True Love Loves The Unlovely

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by Suzanne Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeThe chapter of Libby Anne's review of Debi Pearl's "Created To Be His Help Meet" I posted yesterday at NLQ: 'The Tale of the Purple Flowers PJ Girl' triggered me badly this morning. So much of it was utter ridiculous twaddle, the crap that if you actually believe it will wreak havoc with your relationships. It would take me days to point out everything wrong with Debi's points if I were to break it down.But the biggest lie that jumped out at me was this: … [Read more...]

Why it is Hard to Be Around Christianity and Christians

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMy friend Zoe wrote: …Some in the secular world want to cooperate with moderates &/or liberal-minded theists.  I think it’s probably a noble thing to attempt.  The thing is, for me, and likely for many others it reminds me of playing skip at recess time with a bully.  The bully has chased you for years, kicked you in the gut and hoped you’d burn in hell, and will be waiting to do it to you all over again after school . . . but it’s okay to skip at recess time with the bully… … [Read more...]

Ryan Bell and the Pursuit of Knowledge

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by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog Whisper Collector(Editorial Note: Here are a few links you have not heard of Ryan Bell and his column/project at The Huffington Post  He was the pastor of Hollywood Adventist Church and now he's in trouble with the Seventh Day Adventist officials)I think the pursuit of knowledge is always beneficial. It doesn't matter how you came to the decision that it is time to reflect and read about view points different from your own. So what that Ryan Bell is writing a book to document his process? I wish I could go back in time and tell myself to do the same thing.How can I capture the emotion I felt at reading Carl Sagan's eloquent … [Read more...]

Mom’s Cycle Was on the Family Calender

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundI did not realize it was a homeschool thing. Or just a conservative thing. Or unique to some families.I thought almost every man er family tracked mom’s cycle, and all the daughter’s cycles too.Libby Anne recently wrote a post on Charting Your (Wife’s) Monthy Cycle. Here’s what she says: [Michael Pearl] recently advised young husbands to track their wives’ cycles so they would know in advance when their wives were … [Read more...]

Ken Ham, Answers in Genesis, Dinosaurs and the SIN of Smoking

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way Forward(Editorial note: Those that might post comments here to Bruce suggesting spiritual things should read this first, another excellent post by Bruce.)Recently, our youngest son moved out and he left behind some trading cards for our grandson. He had hundreds of trading cards, including some from Answers in Genesis. I am not sure how old these card are, but I suspect they are at least 15 years old. I did not know these cards were in the box and my oldest son found them when he was going through them with our grandson.  We had a lot of fun … [Read more...]

It’s Been a Good Year

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons I started blogging in the early part of this year mostly because I was bored to tears. I was working on getting editing jobs, but they were few and far between, and my health just doesn’t allow for outside-the-house employment. I also started writing here because I wanted to finally say out loud a lot of the things that had been slowly germinating over the past four or five years but had never been in a place where I felt capable of expressing them. … [Read more...]

Differentiation and Emotional Cut-Offs

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemMurray Bowen's theories on differentiation of self, and emotional cut-offs provide an excellent lens for viewing the complex relationships that exist between family members who were raised in quiverfull and Christian patriarchal families, where the family roles are artificially skewed by religious influence and the necessity for sibling-parenting due to sheer numbers in the family. … [Read more...]

An Average Homeschooler: Introduction

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons  [me, the first year I was homeschooled]   I’ve been avoiding writing about this. Even once I started planning out the series, I debated with myself for weeks over whether or not I wanted to write it out– and then post it. I’ve talked a lot about some of the other aspects of growing up in fundamentalism, but I’ve avoided talking about my experience with homeschooling for a few reasons. I’ve touched on it a few times, and I’ve even written posts for Homeschoolers Anonymous and for Leaving Fundamentalism. Even as I wrote those posts, I was hesitant about sharing them here, although I did eventually. … [Read more...]

When “Respect” Involves “Disgust”

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy Feminism and Homeschoolers AnonymousGrowing up in a conservative evangelical home, I believed that we were the ones who truly respected women. I believed that our young men—the young men in my homeschooling community—were being raised to treat the women around them, of whatever age, with respect.I was wrong, very, very wrong. … [Read more...]

True Love Doesn’t Wait

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by Rosie Franklin cross posted from her blog Disrupting Dinner PartiesTrigger warning- Christian virginity/purity culture throughout (which is absolutely not sarcasm as a trigger warning). __________________Also, I told you not to read this, Mom._______________ I talked a bit Tuesday about how I lost my virginity, in my post on rape culture. I sort of mentioned but didn’t go into detail about the fact that the loss of my virginity was somewhat emotionally unmooring for me, in addition to the manner in which I “lost” it being awful. So today I’m going to talk about what I was taught about sex and virginity. … [Read more...]


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