People Who Matter

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by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's Muses “Be who you are and say what you mean. Because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~Dr. Seuss You find out (in a hurry!) who really matters and who really doesn’t when you decide it’s time to stop being what other people think you should be and start being you. Figuring out who matters and who doesn’t is so freeing. Yesterday, I had a conversation with a friend about realizing — just yesterday! — that I had been living for several months in a place where nobody cares. … [Read more...]

Waking Up To Hidden Abuse In The Christian Faith

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am Phoenix A year and six months ago, I officially chose to no longer identify as a Christian. It was the summer of 2012. Since then, many well meaning people have goaded me, guilted me, and mistakenly told me I was confusing all of Christianity for the abusive religious cult I grew up in. They told me it was ok to reject the cult I grew up in, but that I shouldn't reject all of Christianity as well.Well, guess what. I reject it all.  I reject the teachings of the abusive, patriarchal Christian cult I grew up in. And I reject mainstream, evangelical Christianity today. In my opinion, it is imbued with toxic, demeaning beliefs. I wrote about this to … [Read more...]

How in the World Did I Change my Mind?

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons If you’ve been here for any length of time you should be pretty well aware of that fact that I grew up in Christian fundamentalism. It was everything, my entire world, for the bulk of the aware-of-Jesus-and-could-understand-sermons portion of my life. And then I grew up and decided that I didn’t agree with … well, pretty much all of it. Except for the God and Jesus part, which even believing in he/she/they was a struggle for a few years. A while after I’d decided well, I think I’m still a Christian but what does that even mean I started a blog to sort it all out and here we are. … [Read more...]

Awkwardness

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by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesI went to Bible Study tonight. We were supposed to get into groups and answer this question:As a child, how did you adapt in order to be accepted or in order to fit in?I didn’t answer the question.I fully intended to go home and think about it, but my friend’s 3-year old threw herself at me the second I suggested going home, so I held her, hugged her, and prayed that she would never, ever have the same answer to that question that I have. … [Read more...]

Vyckie Garrison on “Soulation” – Part 1

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by Vyckie Garrison - Founder of NLQ Here's the first segment of my recent interview with Jonalyn Grace Fincher of Soulation. From Jonalyn's intro: Here you can see us beginning to determine if we can trust one another even as we find common ground. The opening minutes are all about listening well and gaining trust. What common ground do you see us identifying? Stay tuned for more (✿◠‿◠)~~~~~~~~~~~~ Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ If this is your first time visiting NLQ please read our Welcome page and our Comment Policy! Comments open below NLQ Recommended Reading … Quiverfull: Inside the Chr … [Read more...]

NLQ Book Review: God’s Buried Children by Daniel Farcas

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerOver a year ago a series of emails landed in my email box asking me to read, write a review, publish the review here and give this book five stars on Amazon. I do get review requests for NLQ on a regular basis, so this was just another of those. The topic sounded interesting, the memoirs of a man raised in the over burdened world of Romanian orphanages. … [Read more...]

Day 20 of 21 Days of Healing: What About God?

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“God made you in His image.”Day 20You may have noticed that I haven’t spent much time on God over these 21 days except for the brain changing thoughts that I hope you have been repeating to yourself several times a day through the month. If you stuck with it, you will probably notice a change in how you think about what God thinks of you. Please don’t stop once our 21 Days are over. … [Read more...]

Being a Mom is Hard

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by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesEditor's note: Posting this because it points out something obvious that the Quiverfull world loves to downplay. Not everyone is ready, equipped, suited, or should be a mother. It's hard work and it's not for everyone. True wisdom is knowing your own capabilities.Being a mom is hard.I know this because, from time to time, my friends ask me to care for their children while they’re away, and I know, from experience, that I don’t have what it takes. … [Read more...]

Guilt, the Essence of Evangelical Christianity

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserWhat would the Evangelical Christianity be without guilt?Guilt, despite what preachers say, is the engine that powers the Evangelicalism.Often preachers will try to hide guilt by giving it other names like conviction. But no matter how they try to hide it, guilt plays a prominent part in the day-to-day lives of those who profess to be followers of Jesus Christ.Think about it for a moment. The Bible presents God as a righteous, holy, judging, wrathful, deity. In the Old Testament this God was unapproachable except by a  few chosen people. People who got too close wound up dead. … [Read more...]

It’s a New Year, and it’s Going to be Perfect (Because I Said So)

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by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like Mine originally posted on 12-27-13 It's a couple days after Christmas and we are about to come into the New Year. I don't know about you but it's about this time of year where I start to feel an urge to plan for next year, and all the awesome things I am going to do, how much self change I want to set out to attain and how this New Year will be perfect. Cue the obsessive scrolling of Pinterest and creating boards and New Years resolutions left and right. I think "oh won't this be wonderful" and get a sort of New Years resolution happiness spike that will eventually result in a crash, burn and lots of tears. Perhaps even a wallop o … [Read more...]


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