Self Preservation and Mental Health

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemIn my last post, I made a brief mention of how living in a state of survival affected my mental health. I thought it would be a good idea to expand on this issue, because in my opinion it is the crux of why having quiverfull families and homeschooling in chaos is abusive to the children involved.As I have mentioned before, doing something that causes harm to your child is abusive regardless of your intentions or religious justification. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part Six

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons This is the final post in this series. I wanted to thank everyone who’s been reading and commenting for your support and encouragement as I put all of this into writing– very public writing. I also wanted to note, again, that everything I’ve written here is merely my story– I’m not expecting to convince anyone, merely explain why I’ve changed my mind on this issue so totally. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part Five

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons I puzzled over yarek naphal for days– I dug through commentary after commentary, through lexicons, through concordances, through history books– and what I found was frustrating. Of the people who bothered to remark on what yarek naphal meant, most seemed comfortable assuming that “thigh to rot” was a euphemism for miscarriage– but no one said why. It was usually a short phrase, perhaps a sentence, and then the commentary would move on to explanations why this ritual appeared in Numbers. Exasperated, I ranted for a bit on twitter, and one of my amazing readers, Jennifer, directed me to some resources I am ashamed to say I hadn’t tho … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part Four

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons  I stared at what I’d typed into Google. The blinking cursor was silent, patient, waiting for me to hit enter.   Verses in the Bible about abortion.   Blink. Blink. Blink. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part Three

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsThis is simply my story of how I became pro-choice. I’m not writing this to convince anyone– it was a journey that took years, and what convinced me may not convince anyone else. I believe that writing my story for you is important; in all the reading I did during those years, I only found one person who was willing to explain what she had been through. Hearing her story helped me process what I was going through. I hope it does the same for someone else. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters Part 2

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons For this series, I’m going to be monitoring the comments a little more closely than I ordinarily do. I haven’t gotten any comments that I’ve needed to moderate, yet, but I am discussing an incredibly charged issue. I will not tolerate any personal attacks– on me or anyone else. Also, I am not really writing this series to convince anyone. This series is about my story– the road I traveled that brought me to this point. … [Read more...]

Ordeal of the Bitter Waters: Part 1

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons trigger warning for rape and abortion My heart was in my throat, my fingers floating over the refresh button on my twitter feed. I was curled up under a gigantic down-alternative comforter, huddled under the half-tent I’d made on the floor of my bathroom. Hours went by as I watched what was happening– the strikes, the interruptions. In the last few minutes I joined with thousands of other voices shouting and screaming, a cacophonous din stretching over the internet, across twitter mentions and live feeds. Together, we watched the underhanded attempt at deceiving an entire country of watching people. … [Read more...]

Racism, Colorblindness and Me

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by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's Words"Stop staring!  What's the matter with you?"I was about six years old, living in a smallish town in Colorado.  One Sunday afternoon we went to a park in a nearby larger town.  An African-American family had also brought their children to the park, and they were playing on the children's play equipment.My eyes were riveted.  I couldn't look away. … [Read more...]

Interviewing Vaughn Ohlman Part 1

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by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeA few months ago I decided that I needed to interview Vaughn Ohlman of True Love Doesn't Wait. I wanted to know how he was coming up with his interpretations of scripture to support young marriage and young motherhood. I've read those same scriptures many times over and not come up with the same meanings.Shot off an email to Vaughn asking if he might just let me interview him for NLQ and he agreed. The ground rules were that I would ask no personal questions nor add or detract from his replies.Which made coming up with the first set of questions nearly impossible as I wanted to ask background questions, not to dig up dirt … [Read more...]

The Psychological Cost of not Being Provided For

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By Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemChildren not getting what they want certainly does not constitute child maltreatment, and historically isn't uncommon. The societal construct of childhood has changed several times in last few centuries, with ebbs and flows in the level of freedoms, rights, and responsibilities children have at various … [Read more...]


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