The Women Fighting Back

NLQ Founder Vyckie Garrison and NLQ Admin Suzanne Titkemeyer were recently interviewed by Dylan Brethour for Vice.com about their time in the Quiverfull movement: Former member Suzanne explains: "Quiverfull families believe that they have to trust the Lord with their family planning... It's based off the idea that God intends to fill your quiver and blessed is the man whose quiver is full of arrows." Another ex-member, Vyckie Garrison, calls Quiverfull "pro-life rhetoric on steroids". I spoke to both women about why they joined, life as a true believer, and what finally pushed them to leave. … [Read more...]

The Story – Part 4

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding FundamentalThe Shunning  This ‘discipline‘ as it turned out was not discipline at all, but punishment which had the appearance of one acting to satisfy his wrath against those who resisted or opposed him.  He actually commanded the whole church to SHUN  these young people for varying periods of time from 2 weeks to 6 weeks according to the severity of their ‘crimes’.  There was only one given 6 weeks, and that was for making the statement about his not disciplining them unless he disciplined the others.  This he said was the worst offense of all because that person was, “Making an accusation against a pastor without witnesses”.  This per … [Read more...]

Part 2 – The Story

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental  THE CHURCH WE BECAMEPaul and I began to be much more attracted to the teachings of ‘old-fashioned’ preachers and evangelists who seemed to be having great success in raising ‘Godly’, obedient, adoring children.  We frequented camp meetings where these preachers and evangelists could be heard.  They were loud, passionate and charismatic pulpiteers who knew how to deliver powerful sermons and lure audiences to surrender.  … [Read more...]

Part 1 – The Story

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental REASONSIn order to add some context to the articles I have written on this blog I want to designate a page to summarize our story from beginning to end.   It is my hope, as it has always been, to expose not only the wrongs that The Preacher was guilty of, but to own the actual wrongs we committed as opposed to what The Preacher has stated publicly using skilled innuendo and out-right public accusations. … [Read more...]

The Costs of Quiverfull Part 1 – Open Letter to Quiverfull Readers

by Suzanne TitkemeyerOne of the realizations I've come to over NLQ recently is that there are a lot of women still in the Quiverfull movement that come visit and read at this site. I admit I haven't exactly been nice or welcoming to them, generally running them off the comments the minute they say something nasty. I'll continue to moderate the comments and enforce the safe space there for those in recovery, but at the same time I cannot help but feel we need to somehow be more open to those still choosing to be part of the movement. What we can do is continue to point out the poisonous nature of that theology. This is the first part of a series of posts aimed at showing the reality of … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: How do You Stop Worrying About Hell?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This week's is a tiny bit different. This is a question that came in from a lady through our Facebook page. She wants to know how you deal with getting over a fear of Hell. Any reader advice would be welcomed. Thanks in advance. … [Read more...]

Saying NO

by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (and Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsI just told off a car full of elderly Jehovah’s Witness women. Wow. I have never had the guts to do that before. I usually politely listen to their thing and just wait for them to go away. They are human beings, after all.Okay, maybe a bit of a stretch to say I told them off. I was only slightly rude. I was brief. I firmly told them I was uninterested, that I am an atheist, that I’d believed that stuff for a decade and a half and was done. Then, without waiting for a rebuttal, I turned on my heel and walked back the garden where I’d been mowing. … [Read more...]

The Pretenders We Used To Be

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental THE PRETENDERI'm going to rent myself a house In the shade of the freeway I'm going to pack my lunch in the morning And go to work each day And when the evening rolls around I'll go on home and lay my body down And when the morning light comes streaming in … [Read more...]

The Puritans, The Quakers and Little Old Me (Reflections on ‘A Measure of Light’)

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The ShepherdA couple of weeks ago, a new novel mentioned on Facebook piqued my interest. I ordered it almost immediately. A Measure of Light, by bestselling Canadian author Beth Powning, retells the story of Mary Dyer, an English woman who came to Massachusetts as a persecuted Puritan, yet later became one of the earliest American Quakers.My mind always seeks connections between what I read and my own life and family, and this was an immediate grab for me. One of my ancestors, Margaret Stevenson Scott, was the last and oldest person hanged by the Puritans in the Salem … [Read more...]

I Lost My God Innocence

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground“You HAVE changed!” a friend from my old Christian circles said to me three years ago, when I first came back from South East Asia, alone and frightened.We were outside a popular late-night burger joint in my home state. When pressed, I had spoken my opinion about evangelical hot button. Apparently my friend had heard that I had changed from somebody who read my blog, but when I said the wrong words, she now believed it for herself- I had turned into a liberal. Horrid. … [Read more...]