What Micah Murray and I Want You (and the Duggars) to Know About JOY (Jesus, Others, You)

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from Under Much GraceMy blog post today was birthed by a new article written by a thoughtful young man -- a Second Generation Adult (raised in high demand religion) -- who used to be the equivalent of a Duggar, but sans TV show.  Hopefully sans abject abuse, too.(As I finish this post, The Kelly File featuring the first interview with the Duggars following the tragic news of sexual abuse in their family just beings to air. … [Read more...]

A Sampling of Prophet/Priest/King Teaching

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by Emily from Christian Patriarchal Watch List For Parents Read in their own words. As you read, you may hear some things that strike you as positive. But ask yourself: Is this what I want for my daughter? Is this a healthy masculinity we want Christianity to be promoting here and around the world? Is this a healthy use of the Bible? … [Read more...]

Do Not Turn Yourself Inside Out

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by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like Mine"Do not turn yourself inside out trying to explain yourself to people who refuse to see you. You know who you are."I really liked this quote; I always seem to find things like this when I really need them. A wave of sadness had hit me yesterday, in part because I was still trying to recover and process from a nightmare the night before. I had this horrible dream Other Child was dying and there was nothing I could do about it. I was at their bedside forced with having to let them go. I think a dream like that is fairly representative of how I am still sorting through my feelings after making the choice to go no contact. … [Read more...]

News – Calvary Temple Church Spiritual Warfare

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 Was asked to post this to get the word out about Calvary Chapel in Sterling, Virginia. This isn't too far from where I live and my poisonous old church had a few of the walk aways from Calvary Temple. In this area of Northern Virginia there have been whispers of dangerous wrong doing for many years.  Calvary has been in the Washington D.C. news a lot lately over allegations of abuse, both sexual and physical, not to mention the many years of rumors here in Virginia over the spiritual abuse endemic at Calvary. … [Read more...]

Survivors Guilt

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground originally posted June 2013Daily I tremble in memory of friends left behind. As a Daughter of Patriarchy and fundamentalism, I am left to remember all the faces of those who didn’t make it out. I suffer from survivors guilt.  I don’t suffer from the spiritual abuse so much. I can accept that I will always be a foreigner in my own land. But gosh I hurt that so many friends have been left behind.This happened two days ago when I thought about my best friend from childhood (particularly high school), and I remembered that I was not invited to her wedding (she invited everyone else in childhood). It hurts not just that my friend rej … [Read more...]

How I Left My Parent’s Home

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemSeveral people have asked me about actually leaving my parents. It's kind of hard to explain exactly what happened, because there was not one day when I decided to leave.When I was 16, I was still attending a conservative church with my parents. In my family we were still expected to wear head coverings all the time, but the church we attended only expected them in churches. So in December of 2004 (when I was 16) I decided to stop wearing one at all - to me you either follow that verse 100% or not at all, and I wasn't going to be the only one. I also secretly purchased jeans and changed into them on rare occasions … [Read more...]

I Am A Publican And A Heathen Part 3

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserIn March of 1994, our family packed everything up and moved from Somerset, Ohio to Elmendorf, Texas, a small rural spot along the road outside of San Antonio. Community Baptist Church had asked me to come to Texas to co-pastor the church along with Pat Horner, the founder of the church. This move was supposed to be what pastors like to call a once in a lifetime opportunity. The church was a young, growing Sovereign Grace church. (the church is much smaller today, and many of the members I pastored are no longer there) The church wanted me to jump-start their evangelistic efforts and help them start a … [Read more...]

I Am A Publican and a Heathen Part 2

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserOur family arrived in Elmendorf, Texas the first week of March 1994. I had resigned from Somerset Baptist Church in Somerset, Ohio, and after closing down the church and Christian school, I  packed up my family and moved us to Elmendorf so I could become co-pastor of Community Baptist Church.Community Baptist Church was an Sovereign Grace (Calvinistic) Independent Baptist church. The church was started in the 1980’s by Pat Horner. The church worshiped at a ramshackle former Southern Baptist church building on Labus Road outside of Elmendorf. The church property included several acres of land that ho … [Read more...]

Talking My Way to Spiritual Health

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“I’m praying for your healing.”“What makes you think I’m not healed?”“You keep talking about it.  You won’t talk about it any more once you are completely healed.”“Seriously?  Remember how they told me I wasn’t to tell anyone what was happening to me?”“Yeah.”“As along as I wasn’t talking, I was immersed in their abusive treatment.  It wasn’t until I started healing that I was able to talk about it.  In fact, talking about it is one of the best indications that I have healed.  Talking about it means that I am not ashamed, I am not hiding, I am whole and strong and victorious.  Not only that, but talking about it allow … [Read more...]

Saved By Being Right: Christianity and Dogmatism

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by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsIn the Christian group I belonged to in college, we believed we had all the answers.Other Christians might differ from us in doctrine, but we knew the truth, straight from the Bible. "God said it, I believe it, and that settles it," we would say.  We even knew why everyone didn't see things the same way we did.  They were deceived.  Or they were "in compromise" with sin and were trying to justify themselves.  Or they were "lukewarm" and just didn't want to "pay the price" to really "press forward in the things of God." … [Read more...]


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