Revisiting Steadfast Daughters in a Quivering World: Part 6 – Soul Binding

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[Note: this series is dedicated to Quivering Daughtersby the former-Quiverfull moms at No Longer Quivering.] by Daisy My name is Daisy. I am a good person…but I was a bad parent. … [Read more...]

Revisiting Steadfast Daughters in a Quivering World Part 5 – Confessions of a Quiverfull Hero

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[Note: this series is dedicated to Quivering Daughters by the former-Quiverfull moms at No Longer Quivering.]by Daisy I was only 19 when I arrived at Christianity’s door, bruised and highly impressionable and, because of my family situation, determined to do a better job of sorting out my life than my parents had done. Victims of abuse in their own homes, my parents had learned very early to dissociate from their emotions. Our home was an emotionally sterile one and, although I know now that this is not true, as as child I believed my parents did not love me. I decided that when *I* had kids, if they grew up knowing nothing else, they would know for sure that I loved them more than bre … [Read more...]

Sex Ed

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by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (And Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsAre you going to give your children sex education and how?Okay, how about some random, rambling thoughts and interesting links? … [Read more...]

Breaking the Silence

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To LiveCynthia Jeub telling her story brings up a lot for me.Memories.Memories of hiding in small dark places with my hands clamped firmly over my ears to try to block out the screams of a sibling who was being “disciplined.” Being isolated, and truly having no one to tell, no one to turn to for help. … [Read more...]

Socialization and Psychological Maltreatment: Isolating Children and Teenagers

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of Them This post deals with parents isolating and controlling their children’s social interactions; of course my parents and many other homeschooling parents have engaged in many other forms of control, but this is one that people don't seem to realize is a problem. Below, I give some examples of social isolation and control in my own life, and then reference work from Roberta Hibbard, Jane Barlow, and Harriet MacMillan to show how social isolation can be a serious problem for children who are subjected to it. … [Read more...]

Why the Homeschool Movement Was So Frightening

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground The stories on Homeschoolers Anonymous have been more triggering for me lately. HA is hosting a series called “It hurts me more than you.” Then today Cynthia Jeub, a daughter of a well-known homeschool family with 16 children,shared her story of the abuse she and her siblings have received, and still are receiving. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 5

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsFor a few years, I had the privilege of serving in my church in several ways. I took classes, my husband and I took care of a significant portion of the landscape (which had been sorely neglected) – creating sacred spaces for people to find quiet time with the Lord, and I assisted with preparing food for Sunday morning fellowship. I also had the opportunity to teach classes over our final year there. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts Part 4

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsDuring all of these years, I would come to church, sit four or five rows from the pulpit, right on the center aisle, and listen to Elliot and others preach grace, forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration. Elliot preached and preached. I wept and wept openly. I could not sing. I could not so much as close my eyes in prayer. I could not stand for the blessing at the end of the service. I knew that no matter how much Elliot preached those words to everyone else in the congregation, they were not for me. And I would email him and tell him as much. Without response. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 2

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsSpeaking out against wrongs being perpetrated in the church . . . that was my most egregious sin.  And because of it, I had lies told about me, people eavesdropped on my conversations, and I received hate mail from a group of people telling me that I was a terrible person.My only response was to continue talking occasionally to the lay leader of the church, Denise, and to send Elliot  my questions and thoughts in emails – often asking if we could meet to talk, but never getting a response. At one point (perhaps more than one but only one I know about), Elliot shared my emails with the consistory and they wrote a letter telling me th … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 1

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsPlease welcome Ellen to NLQ and the SASBN!I came to our most recent church as broken as I thought I could possibly be. I even remember thinking, “What more could they possibly do to me that would hurt me? It’s all been done.”How wrong I was. … [Read more...]


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