Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Your Husband’s Obsessions?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - ObsessionsEditor's note: So one of  Nancy's early solutions is to try and change a man? Baawwhahahahahah! There is nothing more frustrating and useless than trying to change someone else. You can only change yourself. At least she realized that wasn't going to work with Michael pretty quickly. But her message of suck it up, be joyful and find something to do while he's obsessing (or just merely practicing his hobby) is not any healthier. … [Read more...]

Buckling That Swash – Please?

by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink Flamingo Last week, the operatic world was in something of a flutter, at least many female opera fans were.  It was quite simple.  You take 1 incredibly good looking man with the best baritone voice of our generation, and put him in that shirt, and we lose our minds. Trust me, part of it is THE SHIRT.  There should be a law requiring men wear shirts like this. They are romantic, in every sense of the word: romance. … [Read more...]

Reflections of an Unintentionally Undercover Atheist

by Kaleesha Williams from her blog The Lost (And Found) Mind of Kaleesha Williams I went to the dentist earlier this week.  I’ve only been to this office once, but I like the people, they’re friendly.  Having taken the children to a dentist in a nearby town and getting my oldest into an orthodontist up near St. Louis I’ve come to the conclusion that people in and around the dental profession are some of the friendliest, sweetest-natured professionals in the world.  I’m told they have to be because so many people hate dentists.  But that’s not what I want to talk about today. … [Read more...]

“No Church is Perfect”

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalDear well-meaning (if cliched) christians I meet online,If just one more of you says to me, "no church is perfect" as a way of dismissing the abuse I experienced, I will probably self-destruct in front of you.I know this is true.But I do not accept it as an excuse for abusive behaviour. I do not accept it as a cover-up for harming others.You see, I am married.To an imperfect person.But that doesn't give my husband the right to abuse me.I understand that he is not perfect. I also understand that I am not perfect. But we have each other's backs. We talk things through. We forgive. We overlook the shortcomings. We value each other, … [Read more...]

Awkwardness

by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesI went to Bible Study tonight. We were supposed to get into groups and answer this question:As a child, how did you adapt in order to be accepted or in order to fit in?I didn’t answer the question.I fully intended to go home and think about it, but my friend’s 3-year old threw herself at me the second I suggested going home, so I held her, hugged her, and prayed that she would never, ever have the same answer to that question that I have. … [Read more...]

Vyckie Garrison on “Soulation” Part 2

 Part 2 of Vyckie's interview with Jonalyn Grace Fincher of Soulation. This time she talks about how  Christianity was crushing the spirits of her children. You can view the entire interview at Soulation - Christianity Was Crushing My KidsInteresting thought provoking discussion on questions that the church must start trying to answer.Part 1 can be found here - Vyckie Garrison on "Soulation" Part 1 … [Read more...]

If It Was So Bad, Why Did You Stay?

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsOnce in a while, I get this question. It’s not so different from years ago when I asked my mother the same thing.My father died of colon cancer when I was three years old. My mother rarely spoke of him except to say that his death was the best thing that could have happened to us – his four children. Back in those days, you didn’t challenge or question adults, so I would listen to her comment and wonder what she meant. Was it because he was so ill or so maimed by his disease (he lost most of his intestines and wore a colostomy bag) that it would have been difficult for us? That was my assumption.Then, when I was about twenty yea … [Read more...]

Christian Cliches: “Do Not Deny One Another”

by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's Words "Do not deny one another" is a misquoted fragment of a passage in 1 Corinthians 7.  Here is the whole passage, from the New American Standard Version, with the words in question in italics: … [Read more...]

Vyckie Garrison on “Soulation” – Part 1

by Vyckie Garrison - Founder of NLQ Here's the first segment of my recent interview with Jonalyn Grace Fincher of Soulation. From Jonalyn's intro: Here you can see us beginning to determine if we can trust one another even as we find common ground. The opening minutes are all about listening well and gaining trust. What common ground do you see us identifying? Stay tuned for more (✿◠‿◠)~~~~~~~~~~~~ Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ If this is your first time visiting NLQ please read our Welcome page and our Comment Policy! Comments open below NLQ Recommended Reading … Quiverfull: Inside the Chr … [Read more...]

Day 20 of 21 Days of Healing: What About God?

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“God made you in His image.”Day 20You may have noticed that I haven’t spent much time on God over these 21 days except for the brain changing thoughts that I hope you have been repeating to yourself several times a day through the month. If you stuck with it, you will probably notice a change in how you think about what God thinks of you. Please don’t stop once our 21 Days are over. … [Read more...]