Fundamentalist Flashbacks

by Jonny Scaramanga cross posted from his blog Leaving Fundamentalism(Editor's note: Welcome Jonny to NLQ and the SASBN! We're glad to have you here!)I recently woke up in the middle of the night, gripped by a sudden panic. What if I’m wrong?If I’m wrong, I’m going to hell.I’ve spent the last several years campaigning to raise public awareness of fundamentalist Christian schools that I consider abusive. I went to such a school myself, so I have a dog in this fight. If what they taught me is true, then I have spent these years fighting against God himself. … [Read more...]

Feeling Empathy for Christian Patriarchy Parents & Leaders

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyI did a couple things I never expected to do yesterday. I had a thought-provoking conversation that left me thinking about how it is easy to decide that someone is an enemy, a jerk, a selfish person. It is easy to determine that people are unworthy, undeserving, maybe even unclean. It is easy for them to decide that about you too. … [Read more...]

Class, College, and Courtship: Why the next generation of Quiverfull will probably be poorer than their parents

by The Graduate I think that part of the reason that our family was never really considered true homeschoolers by some of our peers is because we had money.  My dad is a brilliant businessman, and his success certainly did drive a wedge between us and our peers, and we were always viewed as different.  It is true that we did the same things to save money that other homeschool families did, but we did them as our hobbies, not out of necessity.  We never struggled with making the mortgage or worried about our cars breaking down. … [Read more...]

Self Preservation and Mental Health

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemIn my last post, I made a brief mention of how living in a state of survival affected my mental health. I thought it would be a good idea to expand on this issue, because in my opinion it is the crux of why having quiverfull families and homeschooling in chaos is abusive to the children involved.As I have mentioned before, doing something that causes harm to your child is abusive regardless of your intentions or religious justification. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part Six

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons This is the final post in this series. I wanted to thank everyone who’s been reading and commenting for your support and encouragement as I put all of this into writing– very public writing. I also wanted to note, again, that everything I’ve written here is merely my story– I’m not expecting to convince anyone, merely explain why I’ve changed my mind on this issue so totally. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part Five

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons I puzzled over yarek naphal for days– I dug through commentary after commentary, through lexicons, through concordances, through history books– and what I found was frustrating. Of the people who bothered to remark on what yarek naphal meant, most seemed comfortable assuming that “thigh to rot” was a euphemism for miscarriage– but no one said why. It was usually a short phrase, perhaps a sentence, and then the commentary would move on to explanations why this ritual appeared in Numbers. Exasperated, I ranted for a bit on twitter, and one of my amazing readers, Jennifer, directed me to some resources I am ashamed to say I hadn’t tho … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part Four

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons  I stared at what I’d typed into Google. The blinking cursor was silent, patient, waiting for me to hit enter.   Verses in the Bible about abortion.   Blink. Blink. Blink. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part Three

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsThis is simply my story of how I became pro-choice. I’m not writing this to convince anyone– it was a journey that took years, and what convinced me may not convince anyone else. I believe that writing my story for you is important; in all the reading I did during those years, I only found one person who was willing to explain what she had been through. Hearing her story helped me process what I was going through. I hope it does the same for someone else. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part 2

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons For this series, I’m going to be monitoring the comments a little more closely than I ordinarily do. I haven’t gotten any comments that I’ve needed to moderate, yet, but I am discussing an incredibly charged issue. I will not tolerate any personal attacks– on me or anyone else. Also, I am not really writing this series to convince anyone. This series is about my story– the road I traveled that brought me to this point. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters: Part 1

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons trigger warning for rape and abortion My heart was in my throat, my fingers floating over the refresh button on my twitter feed. I was curled up under a gigantic down-alternative comforter, huddled under the half-tent I’d made on the floor of my bathroom. Hours went by as I watched what was happening– the strikes, the interruptions. In the last few minutes I joined with thousands of other voices shouting and screaming, a cacophonous din stretching over the internet, across twitter mentions and live feeds. Together, we watched the underhanded attempt at deceiving an entire country of watching people. … [Read more...]


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