Home For the Holidays, All of the Holidays

Ah ,home, the place that makes you feel like this...

by Suzanne TitkemeyerThat's one thing that was emphasized again and again in the Quiverfull movement, a woman's home was the most important place for her in this entire world. Mary Pride pointed out that way home from a life spent on careers and working outside of the home, pointing the way to homemaking and homeschooling as our life's highest purpose. Nancy Campbell has dedicated her entire ministry career to telling all of us to stay home, have a good attitude about, make your home the most comfortable peaceful place on earth, so comfortable that even God would linger there. Debi Pearl promised blessings and fulfillment if you honored God's laws for being a proper help meet and mother … [Read more...]

Day 6 of 21 Days of Healing: The Truth and Nothing But the Truth

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“Lo, I am with you always.” (Keep reminding yourself the truth of what God says. It is so critical to change your thinking about who you are in Christ.)You know how jigsaw puzzles have a beautiful picture on the top of the box and the pieces inside are supposed to all fit together to recreate that picture? That’s what I expected church to be like. I expected that the things that I read in my bible, heard from the pulpit and in classes and seminars at my church would be played out in the way that we all lived life together. … [Read more...]

Why Am I Not Surprised?

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsI wasn’t going to post anything but the 21 Days of Healing series until after it was done, but seriously, this just deserves to be posted.When I was tossed out of my church, a “friend” from the church (who still spies on me by following this blog) invited me that next week to have coffee with her. We spent several hours at a coffee bar the next town south of where the church is located talking about what was happening. … [Read more...]

What is That Sorry Worth?

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalSince my own devastating 'church' experience, I've been reading and learning all I can about abuse. What it looks like. How it manifests. Why both abuser and abused seem to act out their parts as if reading from some ineluctable script, regardless of the finer details of the situation. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: The Dones?

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by Mark Sandlin from the Patheos blog The God Article - The Rise of 'The Dones' as the Church Kills Spiritual Community Mark is also the founder of The Christian LeftExcellent article and observations. Many of us from the former Quiverfull community are now part of 'The Dones', being told we were never 'real' Christians or we would have never walked away in the first place.  Predictably there are a few True Believers in the comments slinging Bible verses and hate. How about you, dear readers? Are you a SBNR, The Nones or part of The Dones? … [Read more...]

Christians Understand Your Feelings Better Than You

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [content note: fundie-speak about “conviction”] As you all know, a little while ago I attended The Reformation Project’s conference, and it was an experience I appreciated and enjoyed. It wasn’t completely sunshine and roses for me, as Friday morning a couple protestors showed up outside the … [Read more...]

Reposting: “We All Sin:” A 15 Step Path To Forgiveness For Doug Phillips

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by Heather Doney from her blog Becoming Worldly originally posted there just over a year ago 11 - 5 - 13The Doug Phillips affair scandal has rocked and shocked the Quiverfull and Christian Patriarchy world the past few days, so I figured I’d address one angle that to my knowledge hasn’t been covered in depth yet: the path that Doug Phillips will try to take to “restoration” and “forgiveness.” It usually seems to take about 15 steps. But first, some background: … [Read more...]

Day 4 of 21 Days of Healing: Reclaiming Your Power Part 3

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid for the Lord is my strength and my song; He also has become my salvation.” Is 12:2,3 Day 4: The balance of power. … [Read more...]

Day 3 of 21 Days of Healing: Reclaiming Your Own Power Part 2

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsIf you are following the 21 Days of Healing, please remember to continue to work on changing your brain. You will want to continue to replace the messages that your abusers gave you by focusing on the truth of what God has to say about you and your relationship with Him. “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” Jeremiah 31:3 … [Read more...]

Day 2 of 21 Days of Healing: Reclaim Your Power – Part 1

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsFirst, let me remind you that if you are walking through these 21 Days of Healing, keep working on Day 1. “God loves you with an everlasting love.”Now for Day 2: … [Read more...]


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