late posting this but here it is. Beall's response. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Adoption Links Lead to Book Store Cheer Up?

cheerup

From Nancy Campbell's site Above RubiesRemember some years back when Nancy was pushing adoptions from Africa? She adopted a pile of children, one of her daughters adopted a pile of daughters all the while Nancy was trying to get everyone to go to Africa and adopt. Remember how suddenly all mention of her adopted African children stopped and she said nothing more about adoption? Nothing was known about what had happened until Kathryn Joyce's book on Evangelicals and international adoptions - The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking and the New Gospel of Adoption and a few articles came out telling of the failed Campbell adoptions and her African children sent away. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: That Dreaded ‘P’ Word?

patriarchy

by James McDonald from Your Sacred Calling - The "P" WordThis was written back in April 2014 when the Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips sexual scandals were fresh and on everyone's mind. Remember how many Evangelicals backpedaled furiously from the idea of the word "Patriarch"? … [Read more...]

Food and Religion – Its Ugly Shadow

On 'Mad Men' Betty Draper Francis was thin-heavy-thin and it had more to do with her emotions than anything else. Like it does for many of us.

by Stephanie - a guest post at Lana Hope's Wide Open Ground. Please be sure to visit Stephanie at her blog - Stephanie Hoffpauir(Editors Note: In the wake of Thanksgiving and the build up to Christmas I think it is important to think about how much stress and unhappiness play a role in keeping us bound to some not so healthy habits. No fat shaming here, lawdy I'm the last person to be throwing fat-rocks, but just have to point out the hypocrisy in the church over weight. Where I attended we were told that being overweight was a huge sin, the sin of gluttony, which only made everyone feel guilty and eat even more. It added to the stress and seemed cruel considering the high percentage of … [Read more...]

What is That Sorry Worth?

sorrybart

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalSince my own devastating 'church' experience, I've been reading and learning all I can about abuse. What it looks like. How it manifests. Why both abuser and abused seem to act out their parts as if reading from some ineluctable script, regardless of the finer details of the situation. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: When Even Conservative Christians Think Quiverfull is Wrong

missingmark

by Wade Burleson from Ethics Daily - Missing The Mark: Eight Flaws in Quiverfull TheologyFound this gem through Von Ohlman's True Love Doesn't Wait - Eight Leaps of Illogic where he attempts to take down this piece by Burleson. Obviously this is written from a conservative Christian point of view, but it looks like even the more conservative branches of religion are starting to realize what a dangerous theological bend Quiverfull is. … [Read more...]


CLOSE | X

HIDE | X