An Open Letter to Other Recent Open Letters

April 10, 2013 By 15 Comments
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by Calulu This isn’t quite a mea maxima culpa, but I did want to take some time to talk about the recent posting of two Open Letter posts involving the Hyles family, the Schaap family and the continuing mess at First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana.

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An Open Letter to Linda Hyles Murphrey

April 5, 2013 By 53 Comments
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by Jenny Weber A guest post cross posted from Jenny’s blog I’m Having A Thought Here TRIGGER WARNING! This might trigger those of you struggling to recover from abuse heaped on by former church members and clergy Dear Linda: You open your open letter to the dear past and present members of First Baptist Church, [...]

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Linda Murphrey Writes an Open Letter to First Baptist Church Hammond

March 24, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Bruce Gerencser Linda Murphrey is the daughter of the late Jack Hyles. What follows is an excerpt of an open letter Linda wrote to First Baptist Church in Hammond, Indiana. I hope you will take the time to read the entire letter on Linda’s website:

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Jack Schaap Gets 12 Years in Federal Prison

March 20, 2013 By 17 Comments
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Guessing that all those identical letters from IFB Schaap followers didn’t help him much after the FBI called them  “ Sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity” in the sentencing memorandum. Apparently the federal sentencing guidelines

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Saturday Links – March 16, 2013

March 16, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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We’ve decided to go back to the Saturday Links feature because there is so much happening out there in the world of religion, recovery and quiverfull. Starting with a sort of lighthearted one today. So how much money does it take to feed the Duggar clan hamburgers and fries at a

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