Day 4 of 21 Days of Healing: Reclaiming Your Power Part 3

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid for the Lord is my strength and my song; He also has become my salvation.” Is 12:2,3 Day 4: The balance of power. … [Read more...]

Day 3 of 21 Days of Healing: Reclaiming Your Own Power Part 2

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsIf you are following the 21 Days of Healing, please remember to continue to work on changing your brain. You will want to continue to replace the messages that your abusers gave you by focusing on the truth of what God has to say about you and your relationship with Him. “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” Jeremiah 31:3 … [Read more...]

“You’re Supposed to be Creating An Army For God”

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A new article about NLQ founder Vyckie Garrison from Good Magazine!One woman’s courageous struggle to be more than a “womb man” by Sarah Stankorb In the fall of 2007, Vyckie Garrison’s faith began to crumble. Her fundamentalist Christian beliefs, which had previously encased her in what seemed like an armor of God’s love, had led her to have seven children as a submissive wife, a similar fate as almost every other grown woman in her religious community. She spent her days home schooling her kids and publishing a pro-life Christian newspaper with her husband. So strong was her faith that when she was warned to steer clear of a hippie, nonbelieving uncle, she felt insulted that others tho … [Read more...]

Day 2 of 21 Days of Healing: Reclaim Your Power – Part 1

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsFirst, let me remind you that if you are walking through these 21 Days of Healing, keep working on Day 1. “God loves you with an everlasting love.”Now for Day 2: … [Read more...]

Re-Post: A Mama’s Journey

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live This was originally published June of 2011. I’ve also included an excerpt from a post I wrote the year before that. Words can’t fully explain how life-changing it was for me to begin to see my children as people, not sinful rebellious little beings I must force into compliance. Recognizing that how I was parenting was wrong, forced me to acknowledge that how I was parented had harmed me. My desire to parent my children gently, was the fuel that pushed me to get into counseling and get help for the first time. It’s hard to believe it’s been 5 years since I began the journey of Gentle Parenting. … [Read more...]

Re-Post: Rights of a Child

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To LiveThis post was originally published August 2011. It was part of my reaction to Michael Farris’ creating a “parent’s rights” amendment and proposing to amend our constitution. It was a big realization for me that the parent is not sacred, that they do not always know what is best for their child, and sometimes they need help. It helped me to take a step toward freedom from the weight of my parents expectations of me, and also help me be less afraid of acknowledging my own shortcomings as a parent, and be less afraid to get help and learn more. … [Read more...]

Why the Homeschooling Movement Was So Frightening

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by Lana Hope originally posted on her blog Wide Open Ground on Oct. 4, 2014 The stories on Homeschoolers Anonymous have been more triggering for me lately. HA is hosting a series called “It hurts me more than you.” Then today Cynthia Jeub, a daughter of a well-known homeschool family with 16 children,shared her story of the abuse she and her siblings have received, and still are receiving. … [Read more...]

Appreciation Rant

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by Kaleesh Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (And Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsThe full quote is, "The woman who serves unnoticed and un-thanked is a woman who loves God more than she desires the praise of others. She is confident that all her unnoticed deeds on earth are noticed in Heaven. She is satisfied knowing she has pleased her Lord."A believing friend sent me this meme, expressing her frustration with this aspect of religion. It rather burns me, too. Just yesterday I was doing something benign for Denny and he thanked me, quite sincerely. Then he paused thoughtfully and, with much emotion, expressed how sad it made him to think of all the years I and the … [Read more...]

Journal Entry, April 1, 2010

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsIf you’ve ever wondered what goes on inside the head of a person who is mired in spiritual abuse, this is an example. It is an entry from the journal that I would take to church and write in during services. This entry is from Maundy Thursday, April 1, 2010. I sat in the very back pew and observed the service. I could not participate. As you will see, I was convinced that God had completely rejected me because of the way the leadership had been treating me for about a decade. This journal entry documents the level to which spiritual abuse had taken me. As the leaders and congregation moved through the service, this is what I wrote: … [Read more...]

Part 3 – Navigating the Justice System: As a Young Adult

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist In Spite Of ThemPlease see also Navigating the Justice System Part 1: Alone at Age 9 and Navigating the Justice System: When my Parents Went to CourtWhen I was about 17, I moved out. Once it was truly clear to me that what happened in my home was abusive and not normal I decided to try to end the abuse for everyone. I started making regular calls to Children's Aid on my father. … [Read more...]


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